So another argument (yes, again) I've encountered. I told someone I didn't think I'll have children in the future nor do I want to. So in response this person said, "How do you know you won't want to have children in the future?" I don't know, but as of right now these are my feelings. Also, I just don't think I'll be a good parent. While talking, the girls around me acted like what I was saying was unreasonable. As if they couldn't believe their ears.

"Why wouldn't you want kids? what would you do when you get old?"
OMG JUST WHAT WOULD I DO??? Play with my iCane or something -____-"""
"but that's soo......"
Empty?
"yeah"

Apparently my life is meaningless if I don't bear children. My life is not centered around having kids, that's not what I envision for my future, and I don't believe that's my sole purpose in life. I know it's not as close minded as I'm making it out to be, but it's either you want to, or you don't. ...and I don't. So what I got was "yeah, but still......" It seems to me that people think: you can get an education, get a job, and achieve all your dreams, find your soul mate ...but you better have kids in the end, because that's just how it is

It's not pointless as long as you have money and lots of men.

All my friends and some of my siblings have kids. Compared to them I have more time for hobbies, fewer restrictions, more disposable income, less aggravation. When I mention being able to spend a couple hours reading and then a couple more hours cycling, they just stare at me like I told them I could fly and had a pile of gold in my basement.

Of course not. There are other things to do in life besides raising an offspring. Some people don't even have children and their happy with their lives.

Well childless men will have the same problems as childless women.

You hear of men dying old and alone here with no-one finding them for a good while every so often. Usually farmers.

And just because you have kids doesn't mean they will stick around.

And you can look after other people's kids as a creche owner or childminder without having any of your own.

Life is meaningless anyway. Everyone is only here because your mother chose (or was forced) to give birth. You don't ask for it, you just get it. Make of it what you will.

I've gotten the same crap about refusing to have more children. I really wanted the one I have, and after years of trying finally succeeded. I don't want more because I am very happy just like this. I refuse to listen to strangers tell me shit like, "You can't have just one child" and "You never know how many kids you'll have". Actually, kids aren't potato chips - you CAN stop with one, and there is an entire field of medicine dedicated to controlling how many children you have.

I know plenty of people who never wanted kids, didn't have kids, and won't ever have kids. They're all perfectly happy right now, and they all have more money and free time than me, which they use to go to the gym and keep their undamaged bodies looking good. There are plenty of other things to do in life that don't revolve around getting married and having children.

Man, that's really dumb.

@Flyindumpling. No, life will not be pointless if you don't have any kids. You make you own meaning in your own life. Forget what other people think. Look inside you and ask yourself, "What do I want?". Fuck the brainwashed society.

The decision to have kids or not to is always up to you. Your choices always change and so does your point of view on things. There were many things I said I'd never do but ended up doing them years later.

Do what you want cause thats what matters forget what others try and force on you. But you never know one day you might find someone who will change that idea you have.

No. Not everyone needs to be parents also. >:3

You learn. You ask questions. You laugh. You cry. You fall in love. You fall out of love. You hurt. You feel pleasure. These are philosophical things. Having children is merely biological. Since we are animals, biological things apply to us to. But being human, having human faculties of reason, philosophical things make us special. Philosophical things make our existence meaningful.

You're fine. The world is already burdened by so many people needing and taking resources.

There's more to life than spreading your legs.

Why do you not want to have kids? Is it because you think that it will out-shadow your other purposes in life or because you think you won't make a good parent?

I had that same mentality too maybe I don't want to have kids or be married fro that matter. On another note related to this when I was younger I had ALWAYS been at peace with the fact that Id die because it's inevitable and I thought it silly to be unreasonable over it. However, as I got older many things happened including someone dear to me passing (one of those people that you're so close to that although you know all people have to go you'd never wanted to believe it could happen to this person regardless how childish it may sound you want to keep & be with them always.) ,

at this point I started feeling very uneasy, fearful even. I thought to myself ,
"Even if I'm unable to accomplish all my goals or even if I do I still wouldn't be at peace with leaving."

but then I thought
"I think I'd be at peace if I got to give life; it's such a selfless act."

I smiled at that "A life for a life, a legacy to leave behind." I immediately felt at peace afterwards. If nothin' else if I'm unable to make my mark and I'm forgotten at least I'll be leaving a piece of myself behind that will continue to grow.....unless they get banished or massacred Sometimes I think how I could have ever said I didn't want kids I love children! always have it's weird

There's nothing wrong with not wanting to have kids. If I ever wanted kids I'd probably adopt as there are so many children out there already with nobody to take care of or love them.

good. good for you, children are horrible, they'll ruin your life.