It's too much work that I'm not willing to put in and I know I won't be a good parent

I think it's pretty selfish to have kids, just to have kids.

I don't think anyone needs to have kids to have a meaning to life. Some people are perfectly happy without them. Personally though I'd love to have a kid or two if I met the right woman in the future. Maybe I'm just at that point in life where I'm ready to settle down and start a family.

Could do with people that worry about things like that, perfectionist? You will definitely be a good parent if you have kids then :D.

Is a woman’s life pointless without children?
>>> No way.
We have over 7 billion people on this Earth (this number is expected to rise exponentially by 2030), we don't really need more for a while, we have so many people that China has to implement a one-child policy.

You know what I think is really pointless and stupid? When irresponsible people have children. People who smoke while pregnant or smoke around their children or never feed them properly--what is the point of bringing a life into this world if you can't take care of it properly?

Or people who have children just because society dictates them to even though they can't stand the sight of children... those are parents who make bad parents.


I don't ever want children either, I don't see how my life is going to be meaningless without them. I probably won't get married either... for some people marriage is such a big deal... it's not. You have to live by your rules, not by society's rules... otherwise you're going to have one gigantic headache at the end of your journey.

I don't think it is, its matter of how a woman look the meaning of life is.

I heard some silly old woman the other day claim that people who don't become parents are selfish, because they are incapable of putting themselves before others...

Yeah, just so put yourself before the whole planet, because we so desperately need your genes.

I believe Monty Python said it best with the statement, "You come from nothing you're going back to nothing. What have you lost? Nothing!"

Life has no meaning beyond what we decide for ourselves, personally i'd sooner sever my right thumb than have kids.

I know personally I don't want to have kids, ever. I've never felt like I've wanted them, and that hasn't changed. It's not that I'm too busy, I know I can't be the parent that I think a child should have.

If people want to have kids then that's great, I don't want that job, but don't turn around and tell someone else how 'empty' or 'meaningless' their life is because they chose not to have them.

I guess I've been fortunate though because none of my friends have kids, even though some of them are married, nor do they want kids, and my mom doesn't ever give me any crap about not producing a grandchild for her dote on. Although that could be because the grandchild my sister popped out... how do I put this nicely... lets see... her "personality" is big enough to fill in for at least a few extra grandchildren all at once.

I totally agreed with what you said, so much that I decide to use it to fit a little bit of what I thought LOL

Life is never point less

Honestly, your 19.Lots can change. Its not wrong to feel that you don't want to have kids, but that does not mean you can't change your mind in the future. If it happens, it happens. Its pointless to worry about it now since if you actually do end up having kids, you will have changed in ways you are not able to currently envision. There are tons of people who are happy and have no kids, and there are tons of people who are unhappy because they did not have kids. Conversely, there are tons of people who are unhappy because they had kids, and tons who are happy because they had kids. At the end of the day only you know whats best for you, so who cares what others think?

I think some people form a bit of a delusion regarding parenthood, and how "good" they'll be as parents, even if the reality never sets in for them. To anyone who has ever thought or said something along the lines of, "I'll have this perfect child, and they'll give me unconditional love, and we'll always be happy, etc." I would say the following:

"How did you treat YOUR parents when you were a kid? Did you get far away from them and on your own the moment you could? How do you treat them NOW, as an adult? Combine all that at its worst, and then expect worse treatment for you from the next generation."

That's probably not going to be the worst case scenario for most parents, but I certainly wish my ex wife had asked herself those questions, because the expectations she had were beyond unreasonable. (The thoughts I listed in the first paragraph describe her mindset toward the idea of parenthood, almost verbatim.) There are a lot of people that mentally just aren't ready to be parents, and if they recognize that, so much the better. Hell, some of them know they won't ever be ready, and it's better for any potential kids that they stay away from the idea...unless their mindset changes. In the meantime, there are people even less fit to be having kids, having them for selfish reasons. Clown Car...err, Octomom, anyone?

I look at it this way: Plenty of parents look forward to kicking their kids out at 18 (or earlier, in some cases) but then expect (or hope) their kids will look after them when they grow old. How often does that actually happen? More often, the parents will end up spending the rest of their days in a skilled nursing facility, because their kids are too busy, unable, or outright unwilling to look after their care. I'll admit that cycle of selfishness frustrates me at times, since I'm taking care of a bed-bound parent as I type this...but most people wouldn't make that choice.

The idea that one is expected to have children in their lifetime is completely ridiculous. I don't plan on having kids for reasons I'd rather not express and not everyone wants to go about their life fitting into the norm just because it's expected.

Good for you! Just because you can does't mean you should. GayAsianBoy is right in saying that too many children are born to irresponsible, uncaring parents and we already have a global overpopulation problem.

You are not obligated to have children just because you are capable, and you are not a bad person for desiring to retain your individuality and autonomy by staying childless. I wish more people were willing to be as responsible and conscientious as you.

Lol what. xD