That group of people doesn't represent everyone's opinion and far from any sort of baseline opinion either...
I have plenty of friends who doesn't want kids and they don't get questioned for that.

I could even go as far as saying that it's what our goverment want us to desire.
An education, productive citizen that shuts up, pops out offspring so that the cycle can repeat it self, but I guess it all depends on how you look at things.

then keep your mouth shut.
You'll be less inclined to think you're tougher than you actually are
e-thug. What's funny is you yourself make derogatory statements about Walmart
yet you play the captain save a hoe position if it's someone else. You sit there with your
own hypocritical statements when you yourself have assumed things
from the beginning. You don't know me so you're assumptions of me are wrong.
You're an ant compared to the things I've already accomplished in my life.

Let me ask you, did you work on something that had a Oscar awarded to it?
Well I did, you're a child compared to me.

I just took it easy on you kiddo.

I get pressure from family and friends from time to time about having kids, and media has pressure built in along with an idealized vision of being a parent. But that doesn't mean a woman's life has no meaning if she has no kids. I'm a firm believer in "just because you can doesn't mean that you should".

I had decided a long time ago that I would probably not have kids, and now that I'm older I am back and forth on the subject. I actually think I would be capable of raising a child pretty well at this point. But in the end I decide that I most likely will not for a few reasons. The biggest of which is that I'm still selfish in some ways.

For example, my friends at work were all talking about if they were pregnant and they knew their baby would be disabled, they would still have the child and do what they had to do. They would be OK with it. If I knew I was going to have a disabled child I can't say that I would be OK with it. I know from experience that having a child with special needs puts a lot of stress on the whole family, including the child in question, and I can't say I'd want to put everyone through that. So with this, I consider myself too selfish to even try.

Some people give the reason that having a child will insure someone will care for you when you are old. There is no guarantee that your child will be there for you when you are old. They'll have their own lives when they are adults. Who is to say they will be in a position to help you when they are older? Who can guarantee your child will outlive you? No one can, and it's not enough reason to convince me.

There are more reasons but this post is already too long I think some people have children simply to give their lives instant meaning, however that is not the only way that you can give your life meaning! Like many have already said before, life is what you make it. Don't succumb to societal pressure to do what they want you to, do what you feel is right for you.

At 12 I was thinking about making money (babysitting) to buy candy, junk food & music.... and I still played with toys.....but that was back in 1983.

Well I did that too, I spent pretty much all my time thinking about how to save up for a really nice cricket bat and such, but I'm not going to pretend I wasn't curious about wtf was happening to me. Peaking at other people when your getting changed for sport, first crushes, bizarre thoughts that come from nowhere. It's all totally natural during puberty, and I would say the worst thing we can do as adults is make those kids feel like their thoughts or emotions are wrong

Whoever thinks not having children makes your life pointless is silly. I know people who are living perfectly fine without children or without being married even. It's not pointless. Sure they'll say it's boring and all, especially when you're much older, but they still say they enjoyed not having the ties.

Also, anyone who takes having children as a NEGATIVE is silly. Honestly, I want to have children some day. Sure, I'm scared shit less of not being good for them, especially since I have some shitty parents (and no that's not some "o i h8 my parents wah wah" shit. I love my dad, but he wasn't very good), but I know I want to try and at least make my children happy I was there.

So, neither idea is silly. It just depends on the person.

It is more than the word responsibility can handle. I thought about that myself. When I find someone to be together what would I do?
I said for years ago. ''I am not the type to marry'', ''I don't want childrens'', ''I only want to spend my life with her''.
If I marry I would set limits to myself right? If I get childrens I get lesser time with my dear one. Ugh, by thinking about it makes conflicts in my heart. I heard about how nice it must be to have a children too. If it works those couples might bond themselves even more. It is just feelings I cannot understand but I can imagine it somehow. For now I just don't wanna space too far in my past or future it just makes me sad and lonely. I want to do the best out of things right now. I live right now typing on my keaboard on this computer on CR. Yesterday has become memories that I want to keep. It isn't pointless without children. Depends on the situation and such. My father and mother both had lots of troubles so that's why they could not raise me properly. I am not mad at them in anyway. My dad is gone anyway and my mom needs my company. If they did not meet in 1987 I would never been born and that I don't even wanna talk about. I treasure my life regardless my past because I come this far. They have my thanks.

''We did not choose to come to this world but we can choose what we want to be''

Well I did that too, I spent pretty much all my time thinking about how to save up for a really nice cricket bat and such, but I'm not going to pretend I wasn't curious about wtf was happening to me. Peaking at other people when your getting changed for sport, first crushes, bizarre thoughts that come from nowhere. It's all totally natural during puberty, and I would say the worst thing we can do as adults is make those kids feel like their thoughts or emotions are wrong


I didn't have any of those thoughts until high school. It probably varies from person to person, generation to generation, and culture to culture. I would say that the worst thing that an adult could do is not teach a child right from wrong.......that's how society today has gotten so violent & immoral.

no

That's a loss when you get 15 and never even thought about it or tried it. Happened to me. No wonder people are getting depressed.
No one told me about exploring yourself and such. At that time it didn't even cross my mind doing it on myself. I was too straigthforward.
Just wanted to try it with someone. The thoughts did not drive much from there as I saw no other way of doing it. An overload of hyperactivity and depression triggered a mental outbreak I believe have most natural causes. Simply put in one sentence as
''A troubled life without any will to live'' This and lack of sleep throughout you childhood, youth and adult might trigger severe consequences.

You don't have to raise children, you don't have to get married, you don't have to get an education, and you don't even have to get a job. Being happy with mediocrity is certainly possible.

It's just a question of what achievements you're willing to work for in your lifetime. Most of society will merely advise us to make use of our lives to get educated, get productive, marry a good man or woman, and raise good children. A list of simple achievements to consider if we find ourselves wanting to be challenged in our life.

There are nothing you must in this world. It is more like what you want based upon you and the situation. You choose to be alone, then so be it. You choose be with friends, so be it. You choose to become rich, then so be it. You choose to acquire ''perfect power'' so be it.


I just want some peace and quiet and leave this world without any regrets

There's no problem being a surrogate if you choose to not have children, right?

For all you girls out there not planning on having any children, I strongly suggest you never listen to any Barry White or Marvin Gaye... thats pure baby-makin music right there, you might not be able to resist it, I know I can't...

How can they get pregnant from listening to music?