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Bashment wrote:


what's the prob? you both look like handsome young fellas sirs


Haha thanks, I don't really see it though and I don't think many women do either (me not src44s). Still I know that doesn't matter much as I see guys just as ugly as me with girlfriends all the time, just got to get over my stupid shyness.
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I'm single! Was in a relationship, but it didn't last very long at all. A few weeks. There is someone I like now though. Not the same guy~
Sad thing about that is that he lives in a different state!
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Dear gawd that gif....
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Em0SceneStabr wrote:

........wow everyone is allowed to do as they choose, and i'm not criticizing the way you think. But thinking that way only works if both people know that they are/aren't in/not in a relationship. If one person cares more about it than the other there the weaker person.... because the person that doesn't care at all and does what they want is just "there" to be "there" while the other person might feel that there is something more, like there love is mutual.........


I think you misunderstand me. You seem to think that love can only be quantified by those stupid labels.. That if one is not "officially" labeled as being in a relationship then there's no love. That because I do whatever I want and refuse to label myself as being single or in a relationship, I am not in love with anyone.

Well, the truth is that there is in fact someone whom I love...
Am I his gf? No.
Do I care? No.
Do I want to be his gf? Not really.
Why? Because what we have right now, whatever the hell you want to call it, is enough for me. I don't care what I am to him, I'll love him just the same. THAT is, in my honest opinion, LOVE. Labels are just for show. I don't care about other people and what they think or how they see our relationship. It's what I feel that's important. I don't need for anyone to know what he is to me or what I am to him. That's none of their business. I'll love him because I want to... I don't need to be his gf or his wife or whatever else to do that...

That's why I think labels are stupid... And that's what I mean when I say I do whatever I want....


But do you care if he sleeps with other people?

I've met people in my past who don't care for labeling their relationships but when they're asked this question many say yes and their usually the ones who love their lover. A lot of people can deal with not labelling things as long as they are "exclusive". Most of the people who've said they don't care are just looking for someone better but don't want to be alone till they do.

Personally I'd never be with anyone who wouldn't even want to call me theirs and vice versa.
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Single. I am defensive.
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Haven't had many boyfriends. After my ex I decided that it's better being single. Yes a relationship can be nice, but it's not for me at the moment
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But do you care if he sleeps with other people?

I've met people in my past who don't care for labeling their relationships but when they're asked this question many say yes and their usually the ones who love their lover. A lot of people can deal with not labelling things as long as they are "exclusive". Most of the people who've said they don't care are just looking for someone better but don't want to be alone till they do.

Personally I'd never be with anyone who wouldn't even want to call me theirs and vice versa.


I've actually been faced with this reality.. Because he did have a gf at one time... and everything I believed I knew and understood about myself was somewhat put to the test... Long story short: It hurt like hell because I realized that I actually cared.. He disappeared from my life and there was an empty space that I couldn't seem to fill no matter what I did or who I met.. But you know what I realized then? No matter how hard I tried, I could not hate him or change how I felt... I loved him, that was a fact. And so, I stopped fighting myself... I just let things go. I realized that I was hurting myself more by denying how I felt and forcing myself to forget him or hate him or whatever... So what I did was I did nothing. I continued with my life because that's what's important. I just let things unfold by itself. Whatever happens, happens.. And most of the time things always work out in the end (and it did).

As long as I stay true to myself, I have no worries. He has his own life, I have mine. He can do whatever he wants... Because I do the same. It's just that I choose to keep loving him. But I guess I can understand that everyone is different. Not everyone can be as passive as I am.
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Posted 2/13/13
just living in the moment~

it once entailed being single; now it's a relationship w/ someone i deeply care for.

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In a relationship.

I have been married for 5 years now and can't think of my life without my hubby now.
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Posted 2/13/13

MountainMew wrote:

Isn't this already a thread somewhere? I swear it is. Maybe I'm just remembering the millions of "single" and "relationship" threads.
Well, I don't really think either is better or worse than the other. I don't really care for either, I just want to be around people and be happy. I have no real desire to be in a relationship, nor do I actively think to myself "Wow, I sure do want to be single because screw relationships!"


I thought the same thing when I saw this thread. Even went to make sure the other thread was still active and, of course, it still is.---> Here<---No idea why this thread hasn't been deleted.
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All through high school I was quite a love obsessed loser...but I've kinda changed views

Nowadays:
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demongurrl13 wrote:


Goomoonryong wrote:


But do you care if he sleeps with other people?

I've met people in my past who don't care for labeling their relationships but when they're asked this question many say yes and their usually the ones who love their lover. A lot of people can deal with not labelling things as long as they are "exclusive". Most of the people who've said they don't care are just looking for someone better but don't want to be alone till they do.

Personally I'd never be with anyone who wouldn't even want to call me theirs and vice versa.


I've actually been faced with this reality.. Because he did have a gf at one time... and everything I believed I knew and understood about myself was somewhat put to the test... Long story short: It hurt like hell because I realized that I actually cared.. He disappeared from my life and there was an empty space that I couldn't seem to fill no matter what I did or who I met.. But you know what I realized then? No matter how hard I tried, I could not hate him or change how I felt... I loved him, that was a fact. And so, I stopped fighting myself... I just let things go. I realized that I was hurting myself more by denying how I felt and forcing myself to forget him or hate him or whatever... So what I did was I did nothing. I continued with my life because that's what's important. I just let things unfold by itself. Whatever happens, happens.. And most of the time things always work out in the end (and it did).

As long as I stay true to myself, I have no worries. He has his own life, I have mine. He can do whatever he wants... Because I do the same. It's just that I choose to keep loving him. But I guess I can understand that everyone is different. Not everyone can be as passive as I am.


Its definately not easy to continue loving someone who has hurt you in the past and takes a lot of maturity. For most its just easier to convince themselves that they aren't worthy of your love and hate them. To be honest about how you feel about him depsite your past isn't easy and I respect that. Glad things worked out for you in the end. I don't think your views are wrong/incorrect just that they're not right the right fit for me. When it comes to love I think its natural to be feel possesive and selfish to a certain degree as long as you don't act on those feelings very often and become a controlling tool. If a girl doesn't want to label something between me and her for more than a couple months to me it means that they like me but don't see me as material for anything serious and thus I'm wasting my time.
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src44s wrote:


quaser666 wrote:

I don't like being single but I'm very shy and have below zero confidence.


Same.


Double same.
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Posted 2/13/13

Glowing_Stars wrote:

Single~ Freedom!; lonely
In a relationship~ Someone who care for us; heart shattered.

Which do you guys prefer??? Just askin...


How many "relationship" threads are we going to have on this forum?
Posted 2/13/13

CLarose wrote:

How many "relationship" threads are we going to have on this forum?


Apparently as many as it takes to accommodate the casualties of Valentine's Day...
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