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Do jumping into a new fast relationship last?
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Posted 3/6/13



Thank you, well it just going to take time for me to heal, lot of time, b/c of how much i did care for him, it has been a really long time that i had found a guy i could really care for this much again, and i really was hoping he would had been it, b/c looking is hard and it can sux, also i was hoping that i would not have gone though this part again. was hoping that the looking for a new guy was over and done with. Why is it that the nice ones always end up last with nothing but pain and sadness. i'm sorry that the girl was like that to you, she should had more trust in you, that what you need in this world is trust when it comes to dating, that how it make it work. That was one thing we had was trust that was not an issues we had. btw if you like, you can see my photos, there are pics of us still up, for now i can't get myself to take them down, so you can at least see what we had before it went down hill, just look for my photos that say Tony and me.
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wwe wrote:

If someone goes and finds someone and jumps right into a new relationship that was kinda fast, do they last?


The reason I'm asking is, I went not to long ago to try and work things out with a guy i was dating, try and see if we could go back to bf/gf again. He lives far, so I had to go far to see him, I stay with him for 8 days, well things was great again with us, seem like all was back between us once more, felt like us back to being bf/gf. Had a great trip and week. He even said to me if things stay the same between us in a few months he wanted to take a real trip with me next time. Anyway even after our week, things seem great, up until about last weekend, when i could tell he was not acting right, well I found out yesterday he had found someone else... he said it just happen, the thing I don't understand is how could he find someone so fast? Also how could he do this right after our week and after all seem great with us again?


So yeah b/c he moved onto someone so fast, do this kind of relationship normally last?

how many of you, do you know someone that moved right onto someone else this fast? did it last? what would be the reason for it? What is the longest you think it will last for?


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H49jbunV7W4

basically the reason, but there are false alerts.
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Honestly whether or not a relationship lasts is really on the backs of the people in the relationship. If one or both in the relationship lack commitment, then it's going to be reflected in their behavior. As it was previously pointed out, he may have found it easier to move on because of reason(s) for the relationship falling apart the first time. That said, it's a total prick move to lead a girl on like that and I'd say he deserves a quick baseball bat to the nuts at minimal, lol. You seem to be a very caring and warmhearted person, so I think getting away from someone so easily swayed is probably a god thing for you in the long run. The hard part, as you state, will be reconciling your lingering emotions in the wake of all of this. Don't be afraid to lean on your friends if you need emotional support though, mine have helped me greatly in getting through tough times. :)
Personally I'm a long term relationship kind of guy and I find it impossible to just "find someone new" in much the way a lot of people I see do these days. A close friend of mine recently dumped her old boyfriend for his best friend and the two of them have been together for almost four months now. Hard to say how things will play out in the longer term, but they seem to be much better as a couple than with her previous relationship. Honestly if they both keep working at things, I can't say I could see them breaking up ever. After all, even when I'm hanging out with just one of them they can never shut up about the other, haha. Anywho, that's just my two cents on things.
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There is a reason why relationships last shorter now than ever. Fifty years ago you took it slow and when you married you were expected to be together for life. Now you got a fifty percent chance that you will get divorced within the next ten years. So what changed? Well first, people have learned that you don't have to put up with bad relationships, but its much more than that.

The biggest issue at hand is relationships have always been a gamble because people naturally have problems. You have them and I have them. Just because you align on certain points doesn't mean you are meant for each other. Often the best way to judge someone is not how they treat you, but how they treat the people they hate, because there will come a day when they hate you.

That all said, it is possible that a random new relationship can last, but since it's hard to really judge so quickly you might as well be playing the lottery.
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After reading through the posts here. I think this is some valuable information that I'll keep in mind when I try to find a partner, but even more pressing is that I think my best friend is in this sort of fast relationship, and he's the type to become emotionally scarred if relationships fall through. I must save him!

Or not...
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Probably not. You have to have time to get to know the person to see if the two of you are compatible. I have been with my love for a good 5 years and have been living with him and will marry him this coming Halloween. You have to live with a person for a long time to know if the two of you are really meant to be.
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Depends, for me yes they do but its way better to take thing slow, trust me i've been there a few times.
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Posted 3/7/13 , edited 3/7/13
It really depends on the chemistry the two people share.. That will determine how long it will last..
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I guess it depends. Do they really like each other? Or are their personalities conflicting? I've only done it once... But It didn't last at all. The guy said he was "pressured" into a relationship by his friends. Bulllllshitttt.
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Posted 3/7/13
My answer.just dont do it,it can only end in shouting and tears.^^
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From experience, no.
someone asked me out only after meeting me for a few weeks and only messaging me on facebook.
we broke up after 1 month and 3 days of dating.
Posted 3/7/13
Nope it won't really ~ it will just end quickly .
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Thanks, I'm doing the best that I can right now, just need time to heal, I might been bit better if he did not find someone else so fast, and just spring it on me like that. I'm trying my best not to think to much on it, can be bit hard at times, like still wondering how it happen and why so fast. Anyway in few weeks I be doing better.
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That's a given that it's hard not to think about it. I mean, when you're emotionally invested in someone it is incredibly difficult to let go, but it's probably the most important step in the healing process. The best thing I can recommend is to spend some time with friends if you get lonely or meditate on it, depends on which works better for you. It may be hard to do, but if you do end up thinking about things, try to think of the positive ways the relationship helped you grow as a person. A good general rule is to surround yourself with great people though, because then everyone gets to rub some of their awesome off on everyone else. Stay strong and keep your chin up, you're quite attractive (in both regards) and as long as you carry yourself well, I have no doubt you'll find someone much better. Cheers!
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I moved onto someone else rather quickly once I realised all the negatives of the previous person.
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