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Parents, how do you deal with them?
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Posted 3/13/13
You just ignore them and act like they are not there.
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lol. My dad says the same things to me. He also wants me to get a job and start to learn how to drive. As for how I deal with my parents, I for the most part follow every thing they say. They pay the bills and get the food. but they've never tried to control me as far as telling me what to wear or what I will be doing when I grow up.
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Lock them up in the basement...

No, I'm kidding, I love my parents. Haha.
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They raised you.
Man the fuck up.
Respect them and yourself at the same time.

You're an adult so, settle it like an adult.
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Perhaps this is payback for unruliness you exhibited as a child.
Posted 3/14/13

a619ko wrote:

Lock them up in the basement...

No, I'm kidding, I love my parents. Haha.


They control your every thought
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Posted 3/14/13
Deal with it until you're a parent yourself. They gave birth to you, respect their wishes.
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Nyuboom wrote:

I facepalmed so many times throughout this conversation, my forehead is now hurting.


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LiquidMercury wrote:

Further, in the future when I have kids and they will undoubtedly whine, I'll tell them that when they're older and I'm really old I intend on moving in with them, paying no rent, complain about doing anything, ask for money all the time, leave messes everywhere, and ask that things always be my way.


This is the best response here XD Do this, and you will fix all the problems.

When it comes to parents in general, regardless of age, you just have to remember they do things they feel would be "best" for you. The best option (if they aren't sadistic murder you parents) if to figure out a way to managed them while keeping a calm face. Thus, if you go shopping don't bring them with you unless you plan on being told about things. If you are going out shopping with them for food, obviously they will have their own say in what you eat, they want to see you be strong, and always be so. A sic child concerns most parents (depending on the parent. Mine for example were both worlds, a military like father and a crazy open mother.)

Even when they get annoying, remember that these people brought you into this world, and if they didn't, remember they are the people who taught you to live. In the end, no parent wants to see their kid fail, and other parents just want kids to follow the path they think is right.

In the end, find that balance between listening to them (which makes them happy) and your personal life which makes you happy. They don't have to be "Annoying". Hell, even with dealing with extremely oppressing parents, you can still usually figure out that point they let by. More so as you get older, if you cook and such, just remember that your the one cooking, so ask them kindly to leave the kitchen while you cook, or take your turn too. if they complain about the food, they can make their own.

Just stuff like that. Though some parents never see their kids as grown up, and though this may see annoying, you just have to keep in mind it's because they love you alot and all that stuff
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Posted 3/14/13
I didn't have to deal with them as my father left when I was young and my mother kicked me out of the house at 17.
But lol, to answer your questions, simply have a talk with them.
Make them know that they have raised you well and that they should trust the son they have raised.
They should, and must, trust your own choices.

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hopfly wrote:


DeckardXLeah wrote:


That is correct I still live at home, and make payments on this house. My parents are retired now and I need to take care of them. It comes with being Asian. Just one of those responsibility we Asians have to live with.


You're the first Asian I've ever heard bitching about it.



op girl here, heh? ;p she did some serious face smacking to the guy
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If you really are 26, don't you think you are a little too old to be living with your mum and dad?
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i let my mom get her daily bitch in, cause if not she would die of oxygen deficiency.
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Nyuboom wrote:


DeckardXLeah wrote:


Nyuboom wrote:

Doesn't matter what they say. You're the one in control.





HAHAHAHAHA ROFL

you must not be Asian. you are lucky you can choose how you live your life.


Damn, why do you laugh at people who give you advice. You're fucking 26, grow some balls.


Didn't need to read any further than this. I agree completely. Parents, and everyone else for that matter, can only influence your life if you let them.
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I hope my son is as obedient when he is 26 as he is now. Our home is kind of a collaborative autocracy. I'm in charge, but I'm lazy so as long as he fulfills his responsibilities and doesn't break my two cardinal rules (no pregnant girlfriends and no jail time), how he does things is largely left up to him.
But when he is 26 I will be 52, and there is no way that I will be retired at that age, so he won't need to take care of me. As for your parents expecting to obey them until you die, pick your battles wisely. Start with one irrelevant thing to be stubborn about, and sweetly obey everything else until they get accustomed to your refusal. Then you can gradually work in variations to their demands. Eventually they will realize that you can manage yourself and start respecting you as an adult, at which point you will no longer feel like bitching about them in the forums.
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