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Post Reply Should there be or is there an age gap-limit for relationships?
Posted 3/23/13
Well it really depends on their relationship....
Lets say there 15 years apart being the woman is older than the guy
In my opinion that is a problem. It would really be gross if the woman was 60
and the guy is only in his mid 20's...
Well I only prefer a 5 year gap
Posted 3/23/13
The younger you are, the greater the relative age gap exists even with only a few years of difference (as children) and the more difficult it will be to relate about life experiences.

Likewise, the older you get, the smaller the relative lifegap-per-year becomes. Even on a graph it would be asymptotic: Nobody would be very concerned if someone 70 years old married an 85 yr. old. If we could live to be 1,000 years old, there would be practically no outwardly-discernible difference between 950 and 980.
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Posted 3/23/13

Gyava wrote:

When asking this in high school, this question sparked a lot of debate.

Lots of people were saying things like

"Age doesn't matter. Love is love." Others were saying things like "If it's more than 10 years or so, it's sort of weird."

but I know that lots of people have their own opinions on this topic, so I was wondering what those were.

I, personally, think it's fine, but I will admit that it would be a very unnatural sight for me if I saw an eighty year old man dating a 10 year old girl or w/e. Maybe that's too extreme of a case, but there are some supporters of that relationship as well.

Do you think there should be a limit? or do you think that love is really just love?


Here is my take the younger one partner the wierder it gets the older the other partner gets.
So say an 18yr and 30yr get together but then think about what if a 48yr and 60yr old get together.

Love is love is true in my opinion but also not socially accepted for the most part in our modern society.
I personally don't give a crap unless it is some pedofile and a kid.
Also just because I think something is weird does not mean it is bad. I think ketchup on eggs is weird but a lot of people like it for some reason...
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Posted 3/23/13

KikuTengu wrote:

Age difference seems a lot less significant as people get older. Like a 20 year old and a 25 year old doesn't look so bad, but a 15 year old and a 20 year old does. Like a lot of people have already said, as long as both parties are old enough and mature enough, it's not really a problem. When I was younger, I've talked to many people older than me online, and when I was 13, had a crush on an 18 year old....yeah, no. XD (Lucky for me, my boyfriend is only a year older than me)


that's a good way to put it. and that's mostly the point I've been trying to make. once the person has matured ages doesn't really matter.

and i really don't believe a lot of people mature till around 24, but of course that's different for everyone.
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Posted 3/23/13

Zachman wrote:

My girlfriend is about three years younger than me. I'm 18. By today's standards, I'm a pedophile, I think. We love each other very much.

Got a problem?

I believe love can come in any shape or form. Now I don't endorse pedophilia, but in the end, when you're fifteen and older, for the most part you should be able to make decisions on your own. I wouldn't let the law dictate my love any day. So what, she's a bit younger than me. But we love each other unconditionally, and in the end, that's all that fucking matters anyway.

Yes I believe in an age gap per say, but only when the naivete of a child is being used against them. When I was fifteen, for the most part I made my decisions. When I was between 4-7, I was not expected to know much, as I was a child, and therefore still had my innocence.


the thing is this will be totally normal in a couple years. its really not that bad,
at your age the problem will be whether or not you can hold onto that love... chances are it wont work out, but I hope it does for you.
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Posted 3/23/13

chu2koi wrote:

I'm gonna make a promise to myself to not date anyone younger than me by more than 10 years.


LOL so you will date a 9 year old?
Posted 3/23/13

anucris wrote:

and i really don't believe a lot of people mature till around 24, but of course that's different for everyone.


Yes, this has been proven in neural research on brain development, especially within the prefrontal lobe, which is involved in judgement.

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Posted 3/23/13
Ok my last post on this topic because it frustrates me.

I believe there should be a smaller gap at younger ages because younger people can be more easily taken advantage of and they might confuse infatuation or lust with love. once both people get to an age of maturity then that gap doesn't matter as much.

some of you might wonder why I defended my view so much well here's a story.

I had an aunt (teen) at the time and it was found out her father was molesting her. he ran off with her and she ended up pregnant. eventually her dad was put in jail and she was able to return to her family. she did have a son, but how weird will it be to talk about his parents? she was manipulated by her dad and didn't know that she was doing something wrong and later realized how disgusting it was. she lives a normal life now with a husband and everything, but I'm 100% certain she would have wanted a more normal teenage experience.

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Posted 3/23/13
where a= your age, (a/2)+7

For example, if you're 30 years old, the formula would be (30/2)+7, or 22, meaning a 30 year old can date someone as young as 22, and a 22 year old can date someone as old as 30
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Posted 3/23/13
age doesn't matter as long as it's legal. That's my only thought on the subject, we don't need any pedophiles running around here >.>
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Posted 3/23/13

butre wrote:

where a= your age, (a/2)+7

For example, if you're 30 years old, the formula would be (30/2)+7, or 22, meaning a 30 year old can date someone as young as 22, and a 22 year old can date someone as old as 30


so being 19 I can date a 16 year old?
even though doing so can cause me in a great deal of trouble with their parents and possibly the law if the parents claim rape?
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Posted 3/23/13
Well I think some laws on legal ages are pretty dumb. I think if you are 18 you should be able to date someone 14 and that is the lowest I think should happen. As long as no actual sex happens. If its just cyber sex i dont see a problem with it.
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Posted 3/23/13

anucris wrote:


chu2koi wrote:

I'm gonna make a promise to myself to not date anyone younger than me by more than 10 years.


LOL so you will date a 9 year old?


LOL. No. I will not. Forgot to mention that the girl would have to be over 16. So by that time I'd be 25. Just after I plan on finishing school.
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Posted 3/23/13

chu2koi wrote:


anucris wrote:


chu2koi wrote:

I'm gonna make a promise to myself to not date anyone younger than me by more than 10 years.


LOL so you will date a 9 year old?


LOL. No. I will not. Forgot to mention that the girl would have to be over 16. So by that time I'd be 25. Just after I plan on finishing school.


was jus messin with ya
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