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Asexuality
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Overview
An asexual is someone who does not experience sexual attraction. Unlike celibacy, which people choose, asexuality is an intrinsic part of who we are. Asexuality does not make our lives any worse or any better, we just face a different set of challenges than most sexual people. There is considerable diversity among the asexual community; each asexual person experiences things like relationships, attraction, and arousal somewhat differently. Asexuality is just beginning to be the subject of scientific research.

Relationships
Asexual people have the same emotional needs as anyone else, and like in the sexual community we vary widely in how we fulfill those needs. Some asexual people are happier on their own, others are happiest with a group of close friends. Other asexual people have a desire to form more intimate romantic relationships, and will date and seek long-term partnerships. Asexual people are just as likely to date sexual people as we are to date each other.

Sexual or nonsexual, all relationships are made up of the same basic stuff. Communication, closeness, fun, humor, excitement and trust all happen just as much in sexual relationships as in nonsexual ones. Unlike sexual people, asexual people are given few expectations about the way that our intimate relationships will work. Figuring out how to flirt, to be intimate, or to be monogamous in nonsexual relationships can be challenging, but free of sexual expectations we can form relationships in ways that are grounded in our individual needs and desires.

Attraction
Many asexual people experience attraction, but we feel no need to act out that attraction sexually. Instead we feel a desire to get to know someone, to get close to them in whatever way works best for us. Asexual people who experience attraction will often be attracted to a particular gender, and will identify as lesbian, gay, bi, or straight.

Arousal
For some sexual arousal is a fairly regular occurrence, though it is not associated with a desire to find a sexual partner or partners. Some will occasionally masturbate, but feel no desire for partnered sexuality. Other asexual people experience little or no arousal. Because we don’t care about sex, asexual people generally do not see a lack of sexual arousal as a problem to be corrected, and focus their energy on enjoying other types of arousal and pleasure.

That is a basic overveiw of what it is if you don't know what it means to be asexual.

Questions
Do you believe asexuality exsits?
What do you think of it?
Do you know someone who is or may be asexual?

“Some people just don’t have any interest in sex, not because of repression or guilt, but simply because that’s how we’re wired. At 24, I’m one of them - I’ve never been ashamed of sex and will happily talk about anything from masturbation to kink and polyamory without embarrassment. However, I’m asexual - I’m not sexually attracted to anyone. While a minority of asexuals are fine having sex, the thought of having sex myself is mildly repulsive - in much the same way that my lesbian friends are repulsed by the thought of having sex with men. Forcing people to be celibate who aren’t naturally inclined to be so is damaging and unhealthy - but insisting that everyone has to have sex to be psychologically healthy is also damaging to those of us who are far happier without it. I know a lot of asexuals who’ve forced themselves into sex they didn’t want because they thought they were broken and abnormal. And when I start my teacher training course in September, I’m anxious that anyone discovering my sexuality will leap to erroneous conclusions based on the assumption that not having sex causes scandals like those seen in the Catholic Church.”
— Helen, Manchester, UK (BBC News)


For more info go to: http://www.asexuality.org/home/
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Well, usually when dealing with asexual things, they aren't really related to human terms. The word asexual is usually used with being able to reproduce with yourself and not have another partner.
I don't think it exists in the human society, unless there is a mental nut job or someone who is just weird. But, humans, as a whole, desire physical attraction and emotional relationships between other humans. Not many people would want to reproduce with themselves.
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Well, usually when dealing with asexual things, they aren't really related to human terms. The word asexual is usually used with being able to reproduce with yourself and not have another partner.
I don't think it exists in the human society, unless there is a mental nut job or someone who is just weird. But, humans, as a whole, desire physical attraction and emotional relationships between other humans. Not many people would want to reproduce with themselves.


You deny me first the anime girl, the car and now this?!
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Oh... First off, given the info you provided, seems that everybody is asexual. Secondly, it seems that way because the statements in your post are contradicting: asexuals aren't sexually attracted to any body yet they are sexually attracted to people whom they want to get to know? Some asexuals don't care for sex but some seek romantic relationships?
Everybody wants and needs human contact at every level there is.

I think the big, and only idea here is that an asexual person does not want to have sex, at least not with someone else. That's pretty much the only thing that made sense to me.
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^ Attraction does not have to be sexual, and romance doesn't mandate any sexual expression, either.

Most people end up this way as you age, anyway - sex is really meant more for procreation than recreation...

Our world is overpopulated and festooned with contagions so it would be nice to not have to push contraceptives on more people, at this point, and we certainly can't rely upon mere good judgment, so it's not anything to be ashamed of in this day and age, to be nonsexual or asexual.
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schnipdip wrote:

Well, usually when dealing with asexual things, they aren't really related to human terms. The word asexual is usually used with being able to reproduce with yourself and not have another partner.
I don't think it exists in the human society, unless there is a mental nut job or someone who is just weird. But, humans, as a whole, desire physical attraction and emotional relationships between other humans. Not many people would want to reproduce with themselves.


Did you read the post? It doesn't talk anywhere about humans reproducing with themselves. Asexuality is a sexual orientation that means you are not sexually attracted to men or women and may have the lack of desire for sex. ._.
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Sociopa wrote:


schnipdip wrote:

Well, usually when dealing with asexual things, they aren't really related to human terms. The word asexual is usually used with being able to reproduce with yourself and not have another partner.
I don't think it exists in the human society, unless there is a mental nut job or someone who is just weird. But, humans, as a whole, desire physical attraction and emotional relationships between other humans. Not many people would want to reproduce with themselves.


You deny me first the anime girl, the car and now this?!


I'm gonna troll you allllllllllllllllllllllllllllll day long.... As Jack Nicholson once said "Here comes Johnny!"
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Dropplet wrote:


schnipdip wrote:

Well, usually when dealing with asexual things, they aren't really related to human terms. The word asexual is usually used with being able to reproduce with yourself and not have another partner.
I don't think it exists in the human society, unless there is a mental nut job or someone who is just weird. But, humans, as a whole, desire physical attraction and emotional relationships between other humans. Not many people would want to reproduce with themselves.


Did you read the post? It doesn't talk anywhere about humans reproducing with themselves. Asexuality is a sexual orientation that means you are not sexually attracted to men or women and may have the lack of desire for sex. ._.


riiiiiight. That is one meaning of asexual. And by giving you that, I gave you your answer..... You can thank me whenever. You can just leave a note or bake me a cake that says thanks
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mojojooo wrote:

Oh... First off, given the info you provided, seems that everybody is asexual. Secondly, it seems that way because the statements in your post are contradicting: asexuals aren't sexually attracted to any body yet they are sexually attracted to people whom they want to get to know? Some asexuals don't care for sex but some seek romantic relationships?
Everybody wants and needs human contact at every level there is.

I think the big, and only idea here is that an asexual person does not want to have sex, at least not with someone else. That's pretty much the only thing that made sense to me.


I would have to agree with you on that. This isn't my work, I just reposted the information but sexuallity isn't black or white. There are lots of grey areas too. Some people are called Demisexuals meaning they aren't sexually attracted to someone until they get to know them first. Though you also have two kinds of asexuals, there are romantic and aromantic meaning one wants a romantic relationship and the other one doesn't. Romance doesn't have to involve sex and that's what they want. Though some are open to the idea of sex if they have a sexual partner.
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schnipdip wrote:

Well, usually when dealing with asexual things, they aren't really related to human terms. The word asexual is usually used with being able to reproduce with yourself and not have another partner.
I don't think it exists in the human society, unless there is a mental nut job or someone who is just weird. But, humans, as a whole, desire physical attraction and emotional relationships between other humans. Not many people would want to reproduce with themselves.


you're referring to asexual reproduction there is a difference
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Well guys, I wont get on my high horse and say "No, asexuality is bullshit"
But, i will say, i haven't seen it.

I have encountered somebody that claimed to be asexual, which at 19, seemed like a bit of a premature conclusion, so i told her that maybe she just hadn't had a satisfying experience yet.
a year later, she came to that conclusion on her own, got herself a fulfilling experience, and in her own words "Feels liberated".

Now, i realize that's only a single case.
But. it's a fact that hundreds of thousands of generations begot the current one through sex.
in other words.. you have no ancestors that didn't have sex.
So the genetic odds of you having been born with a defective gene that inhibits your desire for sex are pretty damn slim.

So.. before you completely give up on one of the most connecting and gratifying experiences available to human beings, do make sure you're not just mindfucking yourself.
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uhohimdead wrote:


schnipdip wrote:

Well, usually when dealing with asexual things, they aren't really related to human terms. The word asexual is usually used with being able to reproduce with yourself and not have another partner.
I don't think it exists in the human society, unless there is a mental nut job or someone who is just weird. But, humans, as a whole, desire physical attraction and emotional relationships between other humans. Not many people would want to reproduce with themselves.


you're referring to asexual reproduction there is a difference


I know XD
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Are you still considered to be asexual if you want to have sex with a person that wants to have sex with you?
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lordseth23 wrote:

Are you still considered to be asexual if you want to have sex with a person that wants to have sex with you?


Nope.
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