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Why is labeling such a bad thing?
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Labeling makes it so that whatever your labeled as is you. Nothing more and nothing less.
If you were seen as "Goth" then you listen to Gothic music, and only read Gothic books, etc. It doesn't give you a personality of your own.
So, although labeling would help you find people with common interests it wouldn't be something I would like to have. I'm slightly different everyday according to mood, how the day is progressing, etc.
So only sticking to labels really isn't good. imo.
Posted 3/24/13 , edited 3/24/13
A psychologist named Dr. Leo Buscaglia discussed this in a few of his books. According to him, the problem with labeling occurs when as a result, it limits your own perception of others, i.e. "pigeonholing" may limit your understanding of the the true intricasies and motivations of someone else you really know very little about.

At some level, labeling is as necessary to normal daily function as that blind faith you must have in the fellow drivers around you on the road (that they all won't run into you at any moment): Not to do so can be debilitating - there aren't enough hours in a day to learn all there is to know about everyone and everything you encounter before making decisions about what to do and how to handle people.

So, it mostly depends upon the label. It is best to steer clear of any that dehumanize the subject(s) of the label, as well as derogatory ones when there is nothing the subject has done to warrant it. It's also good to remember that it is but a temporary stop-gap to blatant naivete, and if further acquaintance with individuals or communities are inevitable, you should try to take the time to get to know them better, firsthand.
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Sociopa wrote:

You are most likely very much a part of society. you don't need to be social to be part of the system


I know that for a fact. I am considered a "teacher" and am expected to be like one. To be smart, patient, understanding, practically perfect. I have to make myself fit into that mold nearly every single day. I don't hate it, but I don't like it either. My students think I'm absolutely amazing and smart. People who find out my profession suddenly have the same idea. Maybe to most people that's a good thing, but I personally don't like it. It makes me feel unreal... I wish I didn't have to pretend like that and hide.. I want my students to see the real me. Even if they don't like me, that would be better. I don't want to be admired for a label and a lie.
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Context is extremely important here. Labeling can be good, bad, convenient, or indifferent. Not all labeling is bad, but some labeling is used for nefariously bad deeds. Bad labeling can be used to assume group rights where there are none as well as a means to protect a group.

Good: Labeling the bad stuff (and bad people) that will harm or kill you. Controlling boyfriends or dangerous liquids or bears, etc.

Bad: Labeling people or groups of people because of your own ignorance, hate, or misanthropy. Labeling to impugn or oppress or to assume group rights which end up subjugating others.

Convenient: Labeling items in your house so you can find them (grouping) or music in your collection or seasonal clothing.

Indifferent: Carpet.

Labeling is one of our species main survival tools and is probably one of the main reasons humans haven't perished completely. But labeling has been used by bad people for bad things as well.

Context. Very important...
Posted 3/24/13

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Sociopa wrote:

You are most likely very much a part of society. you don't need to be social to be part of the system


I know that for a fact. I am considered a "teacher" and am expected to be like one. To be smart, patient, understanding, practically perfect. I have to make myself fit into that mold nearly every single day. I don't hate it, but I don't like it either. My students think I'm absolutely amazing and smart. People who find out my profession suddenly have the same idea. Maybe to most people that's a good thing, but I personally don't like it. It makes me feel unreal... I wish I didn't have to pretend like that and hide.. I want my students to see the real me. Even if they don't like me, that would be better. I don't want to be admired for a label and a lie.


Those who accept to be labeled accept it only because it's something they are comfortable with. If you want to get out of your comfort zone it's up to you.

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Those who accept to be labeled accept it only because it's something they are comfortable with. If you want to get out of your comfort zone it's up to you.



I'll play the game because I have bills to pay and a dream to turn into reality.
Posted 3/24/13

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I'll play the game because I have bills to pay and a dream to turn into reality.


Then stop complaining :-,
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Then stop complaining :-,


You sound like my brother...
What's so bad about disliking things?
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You sound like my brother...
What's so bad about disliking things?


Nothing, but sympathizing with you is something i cannot let myself do.
Posted 3/24/13
It is just another way to stereotype. I am me, I don't have a label.
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Nothing, but sympathizing with you is something i cannot let myself do.


I don't need your sympathy. I just like to speak my mind.
Posted 3/24/13


lol i knew you'd write that trolololol
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I honestly was and still am against labeling for the longest time. I would say it's bad because when you have that label, that's what others look at and don't see the real you besides that label. Also, labels that are named by others that are hurtful can stick to a person causing them to be that bad label others stick to them. Plus, labels are VERY limited. I rather be whatever I want rather than stick with a label someone gives me.
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lol i knew you'd write that trolololol


Damn you and your psychic skills..
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Not all labels are negative.
Like, people who are passionate about anime are called otaku.
It's just to categorize a group of people who have either similar interests, habits, personalities, or problems.
I think even when we think we don't label ourselves, there are a few things about us that we categorize. Like I like to say I'm an introvert.
The thing is sometimes when you label yourself, you're putting a limit on yourself.
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