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Why is labeling such a bad thing?
Posted 3/25/13

-Vega- wrote:


It is and it's annoying me.



lol i might as well add that, if a word is harming your mind, then you might believe that there is probably some truth to it that you don't want to address. The OP's question to some extent branches off to the area of bullying.
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Posted 3/25/13
You don't need labels to be something else. Everyone is unique in their own way.
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Posted 3/25/13
Ps. Vega, stop antagonizing the OP by calling her question retarded. You've essentially just done what you said you hate doing and labeling her as ignorant. Not to mention lordseth making assumptions about the OP's educational background (i.e. not being able to comprehend psychology). I find you two guilty of making assumptions and creating labels.
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Posted 3/25/13

Bedlam wrote:

Ps. Vega, stop antagonizing the OP by calling her question retarded. You've essentially just done what you said you hate doing and labeling her as ignorant. Not to mention lordseth making assumptions about the OP's educational background (i.e. not being able to comprehend psychology). I find you two guilty of making assumptions and creating labels.


So why do you assume that I am making assumptions and creating labels?
Are you guilty of making assumptions and labeling me as an assumption maker?
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Posted 3/25/13
I didn't assume anything. I saw you do it.
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Posted 3/25/13 , edited 3/25/13

Vega, stop antagonizing


That, is what -Vega- does in most posts
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Posted 3/25/13 , edited 3/25/13
I appreciate your candor but it's making this thread go off-topic. Let's get back to the crux of this discussion.

Like I said previously, labels are ok as long as it doesn't limit you in what you want or don't want to do. And it's ok to change labels. Just because you consider yourself one thing doesn't mean you can't be anything else later on.

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Posted 3/25/13

Bedlam wrote:

I didn't assume anything. I saw you do it.


So why would you accuse people of being guilty of something that you are guilty of?
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Posted 3/25/13
Final warning seth. Your continued talk with me will result in sanctions. I'm not interested in discussing the merits of my character with you in this thread.
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Posted 3/25/13

Bedlam wrote:

Final warning seth. Your continued talk with me will result in sanctions. I'm not interested in discussing the merits of my character with you in this thread.


Then why would you point me out in the first place? Was it an instigation attempt?
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Posted 3/25/13 , edited 3/25/13
clearly, you are unaware of your own inability to frame questions objectively. in US law, you would be guilty of leading the witness or suggestive interrogation. I find you guilty on that count. Now, I said it was a final warning. You did not heed that warning. Goodbye.

Edit: Back on topic folks. Labels. They're not bad. and they're not good. They are what they are. but don't let it define you or limit you.
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Posted 3/25/13 , edited 3/25/13

Labels. They're not bad. and they're not good. They are what they are. but don't let it define you or limit you.


I agree with this

Posted 3/25/13

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Humans can't function without generalizing, it's just how we can survive as a species. We compartmentalize things in order to function in day-to-day life. For example, "all bees have stingers and can/will sting you." We don't know for sure if they will sting you every time, but we treat all bees with caution as if they had stingers and could sting us. If we didn't, we'd be needlessly putting ourselves into danger (especially those who are allergic to bee stings). This also extends to social aspects. "Jocks tend to like sports." We don't know if it's true for every person who considers themselves a jock (or whoever YOU consider is a jock), but if someone is active in a sport, it would usually follow that they're into at least that particular sport they're participating in.

Personally, I think it's ok to use labels or be labeled. Just don't let it limit you in what you can or can't do. Especially in how you should be treated. Or what you want to do. For example, you take on the nerd label. But just because you consider yourself a nerd doesn't mean you can't like sports or be socially adept. If you want to be those things, then don't let your self-imposed label limit you in what you can or can't do. Also, don't let labels limit you from getting to know others. Just because you perceive someone to be a jock or a weirdo doesn't mean they're not worth talking to. Anyway, to make a long story short, labels are fine. Just don't let it limit you. And try to keep an open, objective mind.


Hmmm... Is it wrong for me to think that labeling a person is essentially limiting them? If I were to not let a label limit my perception of myself or somebody else, then wouldn't it be better to not use a label in the first place and keep a completely open mind? When I organize and label things, I do so because they are specifically that. I put a student's name on a file because those belong to that student and nobody else... Sheldon put a "urine" label on a measuring cup because that's supposed to be ALL it was used for and Leonard was mistaken for using it to mix pancake batter.. Lol.. I guess what I'm saying is that labels are used to create order... I'm not gonna label a clay mug "green tea" and make an exception that on Mondays I can use it for Oolong tea... No. That would ruin the mug. So why use labels on people and make unnecessary additions and exceptions? Isn't it more practical to just skip that entirely?
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Posted 3/25/13


in a perfect world, yes, that would work. speaking from experience, i know that's just not how it's worked out for me. labels will always be there. and assumptions will always be made. you're right, labels etc. are made because it's suppose to create order (and make our lives easier) but i don't believe it's something we can turn off (even for people). it's always going to be there. but i've decided not to let it define me or the people around me. if it was possible to skip that step, i would. but i know that's just wishful thinking. i just have to be aware of what labels i'm putting on people and updating them (depending on my experiences with them). i just gotta remain open and flexible. i know it sounds roundabout but it's what i've come to believe.
Posted 3/25/13
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