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Posted 3/28/13
http://www.themarysue.com/pax-tomb-raider-cosplay/
So I stumbled across this and it got me thinking... How many of you are harassed at conventions? for what reasons? I was never harassed... But I think that's cause I carried a weapon and I'm 6'3... I dunno.
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Posted 3/28/13
Well I imagine this is much more of an issue for women and not men.
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25 / F / da F@#*ing moon!!
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Posted 7/26/13
carry mace..
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Posted 7/26/13
I think it depends on what you're wearing.
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Posted 7/27/13
That story is awful ugh; makes me mad just reading about it
I cosplay My Little Pony a lot and while I'm lucky to have never been straight up harassed, I have to deal with a bunch of really awkward, touchy people. The worst that's happened was when some kid (he was young, I think maybe 13 or 14) asked for a picture with me and when I obliged he gave the friend his camera, ran behind me and JUMPED on me like I was giving him a piggy back ride (and I'm not strong to begin with while this kid easily weighed well over what I do). Needless to say I shook him off, told him he should ask before touching somebody and that I was no longer available for pictures and left.
I don't want to label that kid a creeper since he was so young and probably just really dumb, but it was still pretty bad haha
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Posted 7/28/13
I think it more depends on what you're wearing, considering these women were dressed with a smaller amount of clothing then most cosplayers.
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Posted 8/1/13
I wore a Miku Hatsune cosplay to a convention one time, and as I am self conscious, My skirt wasn't as short as the real Miku's and it was in no way indecent. I was walking through the vendors room looking for my group and someone reached right up my skirt and grabbed me! >:/ I alerted the con staff and I learned that it always pays to be with someone! Buddy system!
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Posted 8/1/13
Why go to a convention just to be a douche? Honestly people like this is what made me lose faith in humanity.
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Posted 8/3/13
If your with some friends people will usually leave you alone. You have to be more careful at bigger cons though. Like metro-con, the crowds get so big some times and people try to take advantage of the situation.
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Posted 8/6/13

mintyblitzz wrote:

That story is awful ugh; makes me mad just reading about it
I cosplay My Little Pony a lot and while I'm lucky to have never been straight up harassed, I have to deal with a bunch of really awkward, touchy people. The worst that's happened was when some kid (he was young, I think maybe 13 or 14) asked for a picture with me and when I obliged he gave the friend his camera, ran behind me and JUMPED on me like I was giving him a piggy back ride (and I'm not strong to begin with while this kid easily weighed well over what I do). Needless to say I shook him off, told him he should ask before touching somebody and that I was no longer available for pictures and left.
I don't want to label that kid a creeper since he was so young and probably just really dumb, but it was still pretty bad haha




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Posted 8/24/13
I'm attending and cosplaying at my first con this October and I'll be sure to keep my eye out for anyone being harassed. If intimidation isn't enough to stop it, I don't mind being kicked out/spending a night in jail over preventing this sort of thing.
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Posted 8/24/13

imnohero wrote:

I'm attending and cosplaying at my first con this October and I'll be sure to keep my eye out for anyone being harassed. If intimidation isn't enough to stop it, I don't mind being kicked out/spending a night in jail over preventing this sort of thing.


Intimidation isn't the trick nor is it useful. That can just lead to trouble for you and let the creep repeat this behavior with someone else.

Check the con site for information on their harassment policy. Check for HOW to and WHO to report harassment to. Know where to report such to and know WHAT to report. Be willing to speak up, firmly and politely and stay until convention security is there. Stand between the creep and the target if need be. Keep your cool. Don't babble. Don't attack, don't grab, don't escalate, don't make it worse because security will focus on you and not the creep.

Camera phones don't just take pictures of the cosplayer's, they can help identify the creeps if the creep leaves the immediate area (don't chase them, you have pictures). Do it right. Build a record of this person. Make it so they are unwelcome at this con and their reputation spreads. Make it so convention staff has grounds to eject them and not you.

Being harassed is scary and if it's the first time people have a desire to NOT want to be the center of attention. You as witness however can (in the US) press a claim because harassment is harassment. Do keep in mind that chances are you will also be a stranger to the cosplayer so 'doing the right thing' also entitles you to nothing from them, especially in a scary situation. Leave them your contact information so convention staff can follow up with you if need be but be prepared to also move on once the victim is in safe hands. Then go calm down yourself with friends in a safe spot.

This reporting method is harder, slower, more annoying but far more effective then intimidation or being physical or 'spending the night in jail'. It's also cheaper and gets you a better reputation then the other method. Cons are for fun but they are also not anime stories where the rules, laws and reactions are different then real life for real problems.

Go have fun, just pay attention to your surroundings while having fun.
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Unfortunately once by a creepy old lady at Comic Con.

Here's the story (warning it's kinda long):

It happened on the last day of the con inside the exhibit hall. I was cosplaying as Izaya (long coat version). I was doing some last minute shopping and played the KH 1.5 demo. After buying a couple of T-shirts, my feet began to ache, so I decided to sit on a chair in the dining area in front of the concession stand. So after rearranging my bags and my feet got better, I began my way to the Nintendo Lounge. It was then I heard someone calling at me. I turned around and I saw this old lady. She looked like she was in her 50s-60s and dressed kinda sloppy. And she gave off this strange vibe that is hard to describe. She then repeated herself. I realized that she was talking in Spanish. I didn't know what she said because I don't speak Spanish, but I caught the words, "manga" and "anime". I thought maybe she was asking me where the anime booths are at. Oh boy was I wrong.

I told her that I don't speak Spanish. But as I was about to explain to her where the booths are, she immediately explained to me (in English) what she just said in Spanish. She said something along the lines of, "You look like you have a lot of animes and mangas in your bags" and then she called me, "beautiful virgin". Now this is what set off my creeper alarm in my head. I said, "Yeah, I like anime and manga." while I was thinking of a way to escape. Then she talked about how I rich I look, that I must be millionaire because I have money to spend on anime and manga, and how I have a pretty face (Note:She thought I was guy throughout this entire experience). Then, she asked me where I lived and I told her that I was late for a meetup and that I should be going. She said something like, "Okay. Bye-bye, beautiful virgin.", with a suggestive grin on her face. Right after that, I bolted straight to the Nintendo Lounge.

Fortunately, she did not stalk me. If she did, I will report to staff right away.

Now my experience wasn't as bad as others'. But it still is kinda creepy.

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Posted 9/9/13

xneex wrote:

I think it depends on what you're wearing.


I have had almost no exposed skin before and have had someone try to cop a feel for a photo before. It doesn't and shouldn't matter what you are wearing. If we can see what you had a for breakfast or you're head-to-toe covered, someone could and may very well harass you.

As for my own experience of harassment, getting touched during photos is my biggest thing. I don't like people touched by people I don't know, even more if you try to slide your hand down my side during a picture. That's a good way to get denied a photo and reported to staff. Though the verbal harassment is the worst... Being a plus sized cosplayer, I've been told to stop cosplaying because of my side, to go change at a con, to "lose weight fatty", ect. Some of these comments are even from people in the cosplay community which is even worse. >x Getting photos taken without my permission isn't as prominent a form of harassment, but it does rub me the wrong way. And it happens at least twice a con for me.
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Posted 9/9/13
People can just be douches sometime.
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