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I found this story online, and would like to share it with everyone, like to know your thoughts on it. What did you think of it? The link to where I got it from.

http://www.facebook.com/I.love.to.Laugh.x





“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

Remember love is the richest of all treasures. Without it there is nothing; and with it there is everything. Love never perishes , even if the bones of a lover are ground fine like powder. Just as the perfume of sandalwood does not leave it, even if it is completely ground up, similarly the basis of love is the soul, and it is indestructible and therefore eternal. Beauty can be destroyed , but not love. ♥


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Divorce sucks, but it's better than staying together in an unhappy, destructive relationship and environment.

"The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank."

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I think that story is made up. I've seen it a lot circling Facebook a few weeks back.
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Even if it is, I think the main point of the story, is the time you know you had something great, it's already gone.
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I knew I read this somewhere before! It sounded so familiar.

I am not married yet so I don't know, however I have put in some thought into this matter of a long term relationship and whether a divorce is possible in my future, and how I should deal with it.

For one thing, I don't like betrayal, whether I'm the one doing the betraying or someone else has betrayed me, I just don't like it. I hate the idea in fact. So base on that, I don't feel like I will cheat if I'm already in a relationship (or at least I hope it is true, but I'm a lustful man, so IDK yet.)

If I'm the one doing the divorcing (I hope it won't come to this), I probably (as in I'm not confident that I will do what I'm about to say) will do what the guy did in this post, tell my wife that I want a divorce, because of whatever reason. I feel that telling my wife that I'm cheating on her with another woman, is a million times better (as in it will hurt her 1 million times less) than to have her found out that I've been cheating on her behind her back.

If my wife is the one who wants the divorce, I will probably agree to it w/o asking much. I can only blame myself for being inadequate as a husband and probably as a father as well.
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I hate women that try to steal away taken men.

Otherwise touching story. Poor wife, and smart too. ^_^
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Sucks for him. Should have realized everything sooner.
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I hate to say it, but the story sounds made up. For one, there are a lot of made up stories like these on the internet. Secondly, some of the details in the story give rise to suspicion (the husband never knew she had cancer, she died of cancer the very day he bought flowers which had the message "I'll carry you until death do us part"). Stuff like that.

I'mma done ruining the nice story for y'all now.
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Even if it is made up, the main point to this story is to show, that you might have something great, and the time you know it, it's already gone. This like this happen all the time, there are some ppl that will date someone, have someone in their life that is amazing, breakup with that person, then later on see that what they had was great, but it's already gone.
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wwe wrote:



Even if it is made up, the main point to this story is to show, that you might have something great, and the time you know it, it's already gone. This like this happen all the time, there are some ppl that will date someone, have someone in their life that is amazing, breakup with that person, then later on see that what they had was great, but it's already gone.



I'm pretty convinced the story is made up, but you are right, the message it conveys is a good one and an important one.
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yup, that's why I like it, too many ppl take things for granted, and once they see that, it's too late, one of reasons why I posted this story.
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AnimeNation wrote:

Haha way too long


It's long if you're illiterate. Take 5 mins and read it >.>
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It's a sweet story, I read it sometime ago on fb...
Made me feel all mushy inside and stuff.
It does seem fake.
But from what the people say, you don't know what you have until it's gone.
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mystic17 wrote:

I think that story is made up. I've seen it a lot circling Facebook a few weeks back.


Yes, the story might be fake, but it still gives us a valuable life lesson. It isn't always about the big house, the fancy sports car or the huge amounts of money that makes any relationship worth the time. Sometimes, it's the little things that make that relationship a little more special than others. Like, giving a nice smile when you see that person, when you have small casual talks on the couch, having coffee or tea at the cafe, or a stroll in the park. Hope this inspired you in some way :]
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That's so true, more ppl should think like that when in a relationship, but in today's world, most don't and forget the small things, that can keep a relationship going.
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