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How do you convince your parents so you can choose your own path?
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Posted 4/10/13
Well, so....
I really want to study fashion design...
But, my parents kinda object to it...
So, I go to psychology major and thought to get into design after this...
Right now, I almost finished my study... So I decided to talk about it with them...
At first, they just went "okay, go ahead you have finished your study..." and so on..
I'm really excited about it...
But, few weeks later, they told me to study law major with my big sis...
Or even told me about getting a psychology specialist...
I asked them again about the design thing... The went silent for a sec... Then say, yea..you can go..
But the next day, they told me, the other things...
Right now, I really confused about what I should do....
Thanks....
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Posted 4/10/13

FullMoon91 wrote:

Well, so....
I really want to study fashion design...
But, my parents kinda object to it...
So, I go to psychology major and thought to get into design after this...
Right now, I almost finished my study... So I decided to talk about it with them...
At first, they just went "okay, go ahead you have finished your study..." and so on..
I'm really excited about it...
But, few weeks later, they told me to study law major with my big sis...
Or even told me about getting a psychology specialist...
I asked them again about the design thing... The went silent for a sec... Then say, yea..you can go..
But the next day, they told me, the other things...
Right now, I really confused about what I should do....
Thanks....


Truth is, in the end, you can't live your life for other people. You have to live your life for yourself. Listen to what your heart tells you. If you would more than anything love to enter the fashion world, and that's what your heart is telling you to do, then you go for it. Get to studying fashion, then start taking the world by storm. And always remember to keep your head held high.
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Posted 4/10/13
Follow your dreams and pursue fashion design after you finish the psychology degree.
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It is your life so you need to ignore them. They might not be happy about it but you have to do whatever makes you happy. If you are good with psychology or law then it might not be a bad idea to go through with it as a backup in case fashion doesn't turn out to be what you thought though. If you hate it though then drop it. Don't do anything simply because it is what is expected of you or what someone else wants.

When it comes to actually dealing with your parents about it then you need to just be blunt and tell them that this is what you are going to do and they can disagree with it if they want to but it is what you need to do for yourself.
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Posted 4/10/13

lordseth23 wrote:

Follow your dreams and pursue fashion design after you finish the psychology degree.


Yea... I plan to do that.. But as I say in the first comment....
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Even though I never experienced this with my parents, I can say you have to convince them somehow.

I'm still very young, so I don't know about this much but you should be able to become whatever you want.
Posted 4/10/13
LONG LIVE THE REBELLION!!!!
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Sadly for me. My parents(should just say parent singular) don't have that kind of trust.Not because I have lost the trust.Because my parent choices decisions based on experiences and traditions.

I don't think there is a way to convince them if you have tried once or twice(and really after 1 try you should just drop it).You have to choose your own path and stick with it. If you are truly passionate about it. Nothing can stop you from achieving your goals and paths in life. Not the views of other people,not your friends,not your family.Fortunately for me:the category of my friends are highly supportive of my goals.

Apply for what you want,do what you want. Remember the minds of your parents and family isn't your mind. Just always realize. Anything takes hard work.

Made you read a wall ha!
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Your parents just want you to have a reliable career in the future. Saying you want to study fashion design is like saying you want to be a diva ballerina, professional athlete, or movie star. Sure, it happens to a few people, but they're all REALLY GOOD at what they do. How good are you with a sewing machine? Have you done any costume design and production for the theater? If you haven't worked in costuming yet, and just put a lot of attention into your appearance and like to shop for new clothes, then might as well be saying you want to be a fairy princess.

Really, I think your parents are being very kind to you. If my son were to spend years of college wasting my money on a similar childish dream I would tell him to drop out and work until he could be serious about his future.
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Your parents just want you to have a reliable career in the future. Saying you want to study fashion design is like saying you want to be a diva ballerina, professional athlete, or movie star. Sure, it happens to a few people, but they're all REALLY GOOD at what they do. How good are you with a sewing machine? Have you done any costume design and production for the theater? If you haven't worked in costuming yet, and just put a lot of attention into your appearance and like to shop for new clothes, then might as well be saying you want to be a fairy princess.

Really, I think your parents are being very kind to you. If my son were to spend years of college wasting my money on a similar childish dream I would tell him to drop out and work until he could be serious about his future.


It never hurts to try though as long as the person has a backup plan they can go to if things don't work out. If I actually had a dream job I would be much happier with my life knowing I went for it and tried and failed than always wondering if I should have done it instead of settling for a job I didn't care for.
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It never hurts to try though as long as the person has a backup plan they can go to if things don't work out. If I actually had a dream job I would be much happier with my life knowing I went for it and tried and failed than always wondering if I should have done it instead of settling for a job I didn't care for.


If college were free, then sure.
Posted 4/10/13

mhibicke wrote:

Your parents just want you to have a reliable career in the future. Saying you want to study fashion design is like saying you want to be a diva ballerina, professional athlete, or movie star. Sure, it happens to a few people, but they're all REALLY GOOD at what they do. How good are you with a sewing machine? Have you done any costume design and production for the theater? If you haven't worked in costuming yet, and just put a lot of attention into your appearance and like to shop for new clothes, then might as well be saying you want to be a fairy princess.

Really, I think your parents are being very kind to you. If my son were to spend years of college wasting my money on a similar childish dream I would tell him to drop out and work until he could be serious about his future.


^ this is my rection

What's more, what you want to go to is into a cut-throat world of fashion, from the above, it's obvious you're going to have to change your passive attitude majorly.
Posted 4/10/13
I just gonna have to show them Ive grown up then they will let me go, right now I am ill to so thats why they wont let me go just yet.
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My parents tried to pull the same thing, I ignored them and did what I wanted to do. OP are you already doing fashion related things i.e making your own clothes, sewing, designing/sketching outfits? Have you ever consider making fashion a serious hobby. I love art, but I never went to art school because I figured I don't need a degree to draw or paint. Not to mention plenty of people commission artists who are really just hobbyist.

I don't know if the same can be done for Fashion Design though, or you could go to school for Fashion Design anyway. Even if you don't make it, you'll be cushioned by your psychology degree. If you really want to do it badly, forget convincing your parents. At a certain point you need to make your own decisions.
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Posted 4/10/13

mhibicke wrote:


justanotherguy_2005 wrote:

It never hurts to try though as long as the person has a backup plan they can go to if things don't work out. If I actually had a dream job I would be much happier with my life knowing I went for it and tried and failed than always wondering if I should have done it instead of settling for a job I didn't care for.


If college were free, then sure.


All of those collection calls are just empty threats and are easily ignored. If you want to be a nice person you can throw a few bucks at them every now and then though.
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