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Would you do this if you only talk online?
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This is how I'm picturing your brother when the girl said to meet away from the keyboard. Though I agree with some of the people, he is lacking some common sense
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I'd rather not. I'm cautious so I wouldn't do that. You can have so called friends on the web and they're fine for spending time. But I rather don't mix RL with VL.
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Honestly sounds fishy to me.
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I'd be worried if I were you, make sure you know when he's meeting her for how long and when he should definitely be back home. Has he ever watched the show Catfish? She could be lying about several things and to get engaged this early. My brother was engaged once to a chick he had been dating for 2 months. Long story short they're no longer together and he in fact hates her now. I never took my brothers engagement seriously though unlike some people in our family.

Tell your brother he needs to think this through and be careful, don't get sucked in by all the infatuation he's probably feeling right now.
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Would you go meet someone, if you only talk online for a few months, maybe talk a bit on the phone? You only have a few photos of the person, never once skype or webcam, don't really know much about the person, only what you talk about, would you be that crazy enough to go?


My brother is, he been talking to this girl on Facebook for only a few month, he has just a few photos of her, never met in person before, talk a few times on the phone, only knows a little about her, some of the stuff he did tell me about her sounds crazy, she been in 50 foster homes, and she only 18. my brother is 25, everyone try to talk to him, but he still going to meet her, oh btw she lives far, a 3 Days drive from where we live.

He also lost it in his mind, b/c he want her to move back in with him, and he says they are already engaged He already calling her is wife to be, and he never once met her in person.


What you think? Have any of you done something that crazy before? Do you know anyone that done something like this before? What's your story?


I went through a similar situation with my 17yr old son. I had to get tough with him for his own sake. I did a background check on her and her family. Then I got the grandparents involved and threatened legal action against her &her family, and my son if he ran off with her. It turned out that the girl has SERIOUS mental issues which she is now getting help with, and her father is a career criminal (drugs, theft, violence). He is now in prison for committing yet another crime. Her mother abandoned her years ago with that psycho, and nobody did anything about it. She is finally in the custody of her grandparents. Now my son knows how stupid he was to let his loneliness and hormones to get the better of his clear thinking/judgements.

She was looking for a savior, and found in my son a caring person willing to play the "hero". That's not love, that's two people with dysfunctional thinking. She had tried this with other guys before.

Posted 4/11/13

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This is how I'm picturing your brother when the girl said to meet away from the keyboard. Though I agree with some of the people, he is lacking some common sense


Hahahahaha i see it now
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My room mate in college met a girl online like that. She was on the east coast, and he was on the west coast. She flew out for a weekend, and then moved out. He dated her for like a year and a half before he realized she was crazy and had been cheating on him for who knows how long.

Can I ask what country this is in? Can you do some good old facebook e-stalking to see if shes nuts, and doing this/has done this stuff to other guys? Has her facebook account been open for a while or does it look like it was created about the same time she started chatting up your brother?

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Don't know. A friend that I care for alot has done it. It seems she is ok.

It's all your call. For safety,for trust, and for yourself. You must A-game all of those choices an watch yourself before you make that kind of decision.

Listen to others before and above me.

I advise talking to alot of people about this. Maybe alot of don't's. Listen to them thoroughly.But also try to find those who you think would agree or who have done what you've done. OR similarly done.

And Most Definately use THAT CATFISH!!
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Slap him good, slap him real good



Just that^
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A girl/guy you've never met that are willing to meet you face to face, but not webcam with you... Run, run like the wind.
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wwe wrote:

Would you go meet someone, if you only talk online for a few months, maybe talk a bit on the phone? You only have a few photos of the person, never once skype or webcam, don't really know much about the person, only what you talk about, would you be that crazy enough to go?


No, because there is no proof that the person is real. You don't have to look any further than the Manti Teo incident to see the folly in this.
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This is just insane. >.> Why won't she go on skype or on webcam? She's probably hiding something. What if she's a psychoo or something like that?

Go talk to your brother and if he doesn't listen, slap him. >.>
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Although it probably isn't something I'd be comfortable with, I don't see any problem with meeting up with someone you've met online for a date. The "engagement" hopes, however, are very disconcerting to me. I would keep on eye on him.
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I think my brother should watch the movie catfish and the tv show. Maybe he'll learn something from it.
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As for the brother thing, the problem to me is the engagement. Realistically he knows very little about the girl, what is the rush on getting married anyway? I am not saying that talking online is a bad thing, it is not fundamentally different from online dating. However, I dont believe you can have a real relationship with another person without knowing them in person. It could possibly be a good start for a relationship. But people need to get to know each other, a person can control impulses for a short time span when talking online, it is very different meeting in person, where subtle personality quirks will come out.

Now, as for meeting someone who you have been talking with online, i dont see an inherent problem with that, as long as it is in a public setting. I dont care how long we have been talking online, i still wount trust you unless i have met you in person. I was surfing the AX forums not long ago, and saw there is a page for finding hotel roommates during the convention. To me, that is insane for example.
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