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Has Loves Lost Its Meaning?
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Posted 5/2/13 , edited 5/2/13
Love's the most valued emotion we ever have because it is the only feeling above happiness.
Consequently, that makes it the something everyone desires and fears more than anything.
For those of us with developed insecurities, we fear to obtain it because it hurts so much to lose it, as many people fall into irresponsible relationships or end up in bad situations they aren't prepared to handle (as the case is with most of us).
Other feel so lost not to have it that they lose sight of how to obtain it.

For those of it who have it for any length of time, we love to express it, most of us don't know how to. Music artists are notorious for portraying their love in their music; however, sometimes it falls out of true context, thus, not all love songs are as focused on the art as is the composition of a song, but that is the reality of most art forms in which the main focus is waned.

Also, for those of us who absolutely yearn for it, it turns us very bitter when we can't have it, its like the best of life is cut out of our lives and it haunts us. Emotion clouds our judgment, we don't make and effort to try and truly enjoy what we have out of envy. Still, others also with no experience in true love simply can't relate the same away, its like this for many other situations like how color-blind people don't know how much we appreciate color, its not their fault they don't know, they just don't have that first encounter to analyze themselves and often overlook it because they feel jealous that others flaunt their true emotions when they are happy (this is the case in a lot of envy) while they hide their emotion in depression.

Anyway, background info aside, love hasn't lost meaning, it's influence in our lives is just perceived differently by different people, often making it appear so. However, under further analysis that makes a forum poster look like a total brainwashed moron (AKA how I look, I admit), love still holds true meaning for those who experience and its full potential in a nurturing environment.

(On a side note, many people are gonna get very overly dramatic and use insufficient rhetoric to attempt to explain this messy topic, I'm no master of rhetoric or love, but just read between the lines and ignore some lines as well for the safety of your opinions, some of us bang our heads against a wall when people use single line metaphors to explain a social topic as if the world is an absolute dystopia)
Posted 5/3/13

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Love is a figment of your imagination... You will never be truly loved by someone. People are selfish. They tend to care more about themselves than others. At least that's how my experiences in love have been.


Most love is yes. But its not entirely impossible to find love. But 90% of people really never do as adults. Most people get it when they're children, from their parents/siblings. But later when you become more distant to your family; even your mothers love can fade. So.. just imagine how hard it is to find it with a complete stranger. This is just an opinion. But true love is actually feeling like you cannot live without someone. If you're perfectly cool with carrying on a long distance relationship.. or letting your partner go on some trip for a week with her friends.. You're not in love. And of course love is selfish... you don't love someone just to love them. You love them because it makes you happy as well.


I wasn't lucky enough to get parent or sibling love. My dad was in jail and my mom worked to give my brother and I a good living. My brother could care less about me. It wasn't until I was 14 and my mom had a lil girl that I was able to feel real sibling love. And it still took a while for me to get use to having a baby in the house because I was the youngest. Being a middle child sucks. You always get shined out by the oldest and youngest. I'm not jealous if either of them though. I love my sister more than anything in this world. And I'm proud of my brother for making a good life for himself and his family while being in the U.S. Army.
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Posted 5/4/13

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shirayukiIce wrote:
It's really sad to see "love" tossed around like it's any other word. I don't think it's value is the same as it was, say, 10 years ago.

Ten years ago you were six and didn't notice or care about the overuse of "love". Let this one go, and maybe stop listening to pop radio for a while.





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mhibicke wrote:

Ten years ago you were six and didn't notice or care about the overuse of "love". Let this one go, and maybe stop listening to pop radio for a while.


I agree with Tank Girl.



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shirayukiIce wrote:

It's really sad to see "love" tossed around like it's any other word. I don't think it's value is the same as it was, say, 10 years ago. I'm also sick of every other song in the world being about love. I feel like that's the default theme if you want a hit song. I don't even think half the artist who sing of it are even in love, let alone have ever left it. It just really disappoints and frustrates me.


10 or so years ago? What when you were 6?

Fortunately for me I don't listen to pop music, and I'd rather listen to a song with more intelligible song writing and meaning than "Hey I just met you and this is crazy here's my number, I'm a slut, so fuck me later".

So if you're looking for true love in the music you listen to, I really think you're looking in the wrong places, as for the rest of the world, nothing has changed, only your morbid views.


Just because I was 6 then years ago doesn't mean I'm ignorant to how they viewed it then. Maybe I should've worded this topic more carefully. Maybe it's just the popculture and modern youth that has fabricated it and thrown it around like some kind of overused, annoying neologism like "swag". I'm also not limited to pop. I do listen to artists who pour their heart out and sing of true, pure love, and mean every word of it. Which makes me dishearted when I hear songs like say, Justin Bieber makes. Cliche loves songs which he himself can't even relate to, because he himself has admitted that he's never been in love. And also the previously mentioned "Call Me Maybe" song. It makes me feel like it's not even taken to heart, or taken seriously anymore. And what kind of message is that?
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shirayukiIce wrote:
Just because I was 6 then years ago doesn't mean I'm ignorant to how they viewed it then. Maybe I should've worded this topic more carefully. Maybe it's just the popculture and modern youth that has fabricated it and thrown it around like some kind of overused, annoying neologism like "swag". I'm also not limited to pop. I do listen to artists who pour their heart out and sing of true, pure love, and mean every word of it. Which makes me dishearted when I hear songs like say, Justin Bieber makes. Cliche loves songs which he himself can't even relate to, because he himself has admitted that he's never been in love. And also the previously mentioned "Call Me Maybe" song. It makes me feel like it's not even taken to heart, or taken seriously anymore. And what kind of message is that?

First of all, stop listening to Justin Bieber and other similar crappy pop singers. Secondly, your perception is skewed, although not abnormally. I remember wondering the same thing when I was 10 or 11, and that was over twenty years ago. Trashy love songs have been popular forever, and it's just that you are sixteen and you have deep emotions that you haven't gotten used to yet.

If you look through the responses, nearly everyone who agrees with you is a teenager, and nearly everyone over 25 is telling you to relax because it's always been this way. It's not that we want to make you feel bad, or that we look down on your experience at all; we just remember being passionate teenagers ourselves. Please believe me when I tell you that you are wasting your energy being concerned about whether Justin Bieber's songs can truly describe the depth of true love.
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Never have been in love before but I imagine its when that specific person makes you feel happy inside for just the small things he/she does (smiling, laughing and being them self), Sadly I cant say iv'e had the pleasure of meeting someone who enchants me with a mere smile.
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Posted 5/4/13

mhibicke wrote:


shirayukiIce wrote:
Just because I was 6 then years ago doesn't mean I'm ignorant to how they viewed it then. Maybe I should've worded this topic more carefully. Maybe it's just the popculture and modern youth that has fabricated it and thrown it around like some kind of overused, annoying neologism like "swag". I'm also not limited to pop. I do listen to artists who pour their heart out and sing of true, pure love, and mean every word of it. Which makes me dishearted when I hear songs like say, Justin Bieber makes. Cliche loves songs which he himself can't even relate to, because he himself has admitted that he's never been in love. And also the previously mentioned "Call Me Maybe" song. It makes me feel like it's not even taken to heart, or taken seriously anymore. And what kind of message is that?

First of all, stop listening to Justin Bieber and other similar crappy pop singers. Secondly, your perception is skewed, although not abnormally. I remember wondering the same thing when I was 10 or 11, and that was over twenty years ago. Trashy love songs have been popular forever, and it's just that you are sixteen and you have deep emotions that you haven't gotten used to yet.

If you look through the responses, nearly everyone who agrees with you is a teenager, and nearly everyone over 25 is telling you to relax because it's always been this way. It's not that we want to make you feel bad, or that we look down on your experience at all; we just remember being passionate teenagers ourselves. Please believe me when I tell you that you are wasting your energy being concerned about whether Justin Bieber's songs can truly describe the depth of true love.


I don't even listen to Justin Bieber. It's pretty hard to live in much a mainstream state and not hear his songs. And ok, maybe I should grow up a little more before I can make inferences like this. I think I've learned my lesson.
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for sure it's looks different from before in the outside but love is still love..a chemical reaction that generates strong feelings for someone...people tend to break up a lot more than before though.
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The time and age of the upcoming generation is so terrifying. Teenagers getting married at the age of 17-18... divorcing 3 years later. Girls getting knocked up, OH and if you havent heard the news... they just made the plan B pill eligable to purchase at age 15... let me say that again... age 15 you can purchase a pregnency termination pill.
This is disgusting...
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There are mixed answers but to me love hasn't lost it's meaning but in some people it has.

I've never been affectionate towards someone besides family which is different.
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Posted 5/4/13
Yes and no. I think it's up to the individual to define it and put meaning into it.
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Yes and no. The theme of love has been so beaten up by the media that its the only thing played in songs these days. Eh but love is still love. If you hear about love a lot you might ignore it or retrain from believing its how it goes and etc...until you actually go through it. For some people the media and love dose affect their opinion on love differently...but since it is love we're all going encounter the same lovey dovey butterflies in my tummy feeling when it hits it us so ehhhh I wouldn't say its lost its meaning completely if it has population would be really decreasing right now eh?
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Posted 5/4/13
Reminds me of Shakespeare's Sonnet XVI (...Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds...) and Colridge's Sonnet VII (Is love a fancy, or a feeling? No. It is immortal as immaculate Truth...) LOL, stupid poetry, makes me a hopeless romantic and shit.

I don't think love has lost its meaning. Romantic, platonic, or other forms of love, I don't think they lost their meaning. Otherwise, we'd be in total chaos by now The thing is we can't romanticize everything, the ideal does not exist.
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Posted 5/5/13

shirayukiIce wrote:

It's really sad to see "love" tossed around like it's any other word. I don't think it's value is the same as it was, say, 10 years ago. I'm also sick of every other song in the world being about love. I feel like that's the default theme if you want a hit song. I don't even think half the artist who sing of it are even in love, let alone have ever left it. It just really disappoints and frustrates me.


Wait I see that you're only 16, but you do realize those "artists" you're referring to are just trying to make money off a song, so yes you are correct. They aren't sincerely singing about specific love or really even love in general. They just hope you'll "love" their single and make tons of money off you... If that sounded mean I didn’t intend it to, but hey them’s the breaks kid.
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