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Qualities of your significant other?
Posted 5/14/13

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Intelligent, not ignorant, similar personality to me, understanding, just HIMSELF.... glad I found him already. :)


LIkewise, my perfection really ^_^

Amazing, smart, open minded, confident, understanding, gorgeous in every single way imaginable and my other half! What more can I say ;3


Are you two dating each other?


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If it is too far out of their area of expertise though it can be understandable as to why they wouldn't want to discuss it too much. If they never had too much interest in it and don't care to learn about it then the conversation is basically just what you know about it and some people might feel as though they aren't as smart because they can't keep up with the conversation very well.


Yeah, I get that and I definitely don't blame for it. I mean, I know that they can't relate well to it, so I don't expect them to hold this amazingly fluid conversation on it. To be honest, that'd be downright unrealistic for me to expect it of them considering that I learned a lot of that stuff partly BECAUSE I know most people aren't too familiar with it. I'd just prefer that instead of totally ignoring me or cracking jokes about it, that they'd actually take it serious once in a while. I mean, it gets pretty old being called Sheldon every time I mention anything they aren't familiar with. Isn't half the point of talking with someone: to learn and to teach? If all we ever do is talk about things that are common knowledge, then what's the point in talking? It'd feel superficial to me to talk without the goal of actually being engaged or engaging someone else. But, then again, I've always tended to be a little off like that when it came to anything interpersonal.
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Posted 5/14/13

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justanotherguy_2005 wrote:

If it is too far out of their area of expertise though it can be understandable as to why they wouldn't want to discuss it too much. If they never had too much interest in it and don't care to learn about it then the conversation is basically just what you know about it and some people might feel as though they aren't as smart because they can't keep up with the conversation very well.


Yeah, I get that and I definitely don't blame for it. I mean, I know that they can't relate well to it, so I don't expect them to hold this amazingly fluid conversation on it. To be honest, that'd be downright unrealistic for me to expect it of them considering that I learned a lot of that stuff partly BECAUSE I know most people aren't too familiar with it. I'd just prefer that instead of totally ignoring me or cracking jokes about it, that they'd actually take it serious once in a while. I mean, it gets pretty old being called Sheldon every time I mention anything they aren't familiar with. Isn't half the point of talking with someone: to learn and to teach? If all we ever do is talk about things that are common knowledge, then what's the point in talking? It'd feel superficial to me to talk without the goal of actually being engaged or engaging someone else. But, then again, I've always tended to be a little off like that when it came to anything interpersonal.


A lot of people these days just have no interest or learning or teaching about things they feel aren't relevant. You just seem to have people in your life who aren't into it. While it would be nice to be able to actually talk to them about it they are probably very stuck in their ways and aren't going to easily be changed in that regard. Your best option is to just see them as people you can hang out and talk with and not be serious while finding other people who are interested in similar things that you can share with.
Posted 5/14/13

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justanotherguy_2005 wrote:

If it is too far out of their area of expertise though it can be understandable as to why they wouldn't want to discuss it too much. If they never had too much interest in it and don't care to learn about it then the conversation is basically just what you know about it and some people might feel as though they aren't as smart because they can't keep up with the conversation very well.


Yeah, I get that and I definitely don't blame for it. I mean, I know that they can't relate well to it, so I don't expect them to hold this amazingly fluid conversation on it. To be honest, that'd be downright unrealistic for me to expect it of them considering that I learned a lot of that stuff partly BECAUSE I know most people aren't too familiar with it. I'd just prefer that instead of totally ignoring me or cracking jokes about it, that they'd actually take it serious once in a while. I mean, it gets pretty old being called Sheldon every time I mention anything they aren't familiar with. Isn't half the point of talking with someone: to learn and to teach? If all we ever do is talk about things that are common knowledge, then what's the point in talking? It'd feel superficial to me to talk without the goal of actually being engaged or engaging someone else. But, then again, I've always tended to be a little off like that when it came to anything interpersonal.


A lot of people these days just have no interest or learning or teaching about things they feel aren't relevant. You just seem to have people in your life who aren't into it. While it would be nice to be able to actually talk to them about it they are probably very stuck in their ways and aren't going to easily be changed in that regard. Your best option is to just see them as people you can hang out and talk with and not be serious while finding other people who are interested in similar things that you can share with.


You're bound to find someone who is into it sooner or later, and when that happens boom you never know
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Posted 5/14/13

justanotherguy_2005 wrote:

A lot of people these days just have no interest or learning or teaching about things they feel aren't relevant. You just seem to have people in your life who aren't into it. While it would be nice to be able to actually talk to them about it they are probably very stuck in their ways and aren't going to easily be changed in that regard. Your best option is to just see them as people you can hang out and talk with and not be serious while finding other people who are interested in similar things that you can share with.


Yeah, I suppose. It's just hard for me to "hang out and talk with" them since, even disregarding the stuff I study, our conversations don't really mesh well. It'd be one thing if I could jive anime or manga with them (so to speak), Hell, it'd be one thing if I could jive ANY other topic with them, but all they ever want to talk about is politics. Now, I know as much about it as anyone else, but they hash and rehash the same politically charged conversations on a quasi-daily/weekly basis. That's another part of why I try to inject my studies into the conversations: because it makes me at least feel as though we aren't having the same conversation verbatim (which does ACTUALLY happen on many occasions). Still, I do know that I'm putting a lot more blame on them than they're due, and I do also feel pretty awful about it. I just feel like I'm having as much trouble relating to them as they are to me. In fact, it makes me feel like I'm another stereotypical high school kid who's drifting away from his family.
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Posted 5/14/13

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justanotherguy_2005 wrote:

A lot of people these days just have no interest or learning or teaching about things they feel aren't relevant. You just seem to have people in your life who aren't into it. While it would be nice to be able to actually talk to them about it they are probably very stuck in their ways and aren't going to easily be changed in that regard. Your best option is to just see them as people you can hang out and talk with and not be serious while finding other people who are interested in similar things that you can share with.


Yeah, I suppose. It's just hard for me to "hang out and talk with" them since, even disregarding the stuff I study, our conversations don't really mesh well. It'd be one thing if I could jive anime or manga with them (so to speak), Hell, it'd be one thing if I could jive ANY other topic with them, but all they ever want to talk about is politics. Now, I know as much about it as anyone else, but they hash and rehash the same politically charged conversations on a quasi-daily/weekly basis. That's another part of why I try to inject my studies into the conversations: because it makes me at least feel as though we aren't having the same conversation verbatim (which does ACTUALLY happen on many occasions). Still, I do know that I'm putting a lot more blame on them than they're due, and I do also feel pretty awful about it. I just feel like I'm having as much trouble relating to them as they are to me. In fact, it makes me feel like I'm another stereotypical high school kid who's drifting away from his family.


Ah. I see. That does make things difficult. Politics is one of those topics that shouldn't really be discussed with friends or family in my opinion. It just eventually causes issues if everyone isn't on the same page. I don't really know what more I can say about it. I just put on a fake persona around my parents and go with whatever.
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...when I talk with my family they tend to dismiss everything I say because they "can't understand it" (won't TRY to understand it), or they tend to tease me about it.

Yeah, me too. My parents are clearly disturbed when I talk to them about dissections I've done, or the different procedures for sacrificing rats, and the pharmacological implications of euthanasia vs decapitation. Then they nod and smile with eyes glazed over when I try to talk about my research interests or other sciency-stuff. I've learned to keep the "creepy" subjects to myself when people are eating, and to offer the same explanation of my research to non-science adults as I do to my 8 year old.

It's unreasonable to expect others to share interests just because they are family. I think my parents' jobs are boring as shit, and automatically zone out whenever they talk about them for more than a couple minutes, so why should they be interested in what I'm doing? We are different people, and so it's okay to like (and be bored by) different things.
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Yeah, me too. My parents are clearly disturbed when I talk to them about dissections I've done, or the different procedures for sacrificing rats, and the pharmacological implications of euthanasia vs decapitation. Then they nod and smile with eyes glazed over when I try to talk about my research interests or other sciency-stuff. I've learned to keep the "creepy" subjects to myself when people are eating, and to offer the same explanation of my research to non-science adults as I do to my 8 year old.

It's unreasonable to expect others to share interests just because they are family. I think my parents' jobs are boring as shit, and automatically zone out whenever they talk about them for more than a couple minutes, so why should they be interested in what I'm doing? We are different people, and so it's okay to like (and be bored by) different things.


I never really understood that. Is it seriously a problem for some people to eat while talking about or even seeing such things? I have never had any sort of issue like that.

You seem like you have a lot of cool things to talk about but with that in mind I do have to once again say that when things get too technical I probably have that "eyes glazed over" look as well. I don't like feeling like I need a dictionary on hand during conversations. >_<
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I never really understood that. Is it seriously a problem for some people to eat while talking about or even seeing such things? I have never had any sort of issue like that.

You seem like you have a lot of cool things to talk about but with that in mind I do have to once again say that when things get too technical I probably have that "eyes glazed over" look as well. I don't like feeling like I need a dictionary on hand during conversations. >_<


Yeah, well while I do talk a lot about THINGS that people don't understand, and while my professional writing tends to use more difficult vocabulary and grammar, I don't talk that way in actual conversation. In fact, when I'm joking around and not talking about any of my books or physics, people generally think that I'm a pretty downright stupid person because of how weird/goofy I tend to be. I have an AP English teacher who actually TRIES to make her conversations difficult to understand. She'll stand around in class pausing for minutes on end, trying to remember some really big word she wants to use when she could instantly say a phrase like "really big word" instead.
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Posted 5/14/13 , edited 5/14/13

mhibicke wrote:

My ideal woman is beautiful, playful, and also highly intelligent and ambitious. Empathy is a foreign concept to her, and she can't deal with people who make a spectacle of their emotions, She is fair to a fault and tolerant of the shortcomings of others, but once she loses her patience she has an explosive temper, resulting in the occasional bar fight. She is extremely independent and has a mean sense of humor. She is a terrible cook and hates housework, but loves dark beer and kung fu movies. She is easily bored and can't tolerate clingy or needy people. For some reason she likes me a lot, which is lucky for me.


I was going to add something but..... pretty much this^^
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justanotherguy_2005 wrote:
I never really understood that. Is it seriously a problem for some people to eat while talking about or even seeing such things? I have never had any sort of issue like that.

You seem like you have a lot of cool things to talk about but with that in mind I do have to once again say that when things get too technical I probably have that "eyes glazed over" look as well. I don't like feeling like I need a dictionary on hand during conversations. >_<

I never understood it either, but there are a lot of things that I don't understand about other people, and probably never will. I have enough weird quirks that I'm sure I am also confusing.

As for highly technical discussions, don't worry about it so much. That's what conventions are for - so that a whole bunch of people with esoteric expertise can engage in technical conversation while drinking the place dry.
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Posted 5/14/13 , edited 5/14/13

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mhibicke wrote:

My ideal woman is beautiful, playful, and also highly intelligent and ambitious. Empathy is a foreign concept to her, and she can't deal with people who make a spectacle of their emotions, She is fair to a fault and tolerant of the shortcomings of others, but once she loses her patience she has an explosive temper, resulting in the occasional bar fight. She is extremely independent and has a mean sense of humor. She is a terrible cook and hates housework, but loves dark beer and kung fu movies. She is easily bored and can't tolerate clingy or needy people. For some reason she likes me a lot, which is lucky for me.


I was going to add something but..... pretty much this^^


You know Julie?
Edit: Actually, I was just wondering when Spacebat was going to show up. It seems like we've been doing this often lately.
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mhibicke wrote:

You know Julie?


No, I know my better half .
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mhibicke wrote:

Yeah, me too. My parents are clearly disturbed when I talk to them about dissections I've done, or the different procedures for sacrificing rats, and the pharmacological implications of euthanasia vs decapitation. Then they nod and smile with eyes glazed over when I try to talk about my research interests or other sciency-stuff. I've learned to keep the "creepy" subjects to myself when people are eating, and to offer the same explanation of my research to non-science adults as I do to my 8 year old.

It's unreasonable to expect others to share interests just because they are family. I think my parents' jobs are boring as shit, and automatically zone out whenever they talk about them for more than a couple minutes, so why should they be interested in what I'm doing? We are different people, and so it's okay to like (and be bored by) different things.


Yeah, if I mentioned any kind of implications of euthanasia vs decapitation, my parents would definitely be disturbed, too. Though I do have to say, it does sound like one Hell of a fun conversation topic.
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Posted 5/14/13

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justanotherguy_2005 wrote:
I never really understood that. Is it seriously a problem for some people to eat while talking about or even seeing such things? I have never had any sort of issue like that.

You seem like you have a lot of cool things to talk about but with that in mind I do have to once again say that when things get too technical I probably have that "eyes glazed over" look as well. I don't like feeling like I need a dictionary on hand during conversations. >_<

I never understood it either, but there are a lot of things that I don't understand about other people, and probably never will. I have enough weird quirks that I'm sure I am also confusing.

As for highly technical discussions, don't worry about it so much. That's what conventions are for - so that a whole bunch of people with esoteric expertise can engage in technical conversation while drinking the place dry.


Same here with understanding people and having quirks. I guess that's just life.

I don't worry about it. I just glance through it and when I see I have nothing to contribute I move on. Far too many other things in life to worry about than whether or not I can understand a conversation.
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