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Have you ever had anyone try to change who you are???
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Oh, sure. I'm too nerdy, too geeky, like anime, am willing to get into a fursuit for a friend's birthday party, like to read too much.. yeah, at least one person has tried to change every one of those about me. As the saying goes, "those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind"
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yeah, i usually tell them to fuck off^^
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I have seen where that has been the case many many times. A person cheats and gets so paranoid about it that they start thinking the other one is cheating or is going to cheat and go kind of crazy about it. If someone accuses you of cheating too much I would start looking into whether or not they have a bit more...or just end it because if the person can't trust you, and they haven't cheated, then there is a bigger issue in the relationship.



And yet there are many people who rather stay in unhappy relationships than being alone. To be fair I always hated being single and I always ended up jumping from one unhappy relationship to one. But I think once you meet the right person you just know the past pain is really worth it!!
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My mom is always comparing me to other people. "Why can't you be more like ___?" It kills my self esteem every time.
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yeah my parents tried to change me but it didn't work.
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Nah, people that aren't interested in who I am generally just ignore me completely. Well, and anyone who would even try to change me would be ignored anyway because I'm not interested.
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justanotherguy_2005

I have seen where that has been the case many many times. A person cheats and gets so paranoid about it that they start thinking the other one is cheating or is going to cheat and go kind of crazy about it. If someone accuses you of cheating too much I would start looking into whether or not they have a bit more...or just end it because if the person can't trust you, and they haven't cheated, then there is a bigger issue in the relationship.



And yet there are many people who rather stay in unhappy relationships than being alone. To be fair I always hated being single and I always ended up jumping from one unhappy relationship to one. But I think once you meet the right person you just know the past pain is really worth it!!


Very true. I can't really speak from experience myself exactly but I have known many people like that who were in terrible relationships. As much as I knew how they felt I couldn't help but keep telling them that they would be fine on their own and would be better off than where they currently are. That someone else would come along. I really don't like seeing people in bad relationships. It bothers me because I want them to be happy and yet they are the only ones who can do anything about it and they choose to be unhappy.
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Yeah, a counsellour. I want to change but it's just not working.

If I could just take some pills to become a wonderfully social person whose not afraid to go out and do stuff and actually enjoy things I would.

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Fuck those people that try to change you. Nobody is your master, man.


But I thought you were my master? Now I have to go back and return these ropes, chains and I hope they will except the handcuffs back. I was really looking forward to *mumbles are all that is heard as I walk slowly into the distance*
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justanotherguy_2005

Very true. I can't really speak from experience myself exactly but I have known many people like that who were in terrible relationships. As much as I knew how they felt I couldn't help but keep telling them that they would be fine on their own and would be better off than where they currently are. That someone else would come along. I really don't like seeing people in bad relationships. It bothers me because I want them to be happy and yet they are the only ones who can do anything about it and they choose to be unhappy.


Haha you are kind enough to tell your friends to leave their bad partners, I usually just give up telling my friends if they still want to be with the people who blatantly treat my friends like doormat. You see, some people that I know actually like the attention and the sympathy they get from being the "victim", especially girls who love attention.
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miserykitsune wrote:

Yeah, a counsellour. I want to change but it's just not working.

If I could just take some pills to become a wonderfully social person whose not afraid to go out and do stuff and actually enjoy things I would.



I was given those pills. I hated it. Massive withdrawal from it too. I did talk a hell of a lot more though. I didn't care who I was talking to either.



tinyd0t wrote:


justanotherguy_2005

Very true. I can't really speak from experience myself exactly but I have known many people like that who were in terrible relationships. As much as I knew how they felt I couldn't help but keep telling them that they would be fine on their own and would be better off than where they currently are. That someone else would come along. I really don't like seeing people in bad relationships. It bothers me because I want them to be happy and yet they are the only ones who can do anything about it and they choose to be unhappy.


Haha you are kind enough to tell your friends to leave their bad partners, I usually just give up telling my friends if they still want to be with the people who blatantly treat my friends like doormat. You see, some people that I know actually like the attention and the sympathy they get from being the "victim", especially girls who love attention.


It kills me when a friend is really unhappy. If it is bad enough I even lose sleep over it because I would do anything for my friends and hate it when there is nothing I can do to help them. I know of the people who are in it for the attention as well...sadly I give it to them. I am such a sucker sometimes. v.v
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I've had family and ex girlfriends try to change me. Though I cant do much about my family, but my ex girlfriends got that status because they tried to get me to be someone I'm not. Live life the way you want, and if you want to change then pursue it, but never pursue it for someone else's sake.
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My cat tried to steal my toe once, does that count?

E: People always try to change me, because there's a lot of shit 'wrong' with me.

I like being wrong though.
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justanotherguy_2005 wrote:


miserykitsune wrote:

Yeah, a counsellour. I want to change but it's just not working.

If I could just take some pills to become a wonderfully social person whose not afraid to go out and do stuff and actually enjoy things I would.



I was given those pills. I hated it. Massive withdrawal from it too. I did talk a hell of a lot more though. I didn't care who I was talking to either.


They exist? What are they called? I thought I was just fantasising there
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miserykitsune wrote:


justanotherguy_2005 wrote:


miserykitsune wrote:

Yeah, a counsellour. I want to change but it's just not working.

If I could just take some pills to become a wonderfully social person whose not afraid to go out and do stuff and actually enjoy things I would.



I was given those pills. I hated it. Massive withdrawal from it too. I did talk a hell of a lot more though. I didn't care who I was talking to either.


They exist? What are they called? I thought I was just fantasising there


Paxil. I see commercials of lawsuits against it for women and birth defects? I don't recall exactly. I don't recommend it though. Even if you can still get it and won't have any bad side effects you just will not shut up when you are on those pills. I am pretty sure I came close to getting punched a few times because of it.
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