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I can't understand how some of you think being a loner is ok. Dating is something everyone should experience at least once in their life. Some of you can't tell me that when you see couples walking around shopping malls or at conventions and don't think about having a relationship like that.
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You obviously have met the wrong type of woman!! Where are you finding them? Cuz most of the time any chick you pick up at a Bar is definitely not the one you would want to date.... Dating is different if you actually like her in return... I would suggest finding a female older than you.... Older and more mature intellectually... Cuz only immature young girls act like that. I am secure in my relationships and let my man go out and hang with his friends.
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I can't say I've really dated...or at least I wouldn't call it a date except one time in my mid high school years (and that was a disaster).... Mostly I hung out with guys as friends and we would go dutch or whoever did the inviting would treat....we'd decide that beforehand. Anyway, back in the day I was the one who treated mostly and the other person took care of transportation (gas, etc.) which was pretty significant, because we did a whole lot of driving around, and went on trips....but I digress.... So what I'm trying to say was we didn't really date, just went out as friends, and over the course of 2-3 years it built into something special with one of the guys I hung out with that we hadn't realized until he had to move..... He couldn't leave me behind (not see me everyday) and wanted me to marry him and go with him. He didn't have to marry me (I might have gone with him anyway), but he wanted to (to do the moral thing), so we got married and moved on the same day.

That was 23 years and 4 kids ago. I still love him to bits. We have an unusual relationship, he's my best friend, (like) a brother, my lover, my husband, and my teammate. I couldn't imagine surviving (mentally & physically) the crap life hands you on your own without anyone that close by your side.........
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dating someone is basically like having a best friend who you have sex with
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26 / M / in your head
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it's fun, simple as that that being said, I've never dated anyone in my life...

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Dating is fun. First dates can be a disaster of course. Fortunately as a guy I am not usually in the position of having a disaster of a first date. From my experience most disastrous first dates are because the guy screwed up badly. Sometimes the girl does too, but I find that is rarer.

Early dates are often the most fun though. One can go all out on those. Or silly. Or something new and interesting. Early dates are getting to know the other person so those are always cool. Whether I pay or we go dutch does depend on the girl. But if the girl wants to pay for her half then she will usually say so. I will usually offer to pay for her anyway just in case it was a pro forma offer, but if she declines then that is cool. Otherwise I just assume I will be paying for everything.

Finding fun things to do on dates is also part of the fun of it. Sure one can just do a movie and dinner, but a corn maze and dinner is a lot more fun. Then there are the occasional formal dates which are always fun. The ever popular beach dates, or a waterpark. Some malls are big enough to have an indoor beach combining both window shopping and a beach date into one. And possibly a movie and dinner!

Dates release happy endorphins which are just awesome. Well, again, unless the date is a disaster, but one tries to avoid those as much as possible.

Being single has it's benefits of course. I can leave my laundry wherever I want. I can go to bed whenever I want. If I want to spend 4 days playing SWTOR straight through with only random food and bathroom breaks, I can do that. But having a relationship is more work, but also more fun. Going traveling is always fun even alone, but it is always more fun with a girlfriend or boyfriend to share the memories with.

I will not say dating is never a hassle. Sometimes constantly coming up with ideas and things to do gets wearing. Which is why the girl should come up with things to do as well. But the fun parts of dating should outweigh the bad, just like the fun times in a relationship should outweigh the bad times If things just always suck, then one is doing it wrong.
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Posted 1/11/14
Depends who you're dating really. It can either be fun or not so much.

Sometimes you can pretend to be loved by the person you're dating.
Other times you just want physical contact.

I don't know. It's a different reason for different people.
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Posted 1/11/14 , edited 1/11/14

TheRealEscargotpudding wrote:

As a girl: free stuff


LOFL

Anyways, to me, early dates are just ways of getting to know someone, who may be a prospective partner, more closely (that's why sometimes it turns out to be shit and you don't wanna see that person ever again).

Then if ya 2 click, you go on more dates, do more pricey things, like booking vacations, and in between some of the dates you have sex. And when you both feel like it, you move in, do more fancy shit, become sorta a romantic-casual relationship until you propose. It'sall about living and having someone to share your life/memories with

Also, yes, (really) bad sex may mean even the end of a series of good dates.

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Deeds1987 wrote:

A lot of comments on this thread said some very archaic things. Most couples I know go "Dutch" on dates (they split the bill). As for the point of dating, I wonder if you've read romance manga or watched romance anime or an anime that had romance? I think they lay it out pretty clearly in those shows: a spark of interest for another person... Attraction... A feeling of vulnerability... Excitement... Feeling ALIVE... A desire to share everything about yourself and not to hold back... To be freely you, without hesitation and to be accepted as such... And the feeling of elation that THIS PERSON chooses to be with YOU (ego boost).

I find it frustrating that so many people look at dating as a list of pros and cons i.e.: dating could lead to sex but it is expensive and she might want to go to a club and I have this paper due and she's probably going to text me all week evn though I'm super busy and then she'll cheat on me anyway... So why bother with dating?

Grrrr.... Truth is, everyone should look at dating as an opportunity to find their soulmate. It's something beautiful. Stop talking about money. It is irrelevant. If this person likes you for you, they will pay for their own freaking supper.


My thoughts exactly. I couldn't have explained it any better way. I don't see the whole process of "dating" special. I see finding the right person, who you can share all your thoughts with and be a best friend, special. That kind of romantic relationship is the real deal and is something truly great about life.

The guy I'm currently with is my very first boyfriend, so I can't really say how casually dating and going out with a bunch of different people unofficially is, but I certainly wouldn't consider it special.

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You'll eventually get sick of dating and when that happens enough times you get sick of the dating game. I know I did so now these days I just have a few girls that I'm really good friends with and have fun with! Sometimes leads to stuff sometimes not, it's way better than actually seeing someone and never gets stale or complicated, well, so far at least.
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