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Strangers' families and lack of empathy.
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I'm 100% certain a thread about this has NEVER been started, because this is an extremely strange one, but I'll try to explain it as best I can.

They say about 1 in 200 (some tests say 1 in 25, some 1 in 75, some 1 in 250) people are psychopathic, this being characterised by a number of things (If needed, read the wikipedia article on Psychopathy).

Now this is related to what I'll talk about now.

Have you also ever felt indifferent/barely sad when one of your immediate/extended family died? I've had two members of my family (grandfather and cousin) die in the past few years and I barely felt sad for either of them.

Also, I over and over again watch the ending to School Days, I love the bloody/gory scenes from other anime like Elfen Lied. LOVE LOVE. I get enjoyment from watching them die, especially if they're people I dislike.

Have you ever laughed/felt good about/cared nothing about a stranger/person you dislike's family member (a parent mainly)'s death? I mean, that's a lack of empathy right? A few of my acquaintances have done so (Laughed at someone saying their mother or father is dead).

I'm not saying I have (Which I have) and I'm not saying I haven't (F**k you, I just admitted I have), but have any of you ever done that? What do you think about the 'situation' as it were?

Damn this is tough to get across without me sounding insane, I hope I made sense here.
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Don't think I've ever laughed at anyone's death, but even when my own family members died, I didn't seem to feel much at all.
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Posted 5/19/13

Davidvauhn wrote:

Don't think I've ever laughed at anyone's death, but even when my own family members died, I didn't seem to feel much at all.


Neither did I, which I should have made a point in this post.
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Well, I guess laughing at someone's death is a bit much, but if you barely knew some people in your family, you'd feel less sad if they died, right? Less empathy for strangers, I guess?
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My grandmother died about six months ago while I was living with her and my mother to help take care of her. My mom woke me up that morning to "say goodbye" before they came to get her body and seeing her like that really had little affect if any on me at all.

Not sure what that says about me, but at the funeral seeing all the crying and emotion at the montage video of her life and open casket definitely had me wondering why I wasn't affected by it as much as others were.

Your second example I've never had to deal with.
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When my grandmother passed away, I was heartbroken and I still miss her to this day. However, when my uncle passed away and at a young age as well, I didn't feel much of anything. I felt sorry for him yes, but not much more than that.

While I feel sorry when you hear of strangers dying, it does not affect me because I do not know them personally and that does not give me a chance to know if I like or dislike them.
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Maybe not that extreme, but i do feel a sense of similarity.
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Well, if we cared about everyone's death that we did and didn't know, we'd always be unhappy, right?

So, I guess its better to only care when people very close to you die, because you'll have less grief :3
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2 words for this topic. Monkey spheres.

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haikinka wrote:

2 words for this topic. Monkey spheres.

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Don't give me that /thread shit bro, we are keeping this thread going!
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You know, I just heard that the mother of my friend died, and I was wondering on starting a thread about "what to say to someone who has lost their mother." Because I have no idea.

I have lost my grandmother and I remember feeling nothing in the beginning (everybody else was crying but I wasn't). I think I was sort of in denial, or just didn't quite grasp the situation, but when we had to say goodbye to her I had to cry a lot.

I think that if you're not really close to the person who died, it's not that weird not to feel affected by their death. In my case, my friend having lost her mother, I can't even imagine what it's like. I feel sorry for her loss, but my empathy doesn't really go further than that; I just can't understand her situation enough. But I think death is definitely not something to laugh about!

I like gore and death in anime too (watching shigurui right now ><) and I don't know if it's normal to enjoy that either. But I only like gore and death when it's anime: if it's real people I'm out.
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If you don't personally know the person who has died of course you won't be as sad as the people they did know on a personal level. So everything about that is normal and happens all the time. As for laughing at someone's death, I haven't done that before. Even if they died in an odd way, straight out laughing seems like a an asshole move.
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We all have different ways of dealing with these things.
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My parents are both dead, lolololol.

On a serious note, they actually are, and I doubt I will ever laugh about it.
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PrincessLunza wrote:

Don't give me that /thread shit bro, we are keeping this thread going!


But I just answered everything about the thread.

Monkey spheres

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