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Strangers' families and lack of empathy.
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spacebat wrote:


mhibicke wrote:
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Using common checklist criteria, I am a highly functioning borderline psychopath with limited capacity for empathy. I've often laughed at death because it was ironic or ridiculous in some way, but I have never laughed at another person's grief. Unless I care about the grieving person enough for their experience to affect me directly, my only emotional response is to be concerned that they may cry at me and want a hug or something. Getting cried and snotted on is seriously disgusting, and not funny at all.


I am the most sane and empathetic person I know, even those who love me say I am an extremely serene individual even as a child. To my knowledge I have never cried and my parents have no recollection of me crying as a child either and I seldom get angry. So lets not use a lack of tears as a criteria for psychopathy. I agree with mhibicke, tears are a waste of emotion and it's unseemly.

I have been to a psychologist once in my life, this was after I had dealt with a kid that was bullying my younger brother. I didn't hit the bully I simply convinced him to never come near anyone I spoke to. I remember the psychologist asking if I had ever felt like hurting someone or a pet. I walked out and I've never seen a psychologist since. Why anyone would want to go to school for a pseudo-science is beyond me.

Laughing at funerals when you see other people crying is a common coping mechanism, it's a ridiculous thing to watch; so many ugly red faces with tears streaming down their face.


wtf how is it "pseudo science" lmfao
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Some people can cry and some people laugh because they can't cry. It's an uncomfortable situation to find yourself in so you laugh. As i said, it's a coping mechanism. You have to admit, people do not look pretty when they cry... they're often very ugly.


Oh, I understand that maybe if you had a nervous laugh because you don't know how to deal with greif seems understandable. Everyone copes in different ways. But, I guess I can't relate to wanting to laugh at someone crying who is dealing with heartache because you think they look ugly when crying. My father died and my nephew was murdered in the past 2 years and if someone were to have laughed at us because we looked ugly crying I think I would have lost it on them.
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I do not get joy of seeing or hearing about people dying, there are some cases, for an example, when I heard Gadaffi was killed, I was happy about that, because he was an evil man -.- I might crack some jokes about people that died, not to disrespect them, but get over them.
I have cried at funerals and such when people that I knew, and were close to died, but I never felt sad..
It was an instinct, it might be that it's because I'm one of those 1 out of 250 that are psychopathic in that way that I cannot feel sad by such means, i mean thinking about it, if someone like my mom died right now, I'm not sure if I would get that sad, might sound like i'm an evil person, but I cannot imagine that I would be that beat up about it. When I was crying about those that I knew, the only thing I felt at that moment were the tears going down my cheek, didn't encounter any "emotional" damage so to say, i'm probably just that messed up -_-

But I have never really had any experience with this, beside those I was talking about a few lines up this text, they were not family by blood, but they were close enough that I saw them a lot.
Could I laugh at someone that just died? I don't think I would, because I have the common sense to see that it's wrong, unless it's someone who really deserves it, but then again, I don't think I would just straight out laugh "HA HA HA" he's dead -.- I don't think that would make any sense to me, I would maybe try to joke about it and then laugh about the joke, but not at the fact that he's dead. This also only counts if the person was indeed a bad person or at least someone that I disliked.


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It is fairly common to have no feelings about the death of a loved one, it is typically numbness. It is also quite common to have a range of emotions, not all sad, about the death of someone you care about. It doesn't mean that the person is psychopathic. Feeling nothing regarding the death of someone that you do not know is normal and does not indicate a lack of empathy. Seems people don't even understand what empathy is, though, so whatever. (hint: empathy does not mean to feel what others feel, that is a supernatural, fantasy-only type of empathy).
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Luvreichan wrote:

If you don't personally know the person who has died of course you won't be as sad as the people they did know on a personal level. So everything about that is normal and happens all the time. As for laughing at someone's death, I haven't done that before. Even if they died in an odd way, straight out laughing seems like a an asshole move.


^This. Also if you weren't close to a family member (or person), you won't really miss them, and if you hated their guts (they made your life miserable) you'd be relieved they're finally gone. Laughing in front of the bereaved is just plain arrogant and disrespectful. That's one of the lowest things a person could do. If you must laugh or jump for joy at their misfortune, at least have the tact to do it internally or wait until you're home alone.
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I've had family members die but I wasn't close to them so I can't say I was distraught. I'm lucky enough not to have lost anyone I am close to but sometimes I get a horrible feeling I'd miss more the convenience of having them around then the person them-self. I really hope that isn't actually the case.

I wouldn't laugh or feel happy about anyone's family dying, unless they were a peadophile or something. I wouldn't be terribly upset as I don't know anyone else's parents that well but I also can't see why it'd be amusing in any way.
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I feel emotional of hearing death even if is a stranger don't you get emotional if its touchy subject in an anime for example i know you guys do and thats just a show not a real person.
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Well if you didn't know them... then it's normal.. I mean, people die every second, and are we supposed to be sad all our life for them? no.... you'd be constantly suffering.
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