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nothing ventured; nothing gained

tell her something, buddy.. before it's too late.
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Well, one way to confirm if she's into you without confessing is to ask the girl itself for advice about your situation by using the identity of a third person. Be careful not to get so obvious about it. And if you think that her advice hints a possibility, then go for a confession.
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Go for it.

If you feel you're just a friend now then either she'll say yes or you'll both go back to being just friends. If she consistently avoids you after that then she wasn't much of a friend to begin with.

Take it from me, I was friends with a girl for 3 years, asked her out, got rejected and we both went on to being cool friends. She's like family now. It's been 7 years now for me, too.
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There is always that risk. I have confessed numerous times, and most all of them did not want to talk to me for fear of it getting awkward and weird. Although some did not care and ignored it altogether. Those few that I told I had been in love with, after 7-10 years they find me attractive, kind of hinting at me that they kind of want to meet up. It is weird, since before some of them were ignoring me when I had told them. Of course I found out that many of them were either poor, anorexic, or had extremely bad relationships with gangsters (go figure haha), and sadly enough a percentage of them are beautiful but I lost interest in them after they didn't want me.

Even if she does take you out of the picture as a friend, you can always keep trying to stay friends. Maybe later down the line she will go out with you, if not now. Probably the best thing for you is to do it in private, around no one else, and just tell her that you have liked her for a while and been meaning to tell her, but couldn't. Then tell her something nice and sweet, and just don't ruin the relationship or you might never see her again.

I know you are afraid, but you need to make the decision now. We as people on a screen cannot make it for you. Do you want her as an even closer friend? Or just a best friend?
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Posted 5/21/13

justanotherguy_2005 wrote:


botogamer wrote:


justanotherguy_2005 wrote:


botogamer wrote:

I've struggled with the friend zone before. I tell you now, if you do not confess and make yourself stand out of that zone, then you will never have the relationship you want with her. Love always takes quite a bit of effort. I found that out the hard way. I let it slip from me and I was too late. Don't wait. If she says no, then you can either keep trying till she sees you differently, or at least you now know so you can look for others to like. Either way, you do yourself no favors by just waiting. Hope my two cents help


Or just bring out the rope and duct tape. Soundproof a basement ahead of time though.


Damn it you should have said that first. Now I bought this rope and duct tape for nothing
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(In case you didn't get it, I don't have a basement.... This joke feels wrong haha)


It's cool. I don't have one either. Would have to find a family that does and...well...I am sure there is room for them down there as well.


I got a soundproof room >:D
Posted 5/21/13
Dude, you're 17...

Wondering... This is a personal thread, no?
Posted 5/21/13

pandrasb wrote:




I got a soundproof room >:D


Do I have to pay the cleaning cost?



demongurrl13 wrote:

Dude, you're 17...

Wondering... This is a personal thread, no?


Yea I mentioned that in the first reply. I was just too lazy to bother reporting it myself and figured someone else would.
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She calls you a brother? it might be too late already...

you could ask one of her friends to ask her casually, like "who do you like? what about "<you>"?...." just to kind of make sure before you step over boundaries, because once you confess it can be awkward and weird, or good depending how she reacts.

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botogamer wrote:

I've struggled with the friend zone before. I tell you now, if you do not confess and make yourself stand out of that zone, then you will never have the relationship you want with her. Love always takes quite a bit of effort. I found that out the hard way. I let it slip from me and I was too late. Don't wait. If she says no, then you can either keep trying till she sees you differently, or at least you now know so you can look for others to like. Either way, you do yourself no favors by just waiting. Hope my two cents help


That bolded bit, I'm gonna go ahead and say that's bad advice, especially in this case. If you've known someone for years, bring up the idea of a romantic relationship, and they say no, they aren't going to change their mind and persisting will just make them uncomfortable and is therefore the sort of thing that will ruin a continued friendship. It's a pretty clear sign that they just aren't attracted to you, you can't even use the excuse of 'Oh, well, when they get to know my personality...'
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justanotherguy_2005
Do I have to pay the cleaning cost?


nah ceramic tile flooring easy clean

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Your thread is considered a personal thread and so I am sorry to inform you that I will have to close it.

I suggest you to post in the following thread linked below:

http://www.crunchyroll.com/forumtopic-1099/the-general-helpadvice-thread

You will get better responses there and hope that you will get happy results!


For reasons as to why I am locking your thread, please click below and see #8:

http://www.crunchyroll.com/forumtopic-406095/crunchyroll-site-forum-rules

Henceforth, I am going to lock your thread.

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