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Your Partner's Parents.
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Posted 5/27/13 , edited 5/27/13
Do you call your partner's parents by their first name or their last name?

For Example: "Hello Logan, how's your day going?" or "Hello Mr.Gatsby, how are you today?"

I usually call my boyfriend's parents by their last name. I was told once you feel comfortable with them, you should call them by their first names. Although, I feel like I would be disrespecting them if I did. I do find it quite weird calling them by their first names even though my boyfriend and I have been dating for quite a while.
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I call my gf's parents by their first names, I respect them but am at a point where it really isn't a formal relationship or anything.
Posted 5/27/13

xxashtaichoxx wrote:

Do you call your partner's parents by their first name or their last name?

For Example: "Hello Logan, how's your day going?" or "Hello Mr.Gatsby, how are you today?"

I usually call my boyfriend's parents by their last name. I was told once you feel comfortable with them, you should call them by their first names. Although, I feel like I would be disrespecting them if I did. I do find it quite weird calling them by their first names even though my boyfriend and I have been dating for quite a while.


^ Always Mr. and Mrs. with me. Although here lately I've been doubting if adults even like it. This one time I was at a friend's house, and his girlfriend's parents were over there. So as I was talking to them I said, "Yes, sir." He then made a face like I had said the wrong thing and then said, "You don't have to sir me." Now coming from a family and just having an overall environment of 'sirs' and 'yes mams' being a MUST, I was like !!!! I don't know why but it made me mad. I was just trying to be respectful and this guy acts like I just stole money out of his bank account.

...But yeah I've never called any adults by their first names, besides my co workers where I worked. They introduced themselves with their first names so I just went with it. Although I stilled said the usual yes sirs and stuff.
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I totally must agree! I was raised to use my manners when it comes to such things. I was at work the other day helping a customer, using my manners I replied "Yes sir, we have that in stock." The customer looked at me like I was crazy and said, "I don't look that old, don't call me sir." I stumbled upon my words thinking what to say, I just simply nodded to his response. Although, I use "Yes, ma'am. No, Sir" with my boyfriends parents still. His dad chuckled when I used yes sir, encouraging me not too. I suppose maybe to get comfortable with them and not walking on egg shells. I still use my manners with his mother since, well it's his mom and all and I am a girl. That's a whole different ball game, but you get what I mean.
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I swear I can't stand when people get all agitated when youths show the proper respect. Ahhhhh it makes me RAGEEEE just thinking about that moment when it happened to me lol. Even reading your post with what that customer did to you makes me get mad. I mean it doesn't mean 'old' for goodness sakes! For me it basically says 'you are a tad older than me, I want to show you the proper respect' but the adult that I had a run in with I guess translated it to: "Hey, you old fart." Seriously kudos to you for handling it so well in front of that customer, my process of faces would be this if this happened to me again: haha I dunno why this issue bugs me so much. I guess because it makes my run ins with adults more awkward now since I don't know what 'respect' lvl they want me to show now. When I especially start dating again I will be just as confused. Your bf's dad handled it the nice and really cool way though. Why can't all adults handle it that way???
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My wife and I usually plug in our GPS, enter the address code. If we happen to be in the area we bring flowers and make a concerted effort to appear in daylight. It's not that cemetaries are creepy at night. It's just hard to navigate unmarked roads, trails without overhead lighting and proper signage. It's also disrespectful to knock over stones looking for a shortcut across the greenery. Gad, it just sucks to get old nowadays.
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Well my partner only knows his mother and I generally call her by her first name in text and try to avoid saying her name in person haha. It just feels weird to call her by her name! Weird!

His mother is pretty cool though no issues at least
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I usually forget what the heck their names even are, so I just don't communicate with them.
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Posted 5/28/13 , edited 5/28/13
It's a cultural thing, but I'd have to call my partner's parents "mom" or "dad" also. And we can't refer to older people by their name either.
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no matter who i was dating, always called them by their first names, I don't do the "Mrs/Mr" crap, but yet I tended to avoid the parents, always some kind of awkward convo I didn't want to have.
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Pa and Ma
hey pa! hey ma!
Posted 5/28/13
I just talk in their direction.
Posted 5/28/13
Never met them I'm the whole year and a half that we have been together. Doesn't look like I'm getting married anytime soon.
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I talk casually with them, call them by there first names and what not. They told me to, so that's what I do.
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Posted 5/28/13

Evilshadowx wrote:

I talk casually with them, call them by there first names and what not. They told me to, so that's what I do.
Yeah, I can see that not being a problem. If anything that's a good thing, shows that they are quite comfortable with you. Score points for you old sport, cheers. Oh, by the way, your avatar is freaking awesome.

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