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Posted 5/29/13
Conversation? As in like, with real people and stuff? But that means I actually have to leave my room. I don't understand.
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Usually I add humor to it, even if its just potty humor, it goes a long way to keep it interesting. I start a conversation usually by asking how the other person has been since last time I seen them. I usually end it by looking at the time and saying I have something to do, then wish them well, smile and leave.
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i do as i always do every night:

try to take over the conversation with my great sense of humor that only i understand that's how i win the conversation
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Much as they say a writer should write what they know, it is best to talk about your interests - the conversation will flow much more naturally that way. People love to talk with somebody that is passionate about their subject.

That being the case, I suggest making every effort to bring the topic of your conversations around to anime. You will never find yourself unable to hold up your end of the conversation again, and nobody can accuse you of being quiet, shy, anti-social or anything of the like.

Very important: don't be the guy that talks about the weather. There's nothing interesting to say about the weather; everybody already saw the weather before they ran into you, on their way to school or work. The only people that really care about the weather are weathermen, much the same way that the only people that care about the winning numbers to a lottery are the people gambling on it.

Always remember that the key to good conversation is making sure that people find it interesting enough to mention your conversation to others afterward. Nobody ever says, "Yeah, so I was talking with Frank earlier and he said it was getting a bit warm lately". I guarantee you, though, if you talk to people about anime, it'll come up in their conversations later in the day.
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I usually don't make any effort to continue the conversation, if the other person is also a quiet person, then I become quiet as well. I think I'm flexible depending on the other person. I'm able to converse if the other person talks a lot too.

However, when I do get into those "awkward silence" situations, I say whatever comes to mind, no matter how ridiculous it is. If the other person don't say something interesting back, then I just become quiet and feel guilty-free.
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Posted 5/30/13
It just depends on who I'm talking to.
If I dislike the person: K, ok, yeh, cool etc.
But normally I would ask how they are and stuff to show them I care, but if they show no interest I wouldn't reply or blunt them.
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Slap them and tell them they shoulda brought more money? O.o
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Shy-Anime-Guy wrote:



Really all i do is try to get the other person to elaborate on how their day was and the stuff they are interested in. its a good way to go about it but sometimes I hit a dead end or i'm at a loss for words. :x


That's a great start. "Everybody wants to hear their name..." as the band Love & Rockets once sang.

Always take an interest in the person you're speaking with. By-the-way, you're always speaking with someone... you're not talking to them. You talk to your kids. You speak or talk with your friends, clients, lovers, etc... Keep eye contact as much as possible. Lack of eye contact, lack of interest.

So back to where you're at: ask them about themselves, listen to them, confirm or deny them, AND then as the conversation begins to gap or they tire of talking about themselves, begin adding a bit about yourself using the same questions you asked them.

As you interject a bit about you, ask them what they think. Get them involved in evaluating your responses.

Try to keep it as positive as possible. Always keep it upbeat when speaking with clients, co-workers, and superiors. Always. Two things about negative conversations: they dead end (always) and they eventually burn people out.

Don't gossip. "He who gossips to you, gossips about you." Gossip is the lowest form of conversation. Leave if for those that have the intellectual agility of a small soap dish.

Be topical. If the conversation is beginning to wind down, but you sense the person wants to go on or you have time to kill, keep some news stories in you "pocket" and talk about them. Don't forget to ask them what they think about it/them. Or, bring up broader ideas. Food... almost always a good topic. Try to stay away for politics & faith if you can.

If you're not interested in someone, don't fake it. Don't "act" like you care if you don't care. Be kind and bow out gracefully. Don't feign interest in people. It harms them and yourself.

Good luck and enjoy!
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Posted 5/30/13 , edited 5/30/13
Well I've already been labeled a horrible conversationalist, so I just don't talk to people anymore. Gone weeks already without muttering a single word to anybody.
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Posted 5/30/13
Apparently when I try to start a conversation I talk about random nonsense...
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Posted 5/30/13

Somewhat_Insane_Monkey wrote:

Apparently when I try to start a conversation I talk about random nonsense...


HOLY SHIT IM FROM NEEDVILLE
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Posted 5/30/13

YepImaNerd wrote:


Somewhat_Insane_Monkey wrote:

Apparently when I try to start a conversation I talk about random nonsense...


HOLY SHIT IM FROM NEEDVILLE


Oh dude shit really? I know where that is I live in Wharton about an hour away from houston.
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Posted 5/30/13
I pretty much kill every conversation. I seem to be gifted at this. I'm not the one to usually start them either.

It's pretty hard to get my interest though.
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oo ya i go to wharton all the time. i bought my first car at the don elliot auto world there..

btw thats how you start a conversation
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Posted 5/30/13

YepImaNerd wrote:



oo ya i go to wharton all the time. i bought my first car at the don elliot auto world there..

btw thats how you start a conversation


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