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Post Reply What's a good way to gain some self-confidence?
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Posted 6/2/13
I've dealt with this problem for a long time and i was hoping to get some advice on how to fix it
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People always say to "stay positive" or something generic like that, but people with self-confidence issues they have no idea how hard that can be!
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Find something your good at and just practice it. Talents can be very rewarding.
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1. Laugh a little but don't doubt

Really self-confident people don't take themselves too seriously; they're so confident and comfortable in their own skin, they don't need to. Human beings waste lots of energy trying to be seen as like other people around them, but self-confident people don't have to be like everyone else.

Self-confidence means allowing for your own differences, so learn to relax with your peculiarities, idiosyncrasies, and eccentricities. And know that recognizing your own differences doesn't mean you have to doubt your decisions.

Knowing your weak areas and being comfortable with knowing what you are not so good at is a cornerstone of self-confidence.

2. Be prepared to fail with confidence

Self-confidence gives you the freedom to make mistakes and cope with failure without feeling that your world has come to an end or that you are a worthless person. We hear a lot about having the confidence to be successful, but it takes self-confidence to fail and manage that failure in ways that don't damage your self-esteem.

This is important: Self-confidence doesn't consist of knowing for sure something will go well. It has more to do with relaxing with the certainty that you can handle uncertainty, even if that means some kind of failure. Real self-confidence imbues you with an overriding sense of "whatever happens, I'll be okay!" It's bigger than both success and failure.

3. Focus on your strengths

It's so easy to dismiss or forget what you've achieved, what you're good at, your personal positive attributes. Regularly take stock and take time to dwell on all the stuff you know you do well. Don't dismiss things because they seem natural or easy to you: "Oh, anyone can bake a cake, write a piano concerto, help make an upset friend feel better, make others laugh!"

Write a list now of absolutely everything you know you can do either well or just proficiently. It might be as simple as driving your car or giving a speech, writing neatly or knowing how to sing. But remember: don't dismiss it because whatever it is, millions of people can't do it.

The essence of self-confidence is having faith not only in your own abilities but also in your own potential.
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I've found that hobbies help a lot.

Find something that you enjoy doing and work on it :)


Hopefully that helps!
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Posted 6/2/13 , edited 6/2/13
Drink lots and lots of alcohol!
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Remind yourself how awesome you are at any opportunity. eventually it will stick I know because im awesome
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listen to Lil B. BASED GOD
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do more of the things you like and good at :)
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Posted 6/3/13
Stop doubting yourself. Change how you look at the possibility of failure. This can depend on what you are trying to be more self confident in though.
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Stop being around people, sorry but this is the truth.

If you surround yourself with people, one of them are bound to drag you down....which is why I have no friends.
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Surround yourself with people. The more people youre around, the more likely you are to become more comfortable with yourself. Youll start to notice people's flaws and realize that they are just as imperfect as you, therefore boosting your self confidence. Hope that helps.
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Posted 6/3/13 , edited 6/3/13

FlyinDumpling wrote:

Stop being around people, sorry but this is the truth.

If you surround yourself with people, one of them are bound to drag you down....which is why I have no friends.


That's not entirely true. The right kind of friends will help you. My self confidence isn't that great when it comes to something like talking to girls, in fact its terrible. When i try talking to a girl or express myself in a difficult situation I stutter very badly. But when my friends are there cheering me on I can do a whole lot more. So in my opinion and experience, friends help a lot (if their good friends).
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Posted 6/3/13 , edited 6/3/13
#1 Don't give a sh*t about what others think of you

#2 Don't give a sh*t if you fail, at least you tried, which is more than some people do

#3 Don't give a sh*t about pleasing anyone, 'cause you can't please everyone

#4 There are billions of people, places, & things on this planet, don't sweat it if it doesn't work out with someone, something, or somewhere....move on to the next victim.

There's a Christian version of this list, but I don't know if you are one so unless you ask, I won't say anything except that it is similar to this list, but without the cursing and a few added items.


This cat's got the right idea....
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Posted 6/3/13
you just have to learn not to be scared of failure.

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