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Post Reply What's a good way to gain some self-confidence?
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Posted 6/3/13
Realizing what your mind is capable of.
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I've found that exercising is good. It makes you feel better about your body and that in turn boosts your overall confidence.
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Train in a martial art for awhile. Look around your area to see what options are available. This is not about becoming "a bad ass". Research has actually shown that training in karate or some other MA leads to increased confidence.

edit: Kurenai_Taka's suggestion to regularly exercise is also a very good suggestion. It increases endorphins and serotonin levels, which will make you feel better and be more confident.

Also, "you are what you consistently pretend to be". A lot of people who I talk to were like you, OP, but they pretended to be confident people. Eventually this became true for them. In effect, it's like training your mind to be confident, and the more they practiced the more confident they honestly became.

Lastly, remember that most people simply don't notice the imperfections that you're concerned about. Again, studies have shown this to be true. Odds are that whatever has you doubting yourself are things that others don't notice. We focus a lot more on ourselves and our imperfections than anybody else does.

We're all humans with many of the same imperfections and concerns.
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Just do what I do and care about no one but yourself. You will get around in life and give little crap about why you do the things you do.

Plus it always hurts less if you get stepped on or shot down.
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I used to have a lot of self-confidence but life started going a different direction than i expected and so i have lost quite a bit of self-confidence. It's all about building yourself up for it, you have to believe in yourself. (If not you , then who else? It's only you who can help yourself) You have to know yourself well so you know your strengths and weaknesses. Work on improving yourself if there is something about yourself that you don't like, also have to learn to accept yourself for the way you are if there are things you cannot change. I'm not saying that you have to change, just realize your worth. Have your head up high, and aim for the skies...The world is yours.
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Ignore what others say about you because they tend to be wrong. Find something your passionate about and immerse yourself. I used to pretty lost/sad back in high school but then I discovered I enjoyed working computers/programming, so Immersed myself in it. Pretty soon, I felt happy that I was able to do something worthwhile. It's all about finding out what you want life and making goals. It's pretty cliche but very true.
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That is brilliant. I laughed. Thank you.

And OP, just do something you're proud of. It's really that simple. I'm serious, it may seem like a dubious journey; finding something you're good at and then excelling to the point of creating pride. But it works. Once you're proud of yourself, and you display this pride, other people will notice.

Self confidence is something that the majority of people lack, so don't feel alone. Once you gain it, you join the minority, a positive minority. And people will respect you for that.
Posted 6/7/13
Go skydiving

Posted 6/7/13
L2 Not GAF...

If you can decode that, you're one step closer to being one confident mofo. Peace!
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Be around the right people. And workout.

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The best thing I ever did for my self-esteem was work as a pole dancer for a few years. Since then I have powerful belief that I deserve all my hedonistic self-glorification. My minions should grovel before me and beg for me to step on their faces. No really, this happens sometimes.

This path may not be right for you, though.
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Listen to empowering music before whatever it is you plan to do or during it if possible. Can be anything from metal to hiphop.

Eminem's - "I'm not afraid" has done wonders for me before giving a public speech at my college.

Just carry a mp3 player around with you if you have to, I carry mine just about everywhere.

One last option if your over 21 is a little bit of alcohol. No, I'm not joking. A little bit can help you relax if your tense.
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Well your inspiration can help you to gain some confidence.
Posted 6/7/13 , edited 6/7/13
Tomorrow is a good day.

Oh, wait... I read that wrong.

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saksiss wrote:

Drink lots and lots of alcohol!


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