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Many women are catty (or just bitches). I think a lot of them feel the need to be better than other women even if it's not so, you see it all the time in high school films like Mean Girls. Women in general seem to have tendencies to belittle and criticize other women, especially if they are successful or beautiful. I am sure men have their own ways of competing against each other but they seem to treat their guy friends better than women do with their own friends.

Why do you think this is the case? Are women's insecurities/jealousy always to blame or is it something else?
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I'd say it's a people thing
Yes if you go purely on generalizations men and women tear each other down to build themselves up in different ways
I'm not sure but I think it's just people
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it boils down to dominance, those that they think are a threat get torn down. Guys aren't in that league so they largely are unaffected (not always though)
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guys have drinking contest, and girls talk down on one another. i feel like its a competition, it shouldn't be, but that appears to be the case for a lot.
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I would say its probably depending on the person. Men and women both can hold a grudge and judge others in a heartbeat. I agree that insecurities may play a role. An example with guys is what some call little man syndrome. If you play sports you have probably seen the guy who is shorter or smaller than the others on the team but he always exerts too much force or gets in your face a lot. This is the guy that chucks the ball at you when all he should have done was tossed it. Its because he is lacking in one area that he feels compelled to make it up in another. Also with most guys I feel like it is more respected than looked down on. I mean if you are more muscular than me or you make more money than good for you, it means you put more effort into it than I did. Then again I am pretty laid back so this might just be me.
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More generalizations. I understand though. It's another thing that get's swept under the "why I'm a misanthropic/misogynist" rug. I contribute it to my observation of genders. males will destroy material items (usually unintentionally) while women on the other hand destroy your psyche. And for the most part I don't think they understand when they're doing it. And It's almost as if they are not satisfied until they make your crumble from inside out. I don't think it's the whole "queen bee" thing as it is about their own insecurities.
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I think it boils down to natural/primitive instincts. It's one of those instincts that humans cannot abandon (no matter how much they try to overcome it). It's like sexual desires, you know, it's wired down in your biology. There's nothing you can do to abandon those feelings.

It would be unnatural to not feel any competition towards your own gender.
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I've always wondered the same. That's why I'm not really fond of most girls, besides the ones I'm friends with. The ones I'm friends with aren't like other girls. I wouldn't say they're tom boyish either, but they defiantly don't sit around and gossip about other girls or other people's affairs.

I also agree with GayAsianBoy. I never really thought about that! It makes sense why we do these things, just as animals fight over mates and/or other resources. We were built to strive for survival, just as animals do in natural selection. Or something like that. I never really did as well in science, but I do understand most of the ethical and most obvious/important things.
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Reality: answering that question won't improve them.
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that's just girls its to show dominance i never liked the Bitch gossip stuff like tomboy mode chill with the lads

and men like yep W/e lets drink and get wasted then draw faces on the person who passes out 1st
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Mean Girls is not an accurate depiction of high schools...
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TheRealEscargotpudding wrote:

Mean Girls is not an accurate depiction of high schools...


Mean Girls is a very accurate representation of the girls of my former high school.

On another note, I think it's a gender difference. I'll fight with if I have a beef, or we'll just drink or whatever. Woman tend to bitch and downtalk eachother.

I rarely see catfights. On the other hand, I've seen two grown men beat the shit out of each other, and five minutes later, they're hugging like nothing ever happened. Meanwhile the women are still bitching. Each gender settles things differently, and frankly, my methods are neither.

And before anyone states I'm just a naive 18-year old who doesn't know shit, I'd like to invite you to my place. I have seen the world in many lights. Don't judge by age, for you might surely be mistaken.

Also women can be downright fucking hateful when it comes to other women and even men. I know men who are complete douches, but I know women who could easily put these men to shame, and I know why. The men I know tend to handle things more on the physical end. The women I know will rip your mind in half and throw it in a garbage compacter. And then they'll step on what's left of your mentality or psyche for further insult and injury.

Me, I'm a pacifist. I know if people ever got me fighting, things would not stop. And I don't like to see blood.
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It's like one of the episodes of Family Guy.
The bitches tore each other up within 3 minutes of meeting each other in a virtual world. They did not even tried to figure out their names yet.




FlyinDumpling wrote:I think a lot of them feel the need to be better than other women even if it's not so, you see it all the time in high school films like Mean Girls.


I did not get my hs yearbook because the girls in my school actually replicated the burn book in the movie Mean Girls.
The school dismissed of publishing any yearbook on that year.
(except the IB "I'm Better" League. They got all the money to produce their private yearbook.)
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There are many factors that influence people's behavior. One that hasn't been mentioned is: when people are socializing they often attempt to be humorous. However many people are not very clever and so they stoop to degrading and criticizing others often in a sarcastic way, and it gets laughs. I noticed this in highschool, and while I always made attempts at wry humor, or self-deprecating it often fell flat. I was probably not very clever, or my friends just didn't understand I was joking...
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Because it's amusing for men to watch. Women are there to amuse men.
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