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Alright, so I've got a little bit of an ethical conflict going through my head right now. My ex, we'll call her "K", and I broke up 2 and a half months ago because of some really stupid stuff I did that I really regret and has changed me as a person now. I had a bit of a drug problem and I kept it secret from K because I didn't know how to tell her until she found out and then I'm sure you can picture the rest.

Afterward I joined a recovery group and I'm getting a lot better now, but she still was very hurt by what I had done and couldn't find it in her heart to forgive me. Yet we still hang out and stuff but I just wasn't sure of her feelings post break up and there was still a hint of K never forgiving me sooooo.. I decided to ask this girl from my work out to a dinner date later this evening. We'll call her "S." She is very cute and I get a long pretty well with her and I wanted to try going out with someone new because I needed to move on from my ex.

However, recent developments proved that K may be slowing warming back up to me. I really wanna make things work out with K because of our history, we really did love each other, but I don't know if I'm wasting my time on her.

I really want to give S a chance because I think she is a really great person but I don't want to lead her on and hurt her feelings if things don't end up working out. It's only a first date though and I really wanted to experience other women out there. So the question is, "Am I leading S on if I don't know how I feel exactly?"
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Posted 6/19/13
you might have better luck using this sticky for relationship advice
http://www.crunchyroll.com/forumtopic-1099/the-general-helpadvice-thread
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Posted 6/19/13
Indeed, best to ask that question in relationship advice. Personally speaking, you haven't committed to S or K at this point, so you're not really leading S on. Now, if you knowingly go into a full blown relationship with S and still have unresolved feelings for K that you think will interfere, then you're asking for trouble. Anyway, locked.
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