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Posted 6/23/13 , edited 6/23/13
Do you guys know people around you, Either IRL or on the internet, who you try to actually initiate conversation with but they just end it as quick as they can and use short replies?

Sometimes its like that for me with a few people, other days they actually contribute. its weird its like they can't make up their minds or anything >.<

anyway, how do you deal with people like this? What do you do when you talk to them? do you try to save the conversation or let it die?

Thoughts, opinions, etc would be much appreciated ^.^;
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Well first off, why try so hard to communicate with someone that doesn't try at all?
Anyways, first rule of thumb---- people love talking about themselves. Always. From that find out their intrests and then normally the conversation starts rolling.

But usually people that kill convos are either boring as hell, dicks, or they might not like you and hope you get the hint, at which point you really should and move on. Not really worth wasting time on people for the sake of conversation.
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If someone gave me short replies, I just ignore them. However , If you really want to talk to them just keep persisting them. Sure it seems clingy but you're trying and hopefully it shows to them that you're interested?
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All the time. I like my conversations in depth, and if not slightly, longer than just "lol" and "yeah." and they try to stop them. So I just quit talking to them. Then they come to me and wonder why I don't talk to them.
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Been through that a whole mess of times, and the best thing you can do is either kill the conversation, or move on to something else. I don't know if you're talking about text messages or talking in person, but I'm a huge douche when it comes to in person conversations, if they're not going to make an effort to talk to me then there's no way I'm gonna do it for them, I usually just walk away or if I'm in the car, I'll turn the radio up. Same thing kinda goes with text messaging, I just drop the conversation, especially if they say "K" or "Yeah" then I'm out. Doesn't matter if she's the hottest chick on the block, or your best friend you've known since grade school, same thing goes for phone calls. People aren't always talkative and sometimes they just don't wanna talk to you but they will to someone.else, you can't force a person to have a conversation with you, it sucks but it's true.
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Keep picking on these social cues, take what you've learnt and conversate with different people.
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Well, most of us have low self confidence. We do try to keep a conversation going but it's very difficcult for us.
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No.
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Usually I stop replying now. Short responses, one word replies or lack of enthusiasm to continue a conversation really disinterests me to keep talking to that individual.

If someone is doing it to you, you can always tell them how you feel about it. If they refuse to change, you'll have to find someone else who'll enjoy conversing with you.
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I'm the kind of person you're talking about.. The only advice I can give you is try to be a bit more interesting. If that doesn't work, walk away.
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demongurrl13 wrote:

I'm the kind of person you're talking about.. The only advice I can give you is try to be a bit more interesting.


Nyehehe, burn.
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CarboKill wrote:


demongurrl13 wrote:

I'm the kind of person you're talking about.. The only advice I can give you is try to be a bit more interesting.


Nyehehe, burn.


lol yeah :p thats putting it bluntly. but i try to talk about them so if they find themselves boring thats not my problem
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Sometimes if its just two people that don't really know each other that well the convo can die quick and be awkward so I don't have a problem with that. I don't really have this problem other than that though
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VeniVidiVici- wrote:

Well first off, why try so hard to communicate with someone that doesn't try at all?
Anyways, first rule of thumb---- people love talking about themselves. Always. From that find out their interests and then normally the conversation starts rolling.

But usually people that kill convos are either boring as hell, dicks, or they might not like you and hope you get the hint, at which point you really should and move on. Not really worth wasting time on people for the sake of conversation.

because they get angered when you don't talk to them and i value friendships and they are not usually always like that :s. yeah i know, thanks for the reminder tho :)
i agree with you on the second part^.^
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Posted 6/23/13 , edited 6/23/13
Take this with a grain of salt, in other words this opinion of mine is only an opinion not the universal truth of the universe.


What I've observed is that people will only socialise with you with interests if you present some sort of benefit to them, e.g. social status, intellectual capacity or sexual attractiveness.
And that this sort of behaviour is commonly seen in people aged between 17-30.


This is just from my life experience, I've always had an easier time communicating with young children and older people from 40-60... I play scrabbles with old ladies sometimes. It just feels good to be able to be socialising with someone who doesn't want anything from you other than companionship.

And this is why I love being a teacher too. I love my students, they're so sociable, from so many different racial backgrounds... they're so curious about the universe and space. And they want nothing from me but knowledge.

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