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Posted 6/23/13

VeniVidiVici- wrote:

Well first off, why try so hard to communicate with someone that doesn't try at all?
Anyways, first rule of thumb---- people love talking about themselves. Always. From that find out their intrests and then normally the conversation starts rolling.

But usually people that kill convos are either boring as hell, dicks, or they might not like you and hope you get the hint, at which point you really should and move on. Not really worth wasting time on people for the sake of conversation.


True, people love talking about themselves. That's all you need to do, work on their ego.
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I only like interesting topics to discuss otherwise I will terminate the conversation.
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Posted 6/23/13
in my situation i am not boring or a dick. i just don't TRUST people.
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You you know I fucking hate? People who ask you to restate your opinion as if they are saying "this is your last time to prove you are smarter than me by agreeing with me" and when you say something they don't like, they tell you to get out

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Posted 6/23/13

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VeniVidiVici- wrote:

Well first off, why try so hard to communicate with someone that doesn't try at all?
Anyways, first rule of thumb---- people love talking about themselves. Always. From that find out their interests and then normally the conversation starts rolling.

But usually people that kill convos are either boring as hell, dicks, or they might not like you and hope you get the hint, at which point you really should and move on. Not really worth wasting time on people for the sake of conversation.

because they get angered when you don't talk to them and i value friendships and they are not usually always like that :s. yeah i know, thanks for the reminder tho :)
i agree with you on the second part^.^


Well first off, if they're not always like that, it means something is wrong, or they're feeling weird.
Ask them what's up, tell them they seem out of it and quiet. If they keep up just be like Ikr? or awwwww and keep repeating that till THEY start a fucking convo

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Posted 6/23/13

Marsev wrote:


VeniVidiVici- wrote:

Well first off, why try so hard to communicate with someone that doesn't try at all?
Anyways, first rule of thumb---- people love talking about themselves. Always. From that find out their intrests and then normally the conversation starts rolling.

But usually people that kill convos are either boring as hell, dicks, or they might not like you and hope you get the hint, at which point you really should and move on. Not really worth wasting time on people for the sake of conversation.


True, people love talking about themselves. That's all you need to do, work on their ego.


Mmmm yea stroke that ego




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Posted 6/23/13
Like, on the internet or in real life? Either way, I just do the same.

If someone doesn't seem interested or care enough to talk to me, then so be it. I'm not gonna hold a grudge or anything, but don't expect anything from me then.

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Posted 6/23/13 , edited 6/23/13

VeniVidiVici- wrote:


Shy-Anime-Guy wrote:


VeniVidiVici- wrote:

Well first off, why try so hard to communicate with someone that doesn't try at all?
Anyways, first rule of thumb---- people love talking about themselves. Always. From that find out their interests and then normally the conversation starts rolling.

But usually people that kill convos are either boring as hell, dicks, or they might not like you and hope you get the hint, at which point you really should and move on. Not really worth wasting time on people for the sake of conversation.

because they get angered when you don't talk to them and i value friendships and they are not usually always like that :s. yeah i know, thanks for the reminder tho :)
i agree with you on the second part^.^


Well first off, if they're not always like that, it means something is wrong, or they're feeling weird.
Ask them what's up, tell them they seem out of it and quiet. If they keep up just be like Ikr? or awwwww and keep repeating that till THEY start a fucking convo

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Oh sorry I forgot to thank you Domo Arigato
You have a few good points here :)
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Posted 6/23/13
I know people like these. but some of them are just socially Inept and can't hold conversations; These people, most of the time, can't turn away from funny jokes and would laugh. This is the only way I know to get past their barriers. However, they still can't hold conversations but are willing to listen once they get used to you. Just avoid being annoying.
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Posted 6/23/13

GayAsianBoy wrote:

Take this with a grain of salt, in other words this opinion of mine is only an opinion not the universal truth of the universe.


What I've observed is that people will only socialise with you with interests if you present some sort of benefit to them, e.g. social status, intellectual capacity or sexual attractiveness.
And that this sort of behaviour is commonly seen in people aged between 17-30.


This is just from my life experience, I've always had an easier time communicating with young children and older people from 40-60... I play scrabbles with old ladies sometimes. It just feels good to be able to be socialising with someone who doesn't want anything from you other than companionship.

And this is why I love being a teacher too. I love my students, they're so sociable, from so many different racial backgrounds... they're so curious about the universe and space. And they want nothing from me but knowledge.



You have broaden my perspective of things. I bet that you're an awesome teacher!
Posted 6/24/13

VeniVidiVici- wrote:

Mmmm yea stroke that ego




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Ah! Not to forget, your approach obviously depends on the other person's personality and sort.
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Posted 6/24/13
When I'm at work, I'm probably the kind of person you're referencing. Partly because I'm not much of a morning person and don't talk much for that reason, the other part is because I have very little in common with the people I work with.

They're married, have kids, one is a super food nut who hasn't eaten fast food in like 5 years, the other talks about yardwork he did over the weekend. I'm single, have no kids, not an organic food guy, don't own a house, so there's very little I can contribute to most conversations.

There's probably nothing you'd be able to do in that instance. You could probably try an interesting topic besides the tired old "how was the weekend" sort of thing. But otherwise I tend to make it very noticeable that I don't want to talk to you (which I actually had no idea that I did until someone pointed it out).
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Posted 6/24/13

Shy-Anime-Guy wrote:

Do you guys know people around you, Either IRL or on the internet, who you try to actually initiate conversation with but they just end it as quick as they can and use short replies?

Sometimes its like that for me with a few people, other days they actually contribute. its weird its like they can't make up their minds or anything >.<

anyway, how do you deal with people like this? What do you do when you talk to them? do you try to save the conversation or let it die?

Thoughts, opinions, etc would be much appreciated ^.^;


Well the first thing I would say is that if you haven't heard of the terms introversion and extroversion you should try looking them up (or read something like http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Extraversion_and_introversion#Introversion). Plenty of people (or more specifically, introverts, typically) aren't that interested in making small talk, so if you're asking questions like, "Hey, what's up?" and "How's your day been?" you're likely to get replies like "Not much," and "Fine." This doesn't necessarily mean they don't want to talk to you; they just might not have any good and long answers to those questions. Now most introverts will have some topics that they like to talk about, so it helps if you can find those. But, if you aren't interested in learning or hearing about those topics it'll usually show, and it's hard to continue a conversation like that. Finally, you can always talk about yourself or what you enjoy, and if the person you're talking to cares about you, they'll usually be interested in hearing what you have to say.
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Posted 6/24/13

ddr_dan wrote:


Shy-Anime-Guy wrote:

Do you guys know people around you, Either IRL or on the internet, who you try to actually initiate conversation with but they just end it as quick as they can and use short replies?

Sometimes its like that for me with a few people, other days they actually contribute. its weird its like they can't make up their minds or anything >.<

anyway, how do you deal with people like this? What do you do when you talk to them? do you try to save the conversation or let it die?

Thoughts, opinions, etc would be much appreciated ^.^;


Well the first thing I would say is that if you haven't heard of the terms introversion and extroversion you should try looking them up (or read something like http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Extraversion_and_introversion#Introversion). Plenty of people (or more specifically, introverts, typically) aren't that interested in making small talk, so if you're asking questions like, "Hey, what's up?" and "How's your day been?" you're likely to get replies like "Not much," and "Fine." This doesn't necessarily mean they don't want to talk to you; they just might not have any good and long answers to those questions. Now most introverts will have some topics that they like to talk about, so it helps if you can find those. But, if you aren't interested in learning or hearing about those topics it'll usually show, and it's hard to continue a conversation like that. Finally, you can always talk about yourself or what you enjoy, and if the person you're talking to cares about you, they'll usually be interested in hearing what you have to say.


Ah yeah i kinda am a mix of both myself. true.. true.. its hard to continue a conversation with replies like that, you make a valid point that they may not have any good or long answers to questions such as those. i guess i'll just have to dig like you said and figure out more of what they like to talk about so i can get to know them a bit more :o. yeah.. its hard to feign interest :s. agreed.
thanks for some insight on this subject ^.^ tis much appreciated.
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Try saying the word falafel in the convos, its fun to say
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