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Post Reply Negative views on Asian girl/white guy couples?
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Posted 6/25/13 , edited 6/25/13

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Thanks but no thanks. I do generally avoid men with a bad case of yellow fever.


Good plan...

Anyway, I'd seen many of the same comments while in such a relationship a few years back. She was after me for my paycheck. I was after her because I was a weeaboo (I had to look that term up when I heard it, heh). You're not being overly sensitive, those kinds of sentiments are all over the place, possibly including with your friends. I say be happy with your partner, and ignore the idiots. They're hurtful, but have nothing to do with your happiness, thankfully.

EDIT - sorry for making anyone look up weeaboo. It was new to me, too, but ever since I heard it, it seems to pop up everywhere...
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also, try not to think about it soo much. They're nothing but trolls on the internet, its just people upset because nobody wants to be with them. No point letting ignorant people change your views on how you see things. and stereotypes are their because it lets stupid people go by assumption since they cant process the meaning of diversity.


Yup, this pretty much sums it up While stereotypes do naturally have a foundation of some sort, they're essentially assumptions risen from ignorance and/or laziness. While I admit I drink a heck of a lot of tea, I'll refute pretty much any other British/English stereotype.

Another related thing which annoys me is when people ask for my opinion in some sort of relationship-related topic, only to respond to it with an 'oh well what do you know, you're not exactly experienced lol go get laid fag'. Sorry, would you rather that I be a self-hating troll rather than stay positive?

Ahem, I've gone off-topic here, though
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Why do you care what other people think?
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I had that illness....I cured it by marrying an Asian man. (I'm Hispanic)


Oh god. You should exactly like my friend who would only date Asian men. Glad our men make you happy
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I have not seen this kind of conduct in the America, but the U.K. is outside of my jurisdiction so who knows....
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I can't say your being "too sensitive" about this topic if you are truly bothered by these statements, it's certainly your life and I have no say in how you feel on the subject. I would however recommend avoiding these articles and threads if you know they trigger negative feelings, there are certainly a multitude of people that will take advantage of internet anonymity to share their narrow-minded views. My personal feelings are in strong support of racially diverse couples, there are just so many positives in experiencing the differences that make us all unique.

There is a saying, "There is only one race, the human race." I believe this is true, and while it unfortunately won't prevent you from experiencing further hardships in your relationship(s) please believe you have supporters, and in the long run attitudes are changing for the better.

Will end this with a quote from the 1998 movie Bulworth. "All we need is a voluntary, free-spirited, open-ended program of procreative racial deconstruction. Everybody's just gotta keep screwin' everybody 'til they're all the same color." - A silly thought for sure, but interesting none the less... If only it was so simple.
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Why do you care what other people think?
Hurtful words are hurtful
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thekevin4 wrote:

Why do you care what other people think?


Ultimately, other people do make up the rest of the world we live in. We only got so far as a species partly due to our ability to socialise and relate to one another.

Although I agree that in this case, it sounds like it's the work of jealous trolls and should just be ignored as best as possible.
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In my psychology class last semester we talked about this. Asian/White marriages are the most common interracial couples out there. There were a few people who used the opinions you mentioned that you've found offensive to explain why this is, however overall, it appeared that my class believed that it was because asians have the best stereotypes and therefore there is less predigest towards them.
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I can't say your being "too sensitive" about this topic if you are truly bothered by these statements, it's certainly your life and I have no say in how you feel on the subject. I would however recommend avoiding these articles and threads if you know they trigger negative feelings, there are certainly a multitude of people that will take advantage of internet anonymity to share their narrow-minded views. My personal feelings are in strong support of racially diverse couples, there are just so many positives in experiencing the differences that make us all unique.

There is a saying, "There is only one race, the human race." I believe this is true, and while it unfortunately won't prevent you from experiencing further hardships in your relationship(s) please believe you have supporters, and in the long run attitudes are changing for the better.

Will end this with a quote from the 1998 movie Bulworth. "All we need is a voluntary, free-spirited, open-ended program of procreative racial deconstruction. Everybody's just gotta keep screwin' everybody 'til they're all the same color." - A silly thought for sure, but interesting none the less... If only it was so simple.


Thank you! I can't wait for all the ethnicities to be so mixed in the future so the human race become one race again.
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Watch the double postin folks!
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I saw a white guy asian girl couple at my college and I got jealous. Not because she was asian, but because he had a girlfriend.

















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jealousy is an ugly beast, with many heads. As many people have posted, and I will further say, if you can, laugh at the trolls or ignore them because in the end they are the ones unhappy and dissatisfied with their life. Any self aware person realizes that we are a collection of individuals and we should be treated as such when possible. I'm sure there are people on both sides who exemplify what those stereotypes are, but when people attribute those stereotypes to you without actually knowing you first... feel free to smile,laugh, mock, and or ignore them because they can't even get insulting you right.
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I don't see a lot of prejudice about white guys / asian girls or vice versa. Then again I do live in Southern California and interracial couples of all types are very common. I'm Asian by the way, and my sister tends to like white guys, but then again, in the end it comes down to the person for her not the race, and I'm the same way.

As long as there's no language barrier I don't think there's a problem. I remember when my dad tried to set me up with this Korean girl who didn't speak much English at all, man that was unrealistic.


Edit: As a response to your original post, I don't think you're being too sensitive. Depending on who you're around and where you go there can be a lot of prejudice. I remember going to a church (in Southern California) where a lot of older people from the midwest and the east coast went to and they looked at mixed white/asian couples with open disdain (regardless of which one was the asian) and I remember they looked at me and my sister with a look that said "I hope to God that he/she doesn't go anywhere near my daughter/son".

Suffice to say, that wasn't a church I stayed at long. I think prejudice is stupid and that you can't stereotype anyone or any group. People are individuals and once I get to know them, I find that there's a lot of diversity not just between groups, but even between individuals that you can learn from and appreciate.

The only thing I can say is that I find it best to only hang out with and value the opinions of people who know how to respect me and treat me right. I think it's a great general rule for relationships in general, whether they're work relationships, family relationships, the relationship between you and your spouse/the person you're dating. Just in general.

Sure there can be bad people who are negative and stupid, but thankfully you don't have to pay attention to them, and you can choose who you socialize with and allow into your life.
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Posted 6/25/13 , edited 6/25/13

tinyd0t wrote:

It honestly really upsets me whenever I hear negative stereotypes of Asian women & white men couples on the internet and in real life. People are not as rude in real life when they see me *oriental* and my boyfriend *white* walking down the street, my boyfriend said sometimes people would stare and look us up and down, and that's about it.

But man, people on the internet ain't shy about sharing their opinions and they are actually pretty hurtful. There are so many threads and articles about how Asians girls are only after white guys because a) we want money or b) we want an European/American passport, or c) we want to be viewed as "higher class". And the white men who go out with Asians chicks are either a) a closet paedophilia, b) a loser, c) an anime obsessed freak.

I'm trying so hard not to let these comments upset me and try to care less about what other people think of us. We both dated people from other ethnicities before including our owns, and we just happened to fell for each other when we met. And the most ironic parts of these steroetypes are - my boyfriend isn't even rich, I have more nationalities than him and man I have an ass, how can people think that he's a pedo!

Am I being too sensitive about it? Do you think these stereotypes are true in some cases?


I firmly believe there is nothing wrong with it. There are many people who are prejudice against other races, couples, families different than their own, and much worse there are some who are prejudice against their own <_<

I was in a similar relationship w/ Asian woman and I rarely got negative comments about our races, I actually received a number of complements from the people who knew us or played with us online during the year we were together.

There will always be people who will find some way to discriminate against you or your partner regardless of race, nationality, or anything else. Keep that in mind and do not to let them bother you.

Edit: I actually found there is a lot of people who are jealous of asian/white couples.
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