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actually not only in my family.. i feel outsider from the world, too.. i don't know why but even i do the things the world want from m,e in the end i'm still alone... worst i'm always the one left miserable and broken...
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Yup.But I've been an outsider to this world ever since I started thinking for myself. Cuz that's what makes me unique. I don't think my friends, family,and etc in any relationship form really(and thoroughly) understand me.

Knowing a person better comes with acknowledgement and experience with them.It varies on the type of person who's willing to overlook the various statistics and differences between their ideal person. A person who needs acknowledgement and extensive respect usually isn't very unique-and follows more than they think for themselves. .I've learned the DNA bond family brings doesn't guarantee safety from being neglected or being mistreated for ANY type of reason.


You must be strong for life. At least to be able to erase the need for acknowledgement at the times when you need to.

For me life is a battle. Challenge after challenge. Though some things can be settled with an optimistic view and understanding of each other.. In a battle, you can't rely on that to overcome the opponent.

Me:Well no one will understand a demon anyway. Best chance for me is to rule the world.
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I intentionally make myself an outsider, whenever I'm not at work, I'm either in my room or I go for a walk. I very much dislike company and prefer to spend most of my time by myself, this is mostly because neither my family nor anybody I am forced to socialize with (at work mostly) can relate to my interests in any way. Hell, even at work, I eat by myself. But hey, I'm not even bothered by the lonely environment, in fact, I thrive on/in it!

Tl;dr: I make myself an outsider and push away everything in the world that I dislike.
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I don't even talk to any of my family now...All I have is my husband and son. I was never treated like a part of the family. They were very negative for me so I just stopped trying to connect with them. I don't miss them...just feel lonely not having any family and being so nervous that I can't make friends
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i feel like an outsider all the time. usually whenever i do come out of my room or the basement, im just insulted. i don't think my dad's said anything that didn't hurt for like, the past month? its mostly because i'm interested in different things, have different values and opinions, different habits, and just my own way of doing something. my younger sister also is autistic, so i don't really have anybody to confide in my family. if i try to tell my family any of my problems, im usually scolded for having problems. its the same way with my friend group. i have different interests and opinions and a much different sense of humor, and so i feel like an outsider to them, to the point where they won't invite me to much of anything. i don't mind not being invited places though, i'd rather just watch anime and eat in my basement
anyways, back to the point, yes, i feel like an outsider all the time. you're not alone.
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I feel like an outsider, not because of abuse, but because I'm not normal.


I don't enjoy normal conversations like normal people do. I don't enjoy talking about gossips or random crap.


I have a very organised thought. And I enjoy debating about things and hearing people's point of view on philosophical subjects. I don't really care about talking about the next door neighbour's lives.


My family belongs in the normal people category. They like to talk about stupid stuff and gossiping. I'm not into that.
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I've always been kind of distant from my family. I've only ever really been close with my sister, and even then that's tedious. But after living by myself for a month and then going back to them for a week or so, I can see just how distant I really am. And I miss it.

Honestly (and it may sound bad), but I suppose my family doesn't really have much to offer me that I can't get myself. And since family members have been dying every year lately, everyone's basically just empty, needy shells. Can't wait to room up with my friend...
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NEVER!!
i feels love when i am with my family. they are the best thing in world i ever have.
but i do feel left out when i am with my friends though, then again, they are not my family for certain so it doesnt matter.
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Trahma wrote:

It sounds like a pretty toxic environment for you at the moment, I'm sorry you have to put up with that. I very much agree with you that transferring to the university upstate could be a really great change, and I hope that you can endure the sadness a little while longer until you are able be away from your current situation. Please keep talking to those close supporters as you continue to look forward to transferring, keep focusing on yourself, and less on those family members that continually disappoint you. Separating yourself from the stressors in your life will do wonders. Just don't let yourself get sucked back into the mess at home after you are at the university, that would be my biggest concern. I wish you the best.


Thank you! I do plan on having a better experience outside of my house. I'm always at work now, and when school was in session, I was always at work and school full-time so I didn't have to be home. But, it is a toxic environment, because my mom can't even identify in the least with me. I'm 21 and childless (I don't have time to have kids, lol), I graduated from my first round of college pretty much on time, I changed my major from Social Work to Pharmacy, & now I'll be going to pharmacy school. There's absolutely nothing to relate to. My mother can't understand why I get mad, when I tell her she should educate herself on bisexuality (as I'm bisexual), instead of blatantly throwing out stereotypes. Either way, everyone's got different circumstances. I've just gotta tough it out until mid-August, & then I'm home free. Literally. lol
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Romulus023 wrote:


x13kissmegoodbye wrote:

I've always known I was different from everyone in my family (The only child with naturally tanned skin because she's half black). But after my grandpa died (when I was 9) and my grandma died (I was 18), I've been feeling more and more like an outsider in my own home, and family. I really don't know what to do anymore. My mother is psychotic, and every "outsider" acts like they know what's going on, and like they know my entire life story. I find myself always wanting to ram my mother's head through a wall, but I could never do that, because she's my mom. I find myself getting angrier everyday, because my mother purposefully reminds me how "unimportant" a member of my family I am, and purposefully disappoints me EVERY chance she can possibly get. I have people I can talk to, both professional & personal, but now it's not getting to be enough. I'm sadder everyday that I'm angrier. Idk what I can do. The only thing to look forward to is that I'm transferring to a University in upstate New York, which is 7 hours away from Long Island (where I live), is where I can get the rest of my sanity back.


Sometimes yes. Sometimes no. Anything with my extended family is a yes.

We're an immigrant family and I'm educated. Sometimes rational thinking conflicts with the way they were brought up to understand things and it creates rifts. That's about as disconnected as it gets unless someone really knocks something out at left field.

I feel you though. I lived in Jamaica, Queens during most of my teen years and broken families around there are a dime a dozen. Domestic violence galore. Don't go that route. Get out and fast.

If you're going North I just hope you like the cold. I lived in Rochester and damn did that take getting used to. Now I can walk in shorts and t-shirts when it's 40 degrees out. I'm Caribbean, so that's impressive.


Thank you, I really do appreciate it. I mean, I live on Long Island on the South shore and after last winter & Superstorm Sandy, I can safely say that I adapt quickly & efficiently, lol. I'm going to the University at Buffalo, so being 6 hours away from Potsdam and Canada, I know it's no joke up there. I'm making the best of it now, but I can't guarantee that when the 1st vacation comes around that I'll be coming straight home. :/
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I really want to thank everyone who responded. I honestly didn't think so many people would reply with words of advice & support. It really means a lot. So, everyone (and anyone in the future) who posted/posts: Thank you. :)
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I'm the only one that mediates in my house and its awkward when I'm sitting there, still. Just silence. My views on life, religion, etc are also not the norm so that places me in another awkward spot in my household. I also have an interest in extraterrestrials and I believe they are engaging our planet as we speak. But I find most people just dismiss these types of "taboo" topics, which is why more and more sometimes, I feel like an outsider/loner. I feel like a lot of people only view this world "inside the box" ( what society has put in place for us to think ), and I think it's a damn shame. It's almost like people aren't capable of viewing the world out side "the box" anymore. I find it hard to find people whom are open to different ideas and that are willing to go against the common, collected mindset. Oh well I guess, everyone's world is their own, so I guess I'll forcibly blend in.
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Posted 6/28/13

x13kissmegoodbye wrote:


Romulus023 wrote:

Sometimes yes. Sometimes no. Anything with my extended family is a yes.

We're an immigrant family and I'm educated. Sometimes rational thinking conflicts with the way they were brought up to understand things and it creates rifts. That's about as disconnected as it gets unless someone really knocks something out at left field.

I feel you though. I lived in Jamaica, Queens during most of my teen years and broken families around there are a dime a dozen. Domestic violence galore. Don't go that route. Get out and fast.

If you're going North I just hope you like the cold. I lived in Rochester and damn did that take getting used to. Now I can walk in shorts and t-shirts when it's 40 degrees out. I'm Caribbean, so that's impressive.


Thank you, I really do appreciate it. I mean, I live on Long Island on the South shore and after last winter & Superstorm Sandy, I can safely say that I adapt quickly & efficiently, lol. I'm going to the University at Buffalo, so being 6 hours away from Potsdam and Canada, I know it's no joke up there. I'm making the best of it now, but I can't guarantee that when the 1st vacation comes around that I'll be coming straight home. :/


That's actually really awesome. I had some of my best adventures and times up there. One of the coolest things that happened in my first year there was freezing rain. Everything was covered in a thick layer of ice. Everything had a shine and shimmer to it from trees to flowers and it was amazing and truly breathtaking.

The only thing I know about UB is that the campus is gorgeous and it has a good business and architecture school. Buffalo I know has some really awesome clubs although that was years ago. One of my friends is from there and he gave us a tour more or less. When you go make sure you get the Mighty Taco experience. Also look out for Dinosaur BBQ. Ridiculously good BBQ. Garbage plates are also the thing in Western NY and it's not nearly as bad as it sounds....OK maybe just a little but it's pure comfort food.

I really could go on but I think you get the idea of how awesome it is up there. To be honest most people who go there end up staying there. Cost of living is cheaper, it's cleaner, people are actually friendly and sincere and the list goes on.

The only bad thing I can say about anything in Western NY is that everything closes by 9pm. That's where the heavy drinking comes in. You have been warned.
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I'm pansexual. My dad is insanely homophobic, my sister is a hard-core christian and my mother despises any sexuality that treats both genders equally.


In other words, my family despises every aspect of my being, and they don't even know it.


For reference, Pansexual is basically bisexual, but rather than being attracted to both genders, it's not attracted to either gender. Attracted to people, regardless of gender. Confusing, but there's a difference.
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Oui oui I feel like an outsider but that's because I don't speak.
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