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18 / M / Cincinnati, OH
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Yes, lots.
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I felt like that for the longest time. At this point in my life, I don't really care anymore.
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Every day. My family loves watching TV, but i prefer reading. Also, my family is really active and i am not so i am always getting in trouble for that.
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hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahhahahahahahahahahahhaahhahaha yes i was born at a diff time from every one in my family and touched by diff issues so yes i feel very diff and am.....kinda sucks but my oldest bro gets me sometimes thats it....
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Yes, even from a young age I've always felt like I was outside looking in. As I got older and left for school it only got worse. I started to question our church and didn't want to attend services anymore. My parents where in a militant phase at that point and I always got in a lot of trouble for not wanting to go, but when they where gone I wouldn't dare leave my room or the couch, I didn't read or pay games just sit there. My mom would sometimes mock or yell at me when they came back and I didn't want to aggravate it. When I left for school I was disowned for a short time because in my 18 years of being the "good" kid I made one "mistake" and had slept with my then boyfriend in my parents house (I know thats bad but rather then try and talk to me they flat out told me not to come home and they no longer wanted to talk to or support me)

Things calmed down for awhile after that. I was still isolated and never really felt welcome in their house. After I moved out that first Christmas they celebrated without me. My mom told me to come at 9:30, by the time me and my boyfriend at the time had arrived (on time) they had already opened their gifts and where getting ready to leave for my aunts.
A few years later I moved cross country and out of nowhere my family almost immediately started going on outings together, doing different things, doing things together is a big deal in my family, we pretty much never got to growing up.
Even when they came to visit me after not seeing them for over a year it felt like they barely wanted me around, I took days off work and ended up spending them alone. I had to make up things I was doing with them when my boss asked me how it was going.
I love them, I really do, I just feel so alone with them.
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Yes. I am the black sheep. Me and my lesbian cousin lol

My family drives me absolutely insane, too. That's why I never want to start one. Aside from my daily share of annoyances, we are just way too different. And the difference becomes more pronounced with time.



























Stuff like that. Daily. Many times. I am sick of it.
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23 / M / Seattle, WA, USA
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Yep, every family dinner that we meet up for, I am just sitting there waiting for it to be over. Nothing in common with anyone, except a little with my mother. But I can't just talk to her, because it would be rude to include things in the conversation that only relate to the two of us (and I don't want everyone looking at me). Nor can I be on my phone to pass the time because it's considered rude... Even though no one talks to me because no one has anything to say to me and vice versa.
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Yep, My family looks at me like some kind of freak sometimes... I have always been off and different from them. They will invite me to dinners and since I am poor I am always down for a free meal, but when I show up its sometimes not worth it. They will talk to me and ask me questions but as soon as I start talking they ignore me and start talking to each other. I bet a lot of you have families like this or worst ( I have not read them all yet). My family does try and care but you can tell that they are trying to care... so it defeats the point.
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Glorianos wrote:

Yep, every family dinner that we meet up for, I am just sitting there waiting for it to be over. Nothing in common with anyone, except a little with my mother. But I can't just talk to her, because it would be rude to include things in the conversation that only relate to the two of us (and I don't want everyone looking at me). Nor can I be on my phone to pass the time because it's considered rude... Even though no one talks to me because no one has anything to say to me and vice versa.


I know what I mean! My family is the same way.
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25 / M / California
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Glorianos wrote:

Yep, every family dinner that we meet up for, I am just sitting there waiting for it to be over. Nothing in common with anyone, except a little with my mother. But I can't just talk to her, because it would be rude to include things in the conversation that only relate to the two of us (and I don't want everyone looking at me). Nor can I be on my phone to pass the time because it's considered rude... Even though no one talks to me because no one has anything to say to me and vice versa.


I know what I mean! My family is the same way.


All my feels. My family only argues if they are all assembled and I hate having family gatherings more than almost anything. All I'm doing is sitting and eating and they're talking about stupid, petty little things that inevitable uglify into arguments and stupid disagreements. Or they start talking about me and it's stupid as hell. I eat and I leave ASAP. Sometimes, they'll try to each get me on their side, but when they're together they all gang up on me and the only way I can stop them is to get angry. And they wonder why I never talk to them about anything.



Sh** like this, too. Every day. I can't wait to move the hell out.
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26 / F / Oregon
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Yeah! My family just tell the same stories every time we go. Bitch about the same things and at one point they run out of things to say and ask me some stupid pointless Queston and if my answer more than a yes or no answer they just talking over me.
Why haven't you moved out yet? You don't have to answer that.
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25 / M / California
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Darkerthaneden wrote:

Yeah! My family just tell the same stories every time we go. Bitch about the same things and at one point they run out of things to say and ask me some stupid pointless Queston and if my answer more than a yes or no answer they just talking over me.
Why haven't you moved out yet? You don't have to answer that.


I need to get into a grad school first, then hopefully I'll be dorming or something. After that, I'll try to get an internship and then I'll move out. In the meantime, I'm putting up with this and saving up since I don't have to pay rent. I really can't see myself studying seriously in this environment. I didn' need to study for high school so I didn't know how disruptive it could be. It's virtually impossible just to study for the LSAT. I have to go to the library to do it since they'll keep bothering me if I'm at home. EVERY TIME THEY SEE ME, they tell me to do something or give me a stupid-a** lecture that I've heard a million times before. They treat me like they think I'm stupid or something. Pisses me off just thinking about it.
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26 / F / Oregon
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Posted 9/8/13

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Darkerthaneden wrote:

Yeah! My family just tell the same stories every time we go. Bitch about the same things and at one point they run out of things to say and ask me some stupid pointless Queston and if my answer more than a yes or no answer they just talking over me.
Why haven't you moved out yet? You don't have to answer that.


I need to get into a grad school first, then hopefully I'll be dorming or something. After that, I'll try to get an internship and then I'll move out. In the meantime, I'm putting up with this and saving up since I don't have to pay rent. I really can't see myself studying seriously in this environment. I didn' need to study for high school so I didn't know how disruptive it could be. It's virtually impossible just to study for the LSAT. I have to go to the library to do it since they'll keep bothering me if I'm at home. EVERY TIME THEY SEE ME, they tell me to do something or give me a stupid-a** lecture that I've heard a million times before. They treat me like they think I'm stupid or something. Pisses me off just thinking about it.


That is crap. I'm sorry. I wish I could you out. When I need to study I stay at my school.
Just hang in there, it will get better.
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25 / M / California
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Darkerthaneden wrote:


Morbidhanson wrote:


Darkerthaneden wrote:

Yeah! My family just tell the same stories every time we go. Bitch about the same things and at one point they run out of things to say and ask me some stupid pointless Queston and if my answer more than a yes or no answer they just talking over me.
Why haven't you moved out yet? You don't have to answer that.


I need to get into a grad school first, then hopefully I'll be dorming or something. After that, I'll try to get an internship and then I'll move out. In the meantime, I'm putting up with this and saving up since I don't have to pay rent. I really can't see myself studying seriously in this environment. I didn' need to study for high school so I didn't know how disruptive it could be. It's virtually impossible just to study for the LSAT. I have to go to the library to do it since they'll keep bothering me if I'm at home. EVERY TIME THEY SEE ME, they tell me to do something or give me a stupid-a** lecture that I've heard a million times before. They treat me like they think I'm stupid or something. Pisses me off just thinking about it.


That is crap. I'm sorry. I wish I could you out. When I need to study I stay at my school.
Just hang in there, it will get better.


At least it gives me more motivated to go out running or doing other stuff, and the anger curbs my appetite. I also go to the library to read a lot for lack of anything to do but still needing to get out. Maybe it's improving my physical health and increasing my knowledge and my patience. I dunno about mental health, though.
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22 / M / Massachusetts, Un...
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Posted 9/8/13
I think everyone feels like this at least once in their lives. It's a whole thing with teen rebellion and finding ones true self and whatnot. At least that's how I see it now looking back on when I felt like an outsider.
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