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Where do u draw the line?
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Situations: Your parent's bf/gf has pictures of your gf/bf and their ex together all over the house.....Your bf/gf has a tattoo for their ex......Your bf/gf still hangs out with their ex.....basically where would YOU draw the line? And whyi s it okay to have a problem with it or not?
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I get the feeling you have a large amount of relationship problems
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I can't even tolerate it when someone has a picture of his ex in his house. One of the reason I couldn't date this guy I met 2 years ago. He still had this picture of his ex-boyfriend in his house.

It's just stupid. I see it as a bad sign, and someone who can't let go of their past and baggage. He even had the nerve to talk to me about how he was so in love with his ex-boyfriend etc...

And then I got angry and just left the house and he asked me why I left, and I just lied about the reasons.

But I was angry about that photo.
Posted 6/28/13
I don't mind the hanging out part, that's perfectly fine.
I wouldn't be too fond of a tattoo or pictures though, that'd really bother me.
Because like, why you keeping that stuff? You broke up.
The tattoo I understand is kind of permanent, while not fond of it I'll understand taking a while to get rid of.
Not pictures though.
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I wouldn't be comfortable with my boyfriend having a tattoo for his ex.
I would probably pay to have it covered with a new one or something.
Talking about being so in love with someone else is just wrong.
I personally wouldn't be comfortable with them hanging out too often.
Having a picture together isn't bad.
As long as they aren't hanging up all over or it being just a picture of the ex.
I'm still friends with most of my ex-boyfriends so I wouldn't want to restrict my boyfriend too much.
It is okay to be uncomfortable with things but it can't be to the point of controlling.
The best thing is to be honest and talk about it.
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If you still have pics of your ex in your house then it instantly kills things for me. It shows me you're probably not over them and I will not play rebound.
If you have a tattoo of your ex then its an instant no. I don't want my name or face tattooed on your body and don't want to see your last fling there either.
You can still hang out with your ex, but I better know about it.
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KhmerKittyKat wrote:

Situations: Your parent's bf/gf has pictures of your gf/bf and their ex together all over the house.....Your bf/gf has a tattoo for their ex......Your bf/gf still hangs out with their ex.....basically where would YOU draw the line? And whyi s it okay to have a problem with it or not?


This situation is overly complicated and tbh I would get out it asap if it was me. But if you're asking whether it's ok for my boyfriend to hang out with his exs, I wouldn't prefer it but if he is still friends with his ex and civil with her and NO FLIRTING then I guess it's acceptable.

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There is no right or wrong-only what you can personally tolerate without seething under the surface, which will sabotage your relationship.A tattoo is meant to be permanent and quite a pain and expense to get removed-I wouldn't think too much of it.I have pictures of a couple of my ex loves on the walls-I walk by them everyday like they're not even there. However, if my current b/f found it upsetting I would have no problem shoving them into an album.

It's much better to bring little annoyances to the surface before they turn into big ones.People who say that there is no jealousy in love have either not truly been in love, or are exceedingly secure in themselves or with their place in that relationship.The one thing I wouldn't tolerate is my lover constantly hanging out with their ex-too much potential for a relapse. That's where I draw the line-I'm number one or we won't be intimate-period. I have a lot of guys that I love that are friends-but I only have one man that I will be intimate with at any time, and will get my full attention above all others-I demand the same in return.Talk of the ex should be kept at a bare minimum.
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thekevin4 wrote:

I get the feeling you have a large amount of relationship problems


It's like the third or fourth thread already from the same in the last couple of days. "LAWL"


GayAsianBoy wrote:

I can't even tolerate it when someone has a picture of his ex in his house. One of the reason I couldn't date this guy I met 2 years ago. He still had this picture of his ex-boyfriend in his house.


People still put up pictures of people in their houses. I thought that's what albums stuffed in drawers and facebook are for. "LAWL"

Though semi-seriously, as much as I love the people around me, I just think that it's a bit tacky to have a picture frame up or pictures stickied to the wall. Well, that's just me and my take modern decor. "LAWL"



Going back to the original topic, I'll go with hanging up with their ex regularly. Unlike with pictures being in the thoughts, a personal presence and the temptation are still there. Yes, there's mending fences but to a point, and one can't easily dimiss the history. If I'm in a current relationship, I personally wouldn't hang out with an ex because of the very reason of resparking something new-ish between us, and honestly, I wouldn't deny that it is tantalizing to try playing both fields.

As for the tattoo, well, that can be contested, and take into account that removal can be both expensive and unconfortable. Give the guy a bit of slack with that for the meantime and/or pay for the treatments yourself after talking about it and establishing something more concrete. "LAWL"
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I'll draw that line like a chicken scratched over that tattoo; and that chicken scratched, by the way, is also a tattoo.
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There's this one guy in Arakawa Under the Bridge who's obsessed with stepping on a white line lol
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KhmerKittyKat wrote:

Situations: Your parent's bf/gf has pictures of your gf/bf and their ex together all over the house.....Your bf/gf has a tattoo for their ex......Your bf/gf still hangs out with their ex.....basically where would YOU draw the line? And whyi s it okay to have a problem with it or not?


This situation is overly complicated and tbh I would get out it asap if it was me. But if you're asking whether it's ok for my boyfriend to hang out with his exs, I wouldn't prefer it but if he is still friends with his ex and civil with her and NO FLIRTING then I guess it's acceptable.



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I draw the line when somebody can't be trusted. They can do whatever the hell they want to do, but the moment I find out they're lying to me about things they shouldn't be, they've crossed the line. I'm not going to sit here and control people's lives, especially not ones that I care about. But I won't sit here and put myself through lies and deceit for them, either.
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I draw the line when somebody can't be trusted. They can do whatever the hell they want to do, but the moment I find out they're lying to me about things they shouldn't be, they've crossed the line. I'm not going to sit here and control people's lives, especially not ones that I care about. But I won't sit here and put myself through lies and deceit for them, either.


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Easy ready willing overtime
When does it stop, where do you dare me to draw the line
You got the body now you want my soul
Don't even think about it say no go
Now i'll do anything you want me to
I'll do almost anything that you want me to
But i can't go for that
No can do
I can't go for being twice as nice
I can't go for just repeating the some old lines
Use the body now you want my soul
Oo forget about it say no go
Yeah i'll do anything you want me to
I'll do almost anything that you want me to
But i can't go for that
No can do.
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