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Where do u draw the line?
Posted 6/29/13
I would just end that relationship. It sounds like a waste of effort and time.
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Posted 6/29/13
nope. i ain't about that life.
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Posted 6/29/13
As far as the pictures...I really don't see that way around it. The event was memorable enough that they had an actual photo taken. Not an email on facebook, some sort of digital reminder that might or might not be there in the cloud, but a physical copy. Life does happen while in relationships. Some parts of your life happened with exes. I still occasionally find my exes earings in my apartment even though we have not been dating for over a year.

The answer is, if you think you have to draw the line, you should probably just end the relationship. It sounds like more trouble than its worth.
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Posted 6/30/13
Pictures depend on how long they were together and how serious it was. ex wife/long term girlfriend, ok I can see a few especially if the pic holds some other meaning to the person or has their kids or something in addition. If they didn't go out for long and have recently broken up then I would would call things off before we got too involved because he obviously still has feeling for her.

Tattoo? Nothing I could do about it, and it was before we were involved so why should I feel threatened? It's not like I would want him to get my named tattooed to prove his love to me or something silly like that.

The still hanging out thing might bother me depending on the situation. But in general as long as he is open about it and doesn't prioritize spending time with his ex over spending time with me I'm usually ok with it.
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Posted 6/30/13
My ex used to hang with her ex all the time, which was fine. I didn't want to be like said ex and tell her how she should live her life n stuff.. Like my ex's ex would tell her she had to loss weight n she was ugly while they were going out which I yelled at her for after they broke up.. But when my gf started blowing me off to hang go off with this ex of hers it started to hurt and I felt more alone than when I was single. I couldn't talk to anyone about it because of a number of reasons so I ended it with her because I was getting kind of depressed and I couldn't talk to her 'cause she had better things to do and it wasn't really a relationship anymore and I felt small and worthless.....
The point I'm trying to make is you draw the line when things start screwing you over. The moment it becomes more like the ex is more important than you. And unless you can talk to you gf/bf about it and change things (which doesn't always happen) then I'd walk away. No body deserves to be in a relationship that makes them feel like shit.
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Posted 6/30/13

Marsev wrote:

There's this one guy in Arakawa Under the Bridge who's obsessed with stepping on a white line lol


interesting I'm gonna go find me one of them lines. Or maybe I should just draw it as the thread sugests.

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Posted 6/30/13
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Posted 6/30/13
IDGAF really...

If someone tried to do that shit to me, I'm gone. Lol... I don't care who they think they are in my life, the moment they try to meddle with my personal affairs, I am done with them. I leave people alone so I expect them to do the same for me.
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There.
Posted 6/30/13
We choose not to talk to or see our exes... Well his exes and my ex
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Posted 6/30/13
Everybody in this thread needs to calm their nips
For one thing, if you're dating someone, you need to respect their decisions, choices, and what they will do with their past.
If you've ever dated anyone for longer than 6 months you would see how hard it is to really get over a serious relationship.
Pictures will be around for a while, especially in a case that they were engaged or married beforehand.
Tattoos are permanent and cover-ups can be pricey and the first time isn't always done right.
As for staying friends, that's really a matter of whether or not your significant other feels the relationship is stable enough to stay friends without old emotions bubbling out.
In all reality, the closure between the two might prove to be fruitful.
The only place I would draw the line would be if he was having sex with another girl.
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Posted 6/30/13

IGotThisFirst wrote:

I draw the line when somebody can't be trusted. They can do whatever the hell they want to do, but the moment I find out they're lying to me about things they shouldn't be, they've crossed the line. I'm not going to sit here and control people's lives, especially not ones that I care about. But I won't sit here and put myself through lies and deceit for them, either.


This person put it perfectly for me. The minute I don't feel comfortable or I really can't trust you that's the time for me to leave.
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Posted 6/30/13
The only problem I see is if someone makes it a problem. The situation explained is very vague (and confusing as crap?) In the end, it doesn't matter does it? Take care of #1, that's you, and the rest will either follow suite or prove to be a waste of time.
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