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Post Reply Is there a limit in how far you will go for someone you love?
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I have never felt the need or the drive to go out of my way to tell a woman I love her more than anything. I try to appeal in such a way that my actions will speak louder than words. For me it has never been necessary. But Im curious to know the opinions and experiences of others. Does your experience suggest to the same degree. Ladies, I am also curious of your experience. Does love really know no bounds or am I mistaken?

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Many were not understanding the direction of my intrigue. I understand. But I have come to realize the deeper examples and thoughts come from those who understand what love trully is. As to put a more straightforward question in words.

What does love mean to you? And how far will you go to protect that love? This love that I mention could be towards family, friends, and lovers. What line is the barrier. Honestly after rewarding a few experiences I have come to believe that there is a limit.

What's yours?
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Posted 7/1/13
Well im assuming if you really love them you would do something very drastic.
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Talk is cheap. I would never go out of my way to swear undying love, especially because I would be lying.
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One day you'll hit a wall and find out that you really cannot give them your all.
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It's not a fair question, because of when in my life you are talking about. Yes, I would kill, cheat and steal if I thought it would save my wife or children. No arguments, flat. When I was younger, I couldn't do those things without just cause, and even then it had better be a damn good cause. True love makes my life worthless compared to their lives, there's nothing quite like it. I am free, because I have no restrictions or boundaries. I can't believe how alone I was when I was younger. When my wife puts her hand on my shoulder and tells me that I can do it, I literally power up like Goku. Yeah, I'd kill for her. The last 25 years.... beautiful...
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Everyone has limits and everyone has a price. For the right price, limits can be broken. For some, the price is not monetary, but it is still there. Some would refuse to recant their religions even under penalty of death, because they believe a paradise of heaven awaits. That is their price -- not attainable by man, but a price nonetheless.

So would I have limits for those I love? Yes. Of course I do. If we didn't have limits and characteristics to define us, there would be no loved ones to begin with. Fall in love with a girl by being a nice guy, but go against that very bond in order to accomplish some fantastical thing? No, there is no point.

That said, my limits are rather high. To protect those I truly love I would become the incarnation of evil or the workaholic, or whatever else I might be called upon to do. But that is such an outlandish and intangible thing that it isn't worth discussing.

But what you are suggesting is "How far is too far to go to show affection." and that answer is: any distance is two far. Two people should be together when and because they want to be. Obligation has no place in real love. Real love is created through mutual desire, shared experience, and built trust. Humans will always ultimately do what they want to do and chasing after girls in insane ways is a waste of resources that does not actually build or support anything. Be you, have fun, enjoy eachother and do whatever kind deeds come naturally. If you have to go out of your way to prove yourself then you are with the wrong person.

When I was in high school and I had a crush on a girl, I'd think to myself, " I'd do such incredible things for her! If there were a problem I would do so-and-so and such-and-such to save her!" As I grew up I realized that was all bullshit. I fell in love -- real love -- and there is nothing like it. The young talk about how far they would go for those they love. It is all crap. Being the hero is easy. Being the loser is tough. When the one you love wants someone else, can you give up for her? When the one you love becomes ill, will you sell all you own to pay the bills and become homeless for her? Beg on street corners? Give up a 200K a year job to move to be near her? The young fantasize about slaying proverbial dragons to prove their love -- it is crap. The heroics come from the ego, not from the heart.
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I'd say if you love the person then there isn't a limit to begin with ? but even so i don't think so at the moment well for me it all depends what they will do and such but i trust that nothing bad will happen
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The people I care about, I value more than anything else in the world. I also have little/no value in my own life, and have had experiences that proved to me that I am capable of putting my life at risk. So with those, I think I can honestly say I would do anything for someone that I love above all else. But of course most would say you never really know what you would do in an extreme situation until it happens.
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28 / M / Toledo
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Posted 7/1/13
I won't go very far. I can easily live without it.
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"A man that has nothing to die for, isn't fit to live".

Honest guy to guy advice:
Dude you're still a kid. Instead of having deep conversations about what love can do, you should be deep inside someone's crouch. Being young means you can get away with "many" things, try to talk to any girl that catches your eye. Just talk to them and figure out what truly interests you. Experience is king, education is crap. Don't stress yourself out.
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Posted 7/1/13
No limits of your feelings match with hers, but if it is one-sided dont do wayyy toooo much that may creep her out.
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Posted 7/1/13
Yes. The statutory limit.
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I would never stop being myself for the person I love. If she never loved me for who I was, then why did she love me and why would I continue to think she is worth my own love.
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I have a pretty difficult time expressing my emotions to the guy I like and that's led me to hit a wall with a lot of guys. It's not intentional and it isn't that I don't have feelings for said person, but I guess when I get overly attached it shows, and I wind up doing a lot of out of character things. I never really found said line.
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25 / M / san jose, Ca
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Posted 7/1/13
experience sometimes matter but most time people don't learn from their own mistakes. But the limit i think is you should never do something which may make you lose your own self respect. But most people dont know what that is and cross to borderline crazy or desperate. but that's just my opinion
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