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Posted 10/17/13
I don't, if you don't want to be with someone it's better to tell them than to cheat on them. That I can respect but cheating is just so underhanded. Not to say that I would lose trust in them forever, but I would for a while until they prove that they can be honest and mature.
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No .. I think people who cheat deserve no respect what so ever!!! if you are in a relationship and you think its not going well for a long period of time ..... BREAK UP!! dont cheat on someone because you think she/he wont find out cause they will
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No. I don't think they deserve any respect, I mean, why be with someone if you don't even love them? If you're gonna cheat and get on another girl, just break up with 'em, it'll save some trouble anyway.
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What she said^ i agree 100%
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Posted 10/29/13

saksiss wrote:

No, the minute they do, they become scum.


Accurate. There isn't an excuse to cheat. If you want to mess around with someone else, you end your other relationship. Even if you're drunk, it should never reside in your mind the willingness to cheat. The expectation that you either "won't get caught" or "everything will be alright, just once" doesn't cut it.

A cheating mentality is poisonous to relationships and should not be tolerated/acceptable.
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Posted 10/29/13

shadow3232 wrote:
Accurate. There isn't an excuse to cheat. If you want to mess around with someone else, you end your other relationship. Even if you're drunk, it should never reside in your mind the willingness to cheat. The expectation that you either "won't get caught" or "everything will be alright, just once" doesn't cut it.

A cheating mentality is poisonous to relationships and should not be tolerated/acceptable.


Agreed. When I found out that my wife of 12 years had slept with a former boyfriend while I was activated for War with the Air National Guard, I was devastated. To me, betrayal is the worst.
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Posted 10/30/13
I agree with many other posts on here that when a person cheats, they should lose the respect of those around them. Especially the person they cheated on. There is no excuse for that kind of behavior.

However, people can change, and I don't think it's right to judge a person based solely on one mistake. They can make amends. They can learn what they've done is absolutely inexcusable and turn themselves around. We are not static beings. We learn. We grow.

So, yes, a cheater deserves a loss of respect. But, they can gain they respect back. Maybe not from the person they cheated on (the wounds run too deep there), but others are in no position to judge if they see that this person has made a conscious effort to right him/herself.
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Posted 10/30/13 , edited 10/30/13

-ADrunkenHusky wrote:

Do you still have respect for anyone that cheats in a relationship? If so why?


I don't respect people who don't even respect the single most important person in their entire life.
If you want to **** up your relationship (which you actively do by cheating), at least be honest about it and sort things out with your partner first.
Anything else is just cowardly, pathetic and immature.
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Posted 10/30/13
No, This could happen again.
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Posted 10/31/13
i wouldn't respect the person for cheating, but that one thing wouldn't define my entire perspective on that person.
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It depends.
Never would I condone cheating, but I like to look at the bigger picture before completely judging someone.
There are two sides to every story and despite what people say, cheaters can change. People grow up. People make mistakes. I've seen it happen to people around me and it's happened to me. Some people could care less and others are genuinely sorry. Cheating doesn't make you a horrible person, it makes you a person who made a horrible mistake.
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You can change yourself, not someone else. If someone cheats, they need to suffer the emotional punishment that would cause them to change themselves. Accepting it will prevent them from caring.

So, no tolerance. Maybe they'll prevent the mistake from happening again with their next lover. They're done justice by being cast aside.
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Posted 11/1/13
Not a chance that I would respect them, unless it was a mistake. They earn my respect again in coming clean with who they cheated on. Then never did it again. Everyone is allowed to make a mistake, its how they deal with it that earns my respect or not. If not a mistake they are the lowest of the low.
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Posted 11/1/13
Well, if my partner cheats on me that would mean that the feeling she has for me is not love. Therefore, I can only see her as scum. I have never cheated and I never will (unless a girl rapes me, but that would never happen to a guy). It goes without saying that respect is lost forever. We might be able to be friends after a certain amount of time, but if a guy friend asks me to introduce him to her I would tell him that she is a cheater and advise him to look for a better partner. The End.
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Posted 11/1/13
Depends on the person
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