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Nope, even if I don't know them, if I know that person has cheated in the past I have no respect for them.
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Only when he has a moral position (a devout Catholic politician cheating).
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People who cheat on others loose my respect, people who just keep rolling down hill from there will never gain my respect again, but the people who agonize over there actions and realize its one of the biggest mistakes a person can make they get a few points for effort. It's easy going down hill, but its a b**** trying to go back up.
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nope..I don't mess around with girls who mess around..aint' nobody got time for that
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Posted 11/8/13
me and my ex were together for 6 years and i never cheated on her not once...if u cheat then that means u have a super wondering eye..every one looks at the other sex..but cheaters do them ka pish
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Outside of my own marriage, it's none of my business who does what with whom. Someone's fidelity is outweighed by what they're overall contribution to society is...that's where my respect lies.
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Posted 11/14/13 , edited 11/14/13
I used to believe it was all black and white and that I'd completely hate it, too. Then it happened to me very suddenly.

Things get flipped upside down when you've helped someone cheat inadvertently or been in one of those really strange relationships in which at least one of you is already taken. I'm not saying it's always okay or anything but things seem to look way different when you are the one involved (*raises hand twice*). Just sayin'.

I haven't lost my respect for those I have been with. Their relationships were already weak or crumbling, and they treated me much better than any of my exclusive girlfriends and they actually paid attention to things I said. The relationships were very unstable but they were more sincere than any of the ones I went steady with. Of course, there's the guilt and the constant need to maintain a veil of secrecy but I've discovered that no matter how well you may think you know a person or you know yourself, you can still be challenged in areas you believe you decided on long ago. Sometimes, all it takes is a little silence and people never find out. It sounds awful but it's how it is. Sometimes, it's even that a simple mental disassociation with it makes it not really cheating in the person's head, and they are capable of burying it forever without guilt yet still love their significant other.

Strangely, it's often not even a lack of love or respect or a simple lapse of judgment at a certain time. It seems to be something deeper and maybe just plain different. Like watching smoke curl through the air, you know sort of what it will do and sort of don't know. At least that's how it was for me. A collection of bad contrapositives that, when combined, make perfect sense at the time. Or a simple action repeated over and over again that somehow morphs into something unpredictable and random despite being governed by one concrete rule. I sound like an idiot but I don't know how to say it any other way.

I ask myself things that have no answer and they just spin in place in my mind without getting anywhere. Some things that you think you know are wrong can feel right at times. I still have no regrets. Live and learn.
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Posted 11/14/13
I do lose respect for the cheater. They can gain it back, but it will be hard.

That being said, I think that things like drunkenness wold exonerate the cheater, as they wouldn't be able to make a real choice if drunk or in a similar state, so my definition of cheating may be slightly more narrow than others' definitions.
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Nope. If you cheat, you are dead to me.
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Forgiveness, yes. Respect, no.
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Posted 11/14/13
No. I can forgive, but not forget.
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Posted 11/14/13
I haven't seen any around me, so I can't say...
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I save my judgement for when I actually learn the circumstances of such an action. There are times when the drama hungry hope a simple, "They cheated on their girlfriend/boyfriend!" will suffice, my response is usually, "Why?"
Sometimes its as simple as the cheater just being horny and just not a good person in general (in which the victim should not have been dating them to begin with). Many times its far more complicated and stems from problems in the relationship from both parties.

NO ONE CHEATS ON ME THOUGH!!!!! NOOOO ONNNNEEEEEE!!!! I'M TOO SEXY AND AWESOME!!!!
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Posted 11/14/13
pshh nah its like you have respect for them doing such a lowlife thing, and who knows what else they are doing that you dont know.
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Posted 11/14/13
I can but they must be able to move on from doing such things. ^-^ *Casts Izanami*
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