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Post Reply Say what you feel to that "friend" time runs out fast.
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sex and relationships are two different things. Girls say they want a "gentleman" but they like the "asshole" and no one has a guideline to any girls pants because lets face it if it were that easy everyone would know. The point of the thread is for people to stop wasting time and act on their feelings. And if you want me to get truthful some people are not that "good looking" to put it mildly but ive seen ugly guys with pretty girls because girls like confidence. Nothing less sexy that a guy asking if he can kiss a girl... but at the same time you cant lunge in without reading the signals. The message is grow some balls and ask the person you like out what is the worst that can happen? she says no? wow 1 girl out of millions said no... well keep trying until one says yes law of percentages man. And girls love a guy who makes them fall in love each day but thats after you're in a relationship. Before you have to get noticed.. say the right things.. find out what she likes and make an effort to listen the details are the most important thing. But hey no girl is the same but if you at least gave it a shot you have nothing to regret. Plus if youre good in bed they will at least have sex with you on the dl lool


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I'm a girl, and I look for guys who are nice, smart , funny and have a sence of humor.


im sorry but youre 14... not to be an ass but life isnt pink. And ill know youll get mad at me but when the "nice" guy breaks your heart youll understand life more.


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hahaha what if the dream is already dating someone? Ahh the cold harsh realities of life man


That my friend is the million dollar question... i even think that is not even healthy to be that person's friend. I know how that feels and it sucks more when they confide in you stuff you dont want to know. But thats my point the sooner you tell a person how you feel the sooner you will get that out of the way because if you dont it will eat away with you till you no longer stand the person. So i guess its better to let them go if you cant be a real friend to them because you will end up hurting them and yourself. But hang in there life has a funny way of putting the person we need in our path.
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My best advice would be do be yourself. there are billions of girls/guys on this planet and you are bound to find at least one who thinks you are amazing the way you are. Just make sure you put yourself in situations where you meet new people.
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Thanks guys, that helps me a lot
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My best advice would be do be yourself. there are billions of girls/guys on this planet and you are bound to find at least one who thinks you are amazing the way you are. Just make sure you put yourself in situations where you meet new people.


I guess someone was bound to understand the message. That pretty much sums it up.
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It's been a long time since I've read a post that was legitimately 100% cliche -- thank you.
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But that begs the question... are there any original thoughts any more? i mean words are still human made inventions. Arranging the words as if to sound original does not make a sentence any less cliche. Actually pointing out a cliche itself has become a cliche of those who want to impose their thoughts thinking they know it all. And some choose the easy way like socrates and just completely give up. I would love to open a debate but i just dont see the point.
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I'm a girl, and I look for guys who are nice, smart , funny and have a sence of humor.




I love this post because it shows that not all girls are 'attracted' to dicks. I approve this message! From my experience dicks only get the girls in high school haha but after high school is over they're left drunk and lonely at a bar somewhere.
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I am notorious for waiting too long and falling into that "friend zone." I'm also a very passive person, and I'm as nice and honest to people as I possibly can be. I can't be a dick to people, I can't be that aggressive and dominant asshole that girls seem to fall for, so according to you I'm screwed right? Sure I need a lot more confidence in myself, I can agree with that part. But that's something I just can't understand, why do you have to be a jerk that pushes people around to easily be able to find relationships? Why do the people that are genuinely nice to girls have the hardest time? Not just speaking for me, but several people I've known. I've seen so many girls get with jerks and end up with their hearts broken, while they have a friend that would have treated them so much better and legitimately care about them. I just can't see why the world has to work like that.
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BlackRavenOfTheSand wrote:

I'm a girl, and I look for guys who are nice, smart , funny and have a sence of humor.




I love this post because it shows that not all girls are 'attracted' to dicks. I approve this message! From my experience dicks only get the girls in high school haha but after high school is over they're left drunk and lonely at a bar somewhere.



Like i said not all girls are the same and i would like to think that some are genuinely nice and like personalities above looks. But then again shes 14... i still believed that all people were nice but life isnt as we would want. And all actors are dicks... and if you ask a girl that is in a relationship if they would have sex with one of them even if they were married they would say yes in a heartbeat and maybe not as to not sound slutty but if no one were to find out they would.. and some would even do it with gym teachers. Like i said not all of them but theres a pretty high rate. Thats why you need to find the hot nerd that got like that after highschool because she knows what it was like and would value more a guy thats sweet to her.. but some nerds when they reach their hotness tend to go wild because its new to them but eventually theyll come to their senses lol and my point is not to be a dick to girls just dont let them use you.
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Agreed. There is nothing worse than regret. I thought that I would be happy just being there for him when he tried to get another girl, but I wasn't happy at all. There probably isn't anything I can do now. I acted like his secret agent and helped him, and now that the girl has interest in him, I'm not happy at all. My friends say that he should have seen how I felt and he is so dense, but it was because I didn't take initiative. This is cold, harsh reality... F**k.
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I am notorious for waiting too long and falling into that "friend zone." I'm also a very passive person, and I'm as nice and honest to people as I possibly can be. I can't be a dick to people, I can't be that aggressive and dominant asshole that girls seem to fall for, so according to you I'm screwed right? Sure I need a lot more confidence in myself, I can agree with that part. But that's something I just can't understand, why do you have to be a jerk that pushes people around to easily be able to find relationships? Why do the people that are genuinely nice to girls have the hardest time? Not just speaking for me, but several people I've known. I've seen so many girls get with jerks and end up with their hearts broken, while they have a friend that would have treated them so much better and legitimately care about them. I just can't see why the world has to work like that.



Im with you and no youre not screwed damn i guess i have to choose my words carefully... my point is that sometimes girls associate kindness with weakness. Even if youre there every time to pick her up when she falls and ill tell you why. Girls want both things.. a guy that will destroy her in bed and be a dick to her (because if shes pretty she gets compliments on a daily basis and this surprises her) and the guy who will listen to her for hours and give her that emotional rock. The thing is that if they cant find that in one guy theyll get the "bad boy" and fill the emotional part with a guy that doesnt attract her so she can have the best of both worlds. My point is not to let yourself get used in this manner just because you want to be close to her. They will purposely call you bro so that you will know that shes not into you. But there are girls like i wrote earlier that will understand you but you have to have the courage to meet new people. And im sorry if i made anyone think that theyre not good enough that wasnt the point of the thread. I was actually trying to encourage people to fight for what they want not just observe from a distance.
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Yeah, you definitely detailed the harsh realities of life in your first and second posts lol but I truly believe not all girls are like that. Although, in high school, there are a lot of girls like that (or the high school I went to anyways). I had this friend in high school who was a dick to girls. They didn't go crazy over him by any means but still they seemed attracted to him. Now after high school I think he's just struggling to find a date lol sweet justice!!!!
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Agreed. There is nothing worse than regret. I thought that I would be happy just being there for him when he tried to get another girl, but I wasn't happy at all. There probably isn't anything I can do now. I acted like his secret agent and helped him, and now that the girl has interest in him, I'm not happy at all. My friends say that he should have seen how I felt and he is so dense, but it was because I didn't take initiative. This is cold, harsh reality... F**k.



I feel your pain like it was my own lol The reason why i posted this is because i too have been hurt by being (and i dont mean no disrespect towards anyone) a coward and not expressing my feelings beforehand and got stuck in the friendzone. But as soon as i learned what that was and understood why it happened it became obvious i didnt deem myself to be worthy and how would she? thats the point its better to say what you feel and get rejected that to live a double life. Being so close yet so far away. Like i said there are too many people in the world let me give you an example you had a friend for decades and he/she was the greatest friend of all and then they meet someone and they get married and things are no longer what they used to be. Time passes and the feelings of missing that person go away slowly but surely. And those feelings are what mess people up. They say things like "but what if she/he is the one'? and im sorry but theyre literally billions of people and its impossible that theres just one person for each of us. I wish you the best of luck and remember to be confident speak your mind and never regret anything.
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Yeah, you definitely detailed the harsh realities of life in your first and second posts lol but I truly believe not all girls are like that. Although, in high school, there are a lot of girls like that (or the high school I went to anyways). I had this friend in high school who was a dick to girls. They didn't go crazy over him by any means but still they seemed attracted to him. Now after high school I think he's just struggling to find a date lol sweet justice!!!!


You get noticed by being assertive and opinionated (i will no longer say dick lol) but if you dont show interest girls will move on (specially pretty girls). Plus if youre funny and they feel comfortable with you then you will always have a chance just dont waste it.
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Sebby_chan wrote:

Agreed. There is nothing worse than regret. I thought that I would be happy just being there for him when he tried to get another girl, but I wasn't happy at all. There probably isn't anything I can do now. I acted like his secret agent and helped him, and now that the girl has interest in him, I'm not happy at all. My friends say that he should have seen how I felt and he is so dense, but it was because I didn't take initiative. This is cold, harsh reality... F**k.



I feel your pain like it was my own lol The reason why i posted this is because i too have been hurt by being (and i dont mean no disrespect towards anyone) a coward and not expressing my feelings beforehand and got stuck in the friendzone. But as soon as i learned what that was and understood why it happened it became obvious i didnt deem myself to be worthy and how would she? thats the point its better to say what you feel and get rejected that to live a double life. Being so close yet so far away. Like i said there are too many people in the world let me give you an example you had a friend for decades and he/she was the greatest friend of all and then they meet someone and they get married and things are no longer what they used to be. Time passes and the feelings of missing that person go away slowly but surely. And those feelings are what mess people up. They say things like "but what if she/he is the one'? and im sorry but theyre literally billions of people and its impossible that theres just one person for each of us. I wish you the best of luck and remember to be confident speak your mind and never regret anything.


Well said. This gives me confidence. I think I will move on, but I will tell him my feelings and how I felt going through all that. He deserves to know that I went through a lot with him and I'm going to get over him. ^_^
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