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Post Reply Dated anyone totally different from you?
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Posted 7/14/13
Not in race or ethnicities, but difference in terms of lifestyle, social class, family background, culture etc. Did it work out and was it worth it? And can you please find pictures that represents you and your ex so we have a visual comparison of how different you are/were.


Mine didn't work out because he lived a typical skin head life style - trying to form a band, doing drugs and living off part time jobs. And I was just a normal girl studying at uni and trying to figure out my life. It was exciting getting to know him at first but after a few weeks I realised he was just high all the time, and I wasn't surprise when it ended because we just had nothing in common. But it's nice that he was a gent and cool about it.



The funny thing is, we did wear these exact same outfits when we were dating, minus the pigtails of course. lol
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Posted 7/14/13 , edited 7/14/13
Not really too incompatible in appearance, so pics would be pointless, but we grew up in different countries.

-Slight language barrier due to my elementary-level Chinese and her somewhat clumsy English
-Taiwan's pop culture is way different from the culture here
-She is super fobby and I am sort of just stuck in the no-man's land between fobby and whitewashed
-Radically different interests
-She is very prissy and seemed high-maintenance, while I am very laidback and let things be
-She is my cousin (marriage-related, not blood-related)
-She was the first person I dated who was older than me (by 3-4 years)
-She is a habitual smoker (surprisingly, I am not)
-We dislike each others' tastes in music....she prefers slow songs with lyrics and the stuff you find on American radio stations, I prefer underground electronic music, dubstep, techno, etc.


At least we like similar alcoholic beverages and she holds her drinks pretty well for a S/E Asian girl lol
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Posted 7/14/13 , edited 7/14/13
Im on my phone so finding a picture would be really bothersome atm ><

My ex and i were two very different people ..
-While im interested in other cultures and visiting new places he just wanted to stay at home
-he liked to get high and drunk all the time, while i prefer candy an a funny/or action movie over alchohol anf drugs
-he was the jealous type, so in the end me going to class was hard on him because he thought i was cheating (never cheated on anyone in my life)
- he had a bad temper, anger problems, while im laid back and relaxed
-i like manga and anime, he hates it...
- he was controlling and obsessive.. Im not. I believe that its important thay we have friends outside of our relationships, be it male or female, and he didnt..
-he was american and im european, i wouldnt call it two different cultures, but we're from two different countries, though i wouldnt say denmark has a culture as such... But we are still different from anericans, which brought out the differences in him and me ^^
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Posted 7/14/13
There was one that was weird at first and then the multiple flings afterwards just made it awkward:

This is me:


A little bit of an exaggeration but she literally compared me to being like him.

This is her....I mean not really but....you know what I mean:


I mean it was college so random people meeting each other happens. I'm Caribbean (Guyanese) and she is Korean. We're both more American than our respective nationalities though. I'm from NYC, she's from Washington D.C.

Biggest setbacks were that I was "too helpful" and she refused to be helped with anything. She was very self sufficient and I don't think I was anything more than a good time. Well, if you're looking at the pictures, you'll notice a clear size difference. She was a health nut. Would jog maybe 10 miles a day. I could've barely jogged 3 without getting bored. She hated eating comfort food (Burgers, fries, fried chicken, BBQ, steak, etc.), was very meticulous about her appearance, etc. She also loved to travel/move around A LOT but I'll get to that.

I think none of that would have mattered if her personality wasn't so dominating. Needing to be in control of everything.

Well, after that she occasionally dropped by NYC from time to time and we hooked up for the nights and that was that.

During those brief times I learned that she was practically obsessed with moving around. She couch crashed across the globe, shared experiences in hostels, was a beach bum multiple times in Hawaii, used her parents rewards for free flights to go where ever she wanted, so on and so forth. Some of the times she stopped by in NYC she was actually only there as an escort for some other guy.

I could never keep pace with her style of life. I had tried to but it gets a little ridiculous, you know?
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If she's cute and not fat. Then sure..
Posted 9/13/13
They say opposites attract, but no, I haven't.
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Posted 9/13/13
the thing about me is that it's hard to find someone who has similar interests to mine. (not because I'm unique or hipster or anything, my interests are all over the place, they're not consistent).


like for example, I love cheesy love songs, but I absolutely hate cheesy love movies.

i love reading celebrity gossips, love reading science stuffs, but I have zero interests about politics or current affairs really.

i love art.


i'm geeky but i love doing extreme sports, camping and travelling.



See, the problem with me is that I'm not consistent. Some people are consistent with their interests, if they like art, they just like art, they don't like stuffs like Pop Culture or celebrities.


I have yet to meet anyone who has similar interest pattern to mine.
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Me and my current boyfriend.

I'm more to the extroverted side, I'm super noisy and I love trying new things even if it causes embarrassment to me.
My boyfriend is an introvert, the shy and quiet guy. Doesn't ever want to embarrass himself.
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Posted 9/13/13
I am currently seeing someone who is very different from me. Different talent, hobbies, culture, and religion. We'll see how it goes but why would I want to date someone like me? Its not that I don't like myself but rather dating someone is a way to experience new things, a chance to get a really cool look at a different lifestyle. It may just be the kind of person I am but I love to socialize with new people.
Posted 9/13/13 , edited 9/13/13
I guess so. I was mostly raised and still live in the suburbs with a middle class immediate family. My ex lived in the hood, was raised in the hood, and his immediate family was on welfare. Personality-wise, he was a lot more outgoing and less tightly wound than I. No, we didn't work..obviously; but it may have had more to do with me just not being ready. I didn't mind where he lived and really liked his family. The only problem with me coming over was that my stomach perhaps wasn't used to "soul food" as I got sick almost every time I ate what they cooked. He blamed it on the Indian food I almost always got at the train station when I'd first arrive, but I don't think that did it.

The only example I feel like we even remotely related to was Sango & Miroku ("InuYasha.") He was a pretty big flirt/playboy, and I didn't like it:






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Posted 9/14/13 , edited 9/14/13
Yes. Despite all the arguments and differences, we naturally fill in each others spaces.
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Posted 9/14/13
Yeah, it wouldn't have been a bad idea if I had known the biggest hidden trait about her - stuck up.
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Posted 9/14/13 , edited 9/14/13
Yes actually I married a woman who is my opposite.
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Posted 9/15/13 , edited 9/15/13
pretty much everyone i've dated has been really different from me. i'm a pretty...unique...individual. haha
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Posted 9/15/13
I never dated anybody.
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