First  Prev  4  5  6  7  8  9  10  11  12  13  14  15  16  17  18  19  20  Next  Last
Post Reply Kindness Mistaken As Flirting?
13345 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
24 / M / Sweden
Offline
Posted 7/26/13

NekoGirlSashira wrote:





Guys Always Think I'm Flirting With Them But, I'm Not. I'm Just Nice!

Has This Ever Happen To You! Please Share!


I have a friend who asks me why i'm flirting with my senior neighbors... -.-
So I have this problem quite alot. Many in this generation doesn't know the difference...
Parents need to teach their children better!
19600 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
25 / F / Australia
Offline
Posted 7/26/13
Yeah, it has happened at least once and made things awkward... I feel bad, not for being kind to them, but because they called me a b**** for leading them on. Well, would they have preferred me to be rude to them?

Thankfully it doesn't happen often and most people I meet are equally nice with no strings attached.
23995 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
20 / F / *in his heart and...
Offline
Posted 7/29/13

Davisx3m wrote:


NekoGirlSashira wrote:





Guys Always Think I'm Flirting With Them But, I'm Not. I'm Just Nice!

Has This Ever Happen To You! Please Share!


I have a friend who asks me why i'm flirting with my senior neighbors... -.-
So I have this problem quite alot. Many in this generation doesn't know the difference...
Parents need to teach their children better!


Well at least were not like the younger generations these days >.>; Just awful the younger they are the worse it is or whatever influenced them these days
Posted 7/29/13
Constantly -___-
17961 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
23 / M
Offline
Posted 7/29/13

bloga1 wrote:

In the world of nice guys, i can tell you that there have been very few times girls have thought i was flirting with them just by doing something nice. However, when girls are kind to me, depending on how kind, I guess I have thought that they were flirting with me.


Same for me as well.
830 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
16 / F / Cali~
Offline
Posted 7/29/13
People mistake my flirting as kindness :O
And I'm kinda dense so I'm not sure if anyone's ever thought I was flirting with them when I was just being nice...
4587 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
21 / F / NYC
Offline
Posted 7/29/13
Well, they are similar. For instance, if you like someone your going to be sweet on them and try to make them comfortable by trying to become friends with small talk, holding doors, etcc.

And you must realize, some people are often so neglected by others that when kindness is shown they don't know how to react towards it.
3301 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
18 / F / You don't need to...
Offline
Posted 7/29/13 , edited 7/29/13
I've had a lot of guys cling to me and get crushes on me, thinking they'll get with me. That's why I have more girl friends than guy friends at this age lol I'm nice if you're nice to me. But if you're mean, oh, you'll get something special from me But I'll let someone know they're just a friend by telling them I don't like them that way... it flatters me to know so many guys like me, but I'm not looking for anything serious.
22133 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
F / In The Meawdow of...
Offline
Posted 7/29/13 , edited 7/29/13
I'm quite oblivious to flirting, I always think that they're just being nice until they start flirting harder ( then I realize something is weird ), then my friend or classmate says " Idiot, he has a crush on you!" Then I'm like, oh. Then I feel awkward and run off, I'm just being nice, and I don't want to be in a relationship! It helps I'm so oblivious too...

Worst one was when the guy started showing me his 'muscles' , and flexing it at me. Then he always kept talking loudly about the first day we met, and people would think we were a couple.
5007 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
Offline
Posted 7/29/13
I don't know man, that guy that holds the door for me sure does seem like he wants to jump my bones. (sarcasm)
3153 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
19 / M / under the sheets...
Offline
Posted 7/29/13


FRIEND ZONE!
12023 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
20 / M
Offline
Posted 7/29/13
Haha yeah happens all the time. An unfortunate side effect of a society that doesn't want to embarrass themselves.
21843 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
29 / M / Michigan, Metro D...
Offline
Posted 7/29/13 , edited 7/29/13
I think it depends.
A lot of the girls I do know are very nice to the guys who DO flirt with them. That is a terrible idea, because then you really seem like you are flirting back no matter how innocent what you say is. The guys want to believe you are interested in them. The more flirty gentlemen that you are kind to, the more you seem like one yourself. I don't really understand it, it is like people have blinders on. If someone tells you they have feelings for you, and you don't have any interest in them at all, fucking say so. If you don't want to come off as a flirt.. shut them down, and shut them down hard. Crush them, even if they just seem like they are joking around about it. After all, in most jokes there are nuggets of truth waiting to be revealed. Stop trying to be careful, trying to be nice, trying to keep the "friendship" you have. Otherwise you might as well get used to it.

As for those who are oblivious to flirting.. I'm not sure what to tell you. Generally, I would just say.. Think about what they are saying or doing to you.. Is that something you would do to a stranger, or would you do it to someone you liked instead?
119 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
15 / M / the hell you want...
Offline
Posted 7/29/13
ahh in the words of hikagaya hatchiman kindness is a lie and i hate nice girls
59 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
18 / F / AsianTown :)
Offline
Posted 7/29/13
I just have to say it happens to me sometimes. It makes them feel that you have something for them and that kindness makes them feel as if

you're flirting even though you are not. Although since I'm a girl, the guys don't see it like that lol. They would also start liking me and yada yada

yada, but its not good leading them on and just say " Hey I'm just being polite and don't think the wrong way I'm like this to everyone."
First  Prev  4  5  6  7  8  9  10  11  12  13  14  15  16  17  18  19  20  Next  Last
You must be logged in to post.