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Post Reply Kindness Mistaken As Flirting?
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Posted 7/31/13
It was happen before when I work at a department. I am really friendly to all and I talked a lot in guys should I say chit chat. Maybe their talking to me because I am single and you know guys would approach a girls that are available. I was trying to be friendly to them but all of a sudden they were trying to court. OMG! That's so absurd, I haven't expected that guys talking to me were flirt.

So from then on I am trying to refrain talking to guys. SNOB~!
Posted 7/31/13
No, I have the exact opposite problem. Some people assume I'm stuck-up when I'm just shy. If you talk to me, I'll gladly talk to you. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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I just talk to people with kindness. Because that's what everyone needs in their life is a little niceness. Unless there is a reason I treat everyone with kindness. If I get asked out then whatever apparently they were flirting with me while all I was doing was talking to them. To be honest in this world having a nice and fun conversation can easily be mistaken and turned into flirting when it was just harmless conversation. But whatever, I suppose depending on the conversation, people involved it could or couldn't be flirting depending on what they think.

All about their own opinions I suppose.
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Posted 8/4/13

Reminces wrote:

I just talk to people with kindness. Because that's what everyone needs in their life is a little niceness. Unless there is a reason I treat everyone with kindness. If I get asked out then whatever apparently they were flirting with me while all I was doing was talking to them. To be honest in this world having a nice and fun conversation can easily be mistaken and turned into flirting when it was just harmless conversation. But whatever, I suppose depending on the conversation, people involved it could or couldn't be flirting depending on what they think.

All about their own opinions I suppose.


That's true everyone deserves kindness now and again after only dealing through hardship of others who weren't so kind in this world
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Well, it's more of a respect thing here in China. You can be showing kindness but really it's just respecting each other's values but then again, I remember how hard it is for people to demonstrate that respect and not come off to the standard of 'flirting'.

When I did my 2 years of Highschool in a public school in Ottawa, Canada, every girl thought I was hitting on them. But it was probably because almost every guy was a douchebag.
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I see it in my friend a lot, like a girl looks at him and he says that see is interested in him hahah or girl sits near us and says she wants to talk to us lol
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I'm going to have to say I have no idea if other people took my kindness as flirting, I'll assume so because it makes sense with politeness becoming harder to find these days. (I know someone early on in this thread said they disagreed with that, but I'm afraid my viewpoint is very different...then again, perhaps its a regional thing)

I do know that I don't find kindness directed toward me as flirting. As another person stated earlier, I also wonder about 'ulterior motives'. Not attractive enough to warrant flirting and when younger was constantly reminded of that fact by other people for years. (How nice of them) Combine that with the few friends in my life all turning around and stabbing me in the back at the start of High School and you can see how when some one acted kind to me, I suddenly got very suspicious and weary.

I'm better now with it, but still tend to get a little weary at times.
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Posted 8/4/13

Nefunrest wrote:

Well, it's more of a respect thing here in China. You can be showing kindness but really it's just respecting each other's values but then again, I remember how hard it is for people to demonstrate that respect and not come off to the standard of 'flirting'.

When I did my 2 years of Highschool in a public school in Ottawa, Canada, every girl thought I was hitting on them. But it was probably because almost every guy was a douchebag.


True. It seems like being a douche bag is always going to be popular among both genders. I just don't see why
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NekoGirlSashira wrote:


Nefunrest wrote:

Well, it's more of a respect thing here in China. You can be showing kindness but really it's just respecting each other's values but then again, I remember how hard it is for people to demonstrate that respect and not come off to the standard of 'flirting'.

When I did my 2 years of Highschool in a public school in Ottawa, Canada, every girl thought I was hitting on them. But it was probably because almost every guy was a douchebag.


True. It seems like being a douche bag is always going to be popular among both genders. I just don't see why


And be happy you can't. The moment you understand is the moment you become them. And that is a time to be feared. I'm glad that you are a reasonable person and cannot.
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Posted 8/4/13

The_Elu wrote:


NekoGirlSashira wrote:


Nefunrest wrote:

Well, it's more of a respect thing here in China. You can be showing kindness but really it's just respecting each other's values but then again, I remember how hard it is for people to demonstrate that respect and not come off to the standard of 'flirting'.

When I did my 2 years of Highschool in a public school in Ottawa, Canada, every girl thought I was hitting on them. But it was probably because almost every guy was a douchebag.


True. It seems like being a douche bag is always going to be popular among both genders. I just don't see why


And be happy you can't. The moment you understand is the moment you become them. And that is a time to be feared. I'm glad that you are a reasonable person and cannot.


Oh right.. I would never want to become them.. Ugh such a horrible thought >>; Your right I am happy that I can't see why!
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NekoGirlSashira wrote:


The_Elu wrote:


NekoGirlSashira wrote:


Nefunrest wrote:

Well, it's more of a respect thing here in China. You can be showing kindness but really it's just respecting each other's values but then again, I remember how hard it is for people to demonstrate that respect and not come off to the standard of 'flirting'.

When I did my 2 years of Highschool in a public school in Ottawa, Canada, every girl thought I was hitting on them. But it was probably because almost every guy was a douchebag.


True. It seems like being a douche bag is always going to be popular among both genders. I just don't see why


And be happy you can't. The moment you understand is the moment you become them. And that is a time to be feared. I'm glad that you are a reasonable person and cannot.


Oh right.. I would never want to become them.. Ugh such a horrible thought >>; Your right I am happy that I can't see why!


*thumbs up*
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Posted 8/5/13

The_Elu wrote:


NekoGirlSashira wrote:


The_Elu wrote:


NekoGirlSashira wrote:


Nefunrest wrote:

Well, it's more of a respect thing here in China. You can be showing kindness but really it's just respecting each other's values but then again, I remember how hard it is for people to demonstrate that respect and not come off to the standard of 'flirting'.

When I did my 2 years of Highschool in a public school in Ottawa, Canada, every girl thought I was hitting on them. But it was probably because almost every guy was a douchebag.


True. It seems like being a douche bag is always going to be popular among both genders. I just don't see why


And be happy you can't. The moment you understand is the moment you become them. And that is a time to be feared. I'm glad that you are a reasonable person and cannot.


Oh right.. I would never want to become them.. Ugh such a horrible thought >>; Your right I am happy that I can't see why!


*thumbs up*


yay for random conversations!
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Well, it was kind of on topic...But to keep up with the randomness for a moment. *random head spins* Ah, I miss random forum conversations.
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Posted 8/5/13

The_Elu wrote:



Well, it was kind of on topic...But to keep up with the randomness for a moment. *random head spins* Ah, I miss random forum conversations.


Yeah it's always nice to talk to someone new ^^
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I've had this problem before and a lot :c
I remember my friend came to me and was like "You know, You should really stop flirting it makes you look kind of like a b-tch."
I got very offended and said I wasn't flirting with anyone just was kind. :/ I believe people have lost what was once part of morals, and being kind to others is just being respectful.
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