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Agreed. It's been nice making your acquaintance, Miss Neko Sashira. *bows*

And Red Ribbon, you are right about the morals from my standpoint. You can only shake your head sometimes and just hang in there. As long as you know you were only being kind.

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Agreed. It's been nice making your acquaintance, Miss Neko Sashira. *bows*

And Red Ribbon, you are right about the morals from my standpoint. You can only shake your head sometimes and just hang in there. As long as you know you were only being kind.



*smiles* I actually dealt with problems like this awhile back when I was new on cr
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Agreed. It's been nice making your acquaintance, Miss Neko Sashira. *bows*

And Red Ribbon, you are right about the morals from my standpoint. You can only shake your head sometimes and just hang in there. As long as you know you were only being kind.



*smiles* I actually dealt with problems like this awhile back when I was new on cr


Hopefully, that is no longer an issue? Though I understand that sometimes it seems unavoidable depending on the other party.
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Posted 8/5/13

The_Elu wrote:


NekoGirlSashira wrote:


The_Elu wrote:



Agreed. It's been nice making your acquaintance, Miss Neko Sashira. *bows*

And Red Ribbon, you are right about the morals from my standpoint. You can only shake your head sometimes and just hang in there. As long as you know you were only being kind.



*smiles* I actually dealt with problems like this awhile back when I was new on cr


Hopefully, that is no longer an issue? Though I understand that sometimes it seems unavoidable depending on the other party.



Oh no not anymore I can somewhat spot someone flirting with me instead of being completely oblivious like when I was younger
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The_Elu wrote:


NekoGirlSashira wrote:


The_Elu wrote:



Agreed. It's been nice making your acquaintance, Miss Neko Sashira. *bows*

And Red Ribbon, you are right about the morals from my standpoint. You can only shake your head sometimes and just hang in there. As long as you know you were only being kind.



*smiles* I actually dealt with problems like this awhile back when I was new on cr


Hopefully, that is no longer an issue? Though I understand that sometimes it seems unavoidable depending on the other party.



Oh no not anymore I can somewhat spot someone flirting with me instead of being completely oblivious like when I was younger


Glad to hear. *quietly tries to decide which of our two threads we should stick our spamming efforts into*
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Haha not flirting in my case I often get mistaken for being gay being too kind. But hey I'd rather be called gay then change my attitude towards others to avoid it
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Nice outlook you have there, kuggles.
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The_Elu wrote:


NekoGirlSashira wrote:


The_Elu wrote:


NekoGirlSashira wrote:


The_Elu wrote:



Agreed. It's been nice making your acquaintance, Miss Neko Sashira. *bows*

And Red Ribbon, you are right about the morals from my standpoint. You can only shake your head sometimes and just hang in there. As long as you know you were only being kind.



*smiles* I actually dealt with problems like this awhile back when I was new on cr


Hopefully, that is no longer an issue? Though I understand that sometimes it seems unavoidable depending on the other party.


Oh no not anymore I can somewhat spot someone flirting with me instead of being completely oblivious like when I was younger


Glad to hear. *quietly tries to decide which of our two threads we should stick our spamming efforts into*


Haha we could choose or we can just be buddies and spam each others guestbooks XD
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Really? Where does this happen? In my town, all the girls despise kind guys and kindness is seen as betaness and weakness.


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NekoGirlSashira wrote:


The_Elu wrote:


NekoGirlSashira wrote:


The_Elu wrote:


NekoGirlSashira wrote:


The_Elu wrote:



Agreed. It's been nice making your acquaintance, Miss Neko Sashira. *bows*

And Red Ribbon, you are right about the morals from my standpoint. You can only shake your head sometimes and just hang in there. As long as you know you were only being kind.



*smiles* I actually dealt with problems like this awhile back when I was new on cr


Hopefully, that is no longer an issue? Though I understand that sometimes it seems unavoidable depending on the other party.


Oh no not anymore I can somewhat spot someone flirting with me instead of being completely oblivious like when I was younger


Glad to hear. *quietly tries to decide which of our two threads we should stick our spamming efforts into*


Haha we could choose or we can just be buddies and spam each others guestbooks XD


True. That'd be a first for me. Hm. *strokes chin*

And rugal, must be a regional thing for ya if they all think that. Hate to hear they think it a weakness, but I've known plenty who thought that too. le sigh.
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The_Elu wrote:


NekoGirlSashira wrote:


The_Elu wrote:


NekoGirlSashira wrote:


The_Elu wrote:


NekoGirlSashira wrote:


The_Elu wrote:



Agreed. It's been nice making your acquaintance, Miss Neko Sashira. *bows*

And Red Ribbon, you are right about the morals from my standpoint. You can only shake your head sometimes and just hang in there. As long as you know you were only being kind.



*smiles* I actually dealt with problems like this awhile back when I was new on cr


Hopefully, that is no longer an issue? Though I understand that sometimes it seems unavoidable depending on the other party.


Oh no not anymore I can somewhat spot someone flirting with me instead of being completely oblivious like when I was younger


Glad to hear. *quietly tries to decide which of our two threads we should stick our spamming efforts into*


Haha we could choose or we can just be buddies and spam each others guestbooks XD


True. That'd be a first for me. Hm. *strokes chin*

And rugal, must be a regional thing for ya if they all think that. Hate to hear they think it a weakness, but I've known plenty who thought that too. le sigh.


What would be a first for you?
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I remember in Middle School we had a transfer student when one of the other local schools shut down. Since he was new I was nice to him so he could adjust to the new school environment. I guess he took it the wrong way because then he started to "flirt" with me. He would get really close and stuff; too close for comfort. I was only 12 and terrified. I still feel really bad for turning him down because maybe I really did give him mixed signals.

Recently in High school I was close to a guy and we would talk a lot. I ended up crushing hard on him but kept my emotions in control. I would be happy even if we were just friends because he was also a good friend than some random cute guy. He was an upperclassmen and I didn't know at the time that he broke up with a girlfriend that he was serious about. After a good year of being just friends he ended up getting back together with his ex. Of course I was upset but he was still my friend and I wanted to stay friends. I guess I wasn't his friend because we started talking less and less until we just stopped talking all together. Not only did I lose someone that I had liked, I also lost a good friend that I had trusted.

Ironically he was the one who pursued the friendship at first so It makes me wonder why. I mean if he wanted to pursue me romantically, he wouldn't had gotten together with his ex and if he wanted friendship, we would have stayed friends. Just thinking about it confuses me. XD
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I remember in Middle School we had a transfer student when one of the other local schools shut down. Since he was new I was nice to him so he could adjust to the new school environment. I guess he took it the wrong way because then he started to "flirt" with me. He would get really close and stuff; too close for comfort. I was only 12 and terrified. I still feel really bad for turning him down because maybe I really did give him mixed signals.

Recently in High school I was close to a guy and we would talk a lot. I ended up crushing hard on him but kept my emotions in control. I would be happy even if we were just friends because he was also a good friend than some random cute guy. He was an upperclassmen and I didn't know at the time that he broke up with a girlfriend that he was serious about. After a good year of being just friends he ended up getting back together with his ex. Of course I was upset but he was still my friend and I wanted to stay friends. I guess I wasn't his friend because we started talking less and less until we just stopped talking all together. Not only did I lose someone that I had liked, I also lost a good friend that I had trusted.

Ironically he was the one who pursued the friendship at first so It makes me wonder why. I mean if he wanted to pursue me romantically, he wouldn't had gotten together with his ex and if he wanted friendship, we would have stayed friends. Just thinking about it confuses me. XD


Ah such a common pain I've experienced of once close friends drifting away . It always confuses me too when I look back thinking how did we grow apart maybe it was for the best I now have only a group of 5 friends I've stuck with since sophomore year till now but, remember this sometimes faith works in mysterious ways
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Having a cr buddy and having any chatter whatsoever in guestbooks. lol
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Interesting topic; this came up in a conversation with a friend recently. Kindness mistaken for flirtating happens way too often to me. I tend to give and have no expectation of getting anything in return (which is nice when I get do get something in return, although rare).

In high school, I often hung after school with this girl. We were good friends and I'm pretty sure I kept her a friendly distance. Once, I did hug her (out of surprise since I don't hug) as a thank you when she plastered my locker with pictures of a favorite character of mine. I think that was the straw that broke the camel's back because she ended up confessing to me a couple days later. I had to reject her. We remained as good (although now distanced) friends.

The most awkward case was with a guy in my Mathematics class. Our first conversation was over homework results. Over rest of the quarter, we talked about random things like our weekends or different type of ties. I believe it was when he had gotten a hair cut and I had commented that I though it was "nice looking", did he mistaken my friendliness. He ended up asking for my number saying awkwardly that it was because I was "kinda cool". We had an awkward conversation via text after the quarter was over and that was that.
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