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I suppose it is essential to the human spirit to fluctuate in and out of good times. Bad times push us to do better, to be better. It is only by this way that we can elevate our potential as people to be better than the previous generation, better than our peers. It is on the curtails of few or the decisions of many that humanity grows into a better personage.
Posted 7/20/13
Lol....I get this ALL THE TIME from women. I am a nice guy naturally and I smile a lot when I speak, but I had to stop smiling when talking to people...especially women. It has to be the dimples I have...they are both a blessing and a curse...I also listen intently when someone speaks to me(you will have my full attention) because I want to hear you out clearly and I have pretty good eye contact skills now(which is new for me)
. Now when I talk to women about 80% of the time I never smile on purpose, so I won't get the..."oh he wants me look in their eye's".
Now people I interact with are telling me I never smile *sigh*. As for me I wait till a woman is obviously flirting with me to make a move...it happens a lot to me so I'm used to it. Its possible for anyone to make that mistake a few times I guess, but for me its no big deal...there's plenty of women out there to go around...no need to be upset over it..just on to the next one.
Posted 7/20/13
I'm not good at smiling like the above guy but i exaggerate a lot. I don't like dealing with people's expectations to like them back,they make me mean and i just want to be an exaggerator without the feelings.
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I think it's true guys always take girls being nice as an opportunity to like that person but the same goes for girls too. I think we are just unaware of how we talk and the way we act. It's getting too comfortable around that person and they end up liking you. It's just you have to balance friendship v. relationship values and not let the line blur.
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The same definitely goes for girls too. Guys being nice to girls can be taken in just the same way as a guy may take a nice girl's act towards them.

Humans are confusing and forever unaware of the true meaning of a good portion of actions by their fellow humans.
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HELP
Okay I'm talking to a guy on CR I don't know him that well so
he told I was a cutie and put "*kisses your cheek*" is that flirting?
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Posted 7/20/13
Being nice, polite or friendly has a certain charm. Think of it this way, who want's to ask someone out who isn't nice?
Posted 7/20/13

NekoGirlSashira wrote:

:excl: HELP
Okay I'm talking to a guy on CR I don't know him that well so
he told I was a cutie and put "*kisses your cheek*" is that flirting?


Yes it sounds like flirting to me. I've called women cute on here before, but the kiss your cheek part is definitely flirting.
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Posted 7/20/13

marcel20 wrote:


NekoGirlSashira wrote:

:excl: HELP
Okay I'm talking to a guy on CR I don't know him that well so
he told I was a cutie and put "*kisses your cheek*" is that flirting?


Yes it sounds like flirting to me. I've called women cute on here before, but the kiss your cheek part is definitely flirting.


Okay thank you I was double checking just to be sure >>; Because I didn't make this thread for nothing!
Posted 7/20/13

NekoGirlSashira wrote:


marcel20 wrote:


NekoGirlSashira wrote:

:excl: HELP
Okay I'm talking to a guy on CR I don't know him that well so
he told I was a cutie and put "*kisses your cheek*" is that flirting?


Yes it sounds like flirting to me. I've called women cute on here before, but the kiss your cheek part is definitely flirting.


Okay thank you I was double checking just to be sure >>; Because I didn't make this thread for nothing!


no problem
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Posted 7/21/13
I've been told off by a lot of boyfriends for "flirting" with their girls. Fact is I was having a conversation, which is usually more than they do but whatever. So yes.
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Posted 7/21/13

FlutterCharm wrote:

The same definitely goes for girls too. Guys being nice to girls can be taken in just the same way as a guy may take a nice girl's act towards them.

Humans are confusing and forever unaware of the true meaning of a good portion of actions by their fellow humans.


True enough. I'm generally nice to girls (and people in general) and girls have seen that as something it's not and started flirting with me. The thing is though if any guy and girl get along really well and are compatible, attraction can and does form though so it's not too surprising. Yes niceness can be mistaken as flirting, but if 2 people are really nice to each other and get along really well I think it can lead to real attraction and flirting. Although false positives and one-sided chasing is also possible.
Posted 7/21/13

NekoGirlSashira wrote:

:excl: HELP
Okay I'm talking to a guy on CR I don't know him that well so
he told I was a cutie and put "*kisses your cheek*" is that flirting?


Depends on where he's from.
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Romance is such a crippled thing today.
I wish I could've experienced it before the internet, TV and generally any sort of media.

I've had 2 girlfriends my entire life, and I'm 20 years old.
I'm not exactly good lookin' or anything, pretty average, but I'm honest and kind.
Yet, it seems to be impossible for me to date a girl, since most girls have VERY high expectations and "standards"
My point being, I could easely be one of those fellas who would misunderstand your signals if you were kind to me.
Not you specifically NekoGirlSashira, but I'm guessingyou know what I mean.

It's just impossible at times.
And it makes you go mad, I've somewhat learned to deal with loneliness, but I think it's a very strange world where even average people can't seem to have a shot at love.

Whatever you do ! Don't friendzone those people, it's pretty hurtful over time
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Posted 7/21/13
nah, i'm very cautious when distinguishing between the two.

i rely on a couple more concrete signals before i take action.

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