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Depression, and how you deal with it
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Posted 7/20/13 , edited 7/20/13
i have suffered from cronic depression since i was 16. i used to have a hard time dealing with it, and all the various Things that would get me Down. this is actually the reason i got in to anime, pc games, and the like. i discovered that some anime would really stir my emotions, more than any normal movie or series ever did. over the last decade ive gradually become a total shut in (Theres an anime about this btw : welcome to the NHK - thats basically me ) at first i wanted to get out and be with friends and such, but as the problems and concerns kept mounting, i started to enjoy my solitude. i wouldnt call any of it, truely dealing with it, but atleast im happy where i am now.
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MopZ wrote:


Kikusui10 wrote:


MopZ wrote:

I usually just wallow, deny, or just shove try to shove it into a corner.


Temporary solution if you ask me. Unless you attack the problem head on, it will eventually grow bigger and catch up with you, and thus making it much harder to deal with. Of course it depends entirely on what's making you depressed, but in most cases that solution is only temporary.


Financial independence and money are major problems for me and some of my specific problems. I've also never had much confidence or self-esteem either, and I'm easy to loose or gain it.


That's a pretty common trait found in anime lovers. Well either way i don't have enough knowledge or experience to try to offer up a solution for you, and even if i did it doesn't seem like it's an issue that can be resolved simply with talking.If i were to state my thought process however, i would assume the best solution would be the one you figure out yourself.
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An expensive hobby with expensive side/related hobbies! Wallets beware! It's already gotten to the point that I need to deal with them anyway, so that's going to start regardless. Thanks for the concern, though.
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i just do some thing that makes me happy like watching anime or playing a game
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80's music and Bowie
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Just let it fade away naturally.
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Well, I usually take my meds. But sometimes, they change me, kind of as a person, so I try not to take those too often. I also have GAD, and a panic disorder. I'm pretty hyper-active, and my depression is pretty mild. However, I can easily become depressed if I don't get enough sleep, or don't eat right.
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get high, masturbate, try to think like a robot with no emotions or limited emotions where i dont feel depression, not give a fuck what the doctor says cuzz she can say i have depression with her dam diagnosis but i feel fine, lie to my innerself to make it seem optomistic, move on, be mean to others, try to become a better person than i currently am, become completly my innermost self purely myself with no influence from society or anything, become a Buddha...
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Just need perspective. No matter how down you feel or how tough things are going, just realize there are people out there who have it a lot worse. It will help you appreciate the good things in your life.
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I had pretty bad depression for about a year and I learned that the worst thing you can do is isolate yourself and become content with your solitude because then you're just halting your life and not moving forward, you're just in a stand still state of autopilot and you begin to forget who you really are. I realised this when I tried to remember who I was before I fell into depression and I wanted to be that person again so badly, I wanted to be me again.

The way I looked at it is that if depression is a mental state then I will change my mentality. If I can get myself into depression, I can get myself out that's why I'm not very fond of the whole antidepressant thing, using drugs to cure something mental isn't the best idea as drugs play around with your brain even more so.

I also don't agree with what I've seen posted here by others which is to play video games or watch tv or anime all day because I've found from personal experience that it makes it so much worse, you start to forget what real life is and your expectations of life change and become unrealistic ("life is boring" "this world is empty and dissatisfying" etc etc, I've had all these thoughts)

I don't really know much about therapy and if it actually works because I never wanted to admit to anyone out loud that I was depressed (and I never did) because up until then it had all been in my own head and if I told someone it would make it too real and I couldn't have handled that.

I just changed my perception of life as a whole and tried to spend more time with family and friends, people I felt completely comfortable around and tried to enjoy life.
It is a huge effort and I did feel like I was pretending A LOT of the time and just wanted to crawl back into that oh so comfortable, familiar place where I'm alone and nothing changes but then I would be making no progress, so I soldiered through. It's better to be around people than dwell on your depressive thoughts and eventually.. I got there
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I am depressed most of the time, since I was young. Now that I'm getting old it's just part of my personality. Some days are better than others obviously. I cope by smoking pot and distracting myself with entertainment (movies, video games, anime, reading). I Quit smoking cigarettes a few months ago and that has really been a struggle, lots of anxiety I didn't used to feel. Work helps though. I do much better when I have some degree of structure and routine.

I could probably live this way for a long time still. I know there are lots of people that spend most of their lives fundamentally unhappy. Others find help in medication. I can't go that road, and used to deride those who did. But now I realize we are all different and meds work for many people. Nothing wrong with that.

We are the sum of our experiences, I guess. With that in mind, I've recently decided to focus on having as many experiences as possible. And while I am still not really happy, I am less often severely depressed.
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bensonc120 wrote:

Just need perspective. No matter how down you feel or how tough things are going, just realize there are people out there who have it a lot worse. It will help you appreciate the good things in your life.


yeah like BS a person can think that way when they just lost everything ...then they will just think other people have it bad too and most of the world is in a bad condition while he had all that and lost it so he can relate to them... he would then realize how sad this world really is because rich have thanksgiving while their long distant brother ( distant because scientific adam and eve ) in africa eats dirtballs just to keep his stomach from eating itself .... i dont like your way of thinking cuzz it creates in my view a world like the one we live in where people with luxury may lose a little or a lot but then thinks about the poor and is happy that their are poor that have it worse than him so he gains happiness from that, the demon... what if he was in the garden of eden where no one was poor become resources are infinite, he would have no poor to look at and get happy from their suffering so how would he get happy!?!?... i hear the advice your giving from a lot of people, and those people are wealthy who have made it, and it disgusts me.... give a better way to get from sad to happy ...
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I've had depression for quite some time now actually. I first started noticing it around 12 but didn't think too much of it at the time as it wasn't such a big deal yet. The last few years have been difficult. My dad lost his job, my cat died, my grandma's having health problems, my mom's hard on me and just doesn't seem to like me at all, my grades dropped from mainly B's and C's to all D's and F's, my dad took a job out of state, I'm moving for the first time ever in 3 weeks, I failed a grade....its a lot. This past school year, which was my 9th grade year, my depression was horrible. My grade school friends were all moving on and making new friends while I could never muster up the courage to talk to anyone without them talking to me first. I used to cut for a while. I spent countless nights planning out how to "do it". I couldn't even get out of bed early enough in the morning to get to school on time most days last school year. I crashed and burned. Burned probably isn't even a good enough word to use there.

Besides the point, I'm no expert on feeling better when I'm down in the dumps, which unfortunately is most of the time. But what does help is just not thinking about it. Sounds simple, it is, but it works. Also recently I've been focusing more on my interests and things I enjoy. That's been helping a lot too. I've been tricking myself into thinking I'm happy by doing those things. I know I'm not, every once in a while I feel what I've been suppressing. But majority of the time I feel ok, which is an improvement. Being ok is just fine with me.
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you don't, you just kind of learn to live with it. that's what im doing
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yeah like BS a person can think that way when they just lost everything ...then they will just think other people have it bad too and most of the world is in a bad condition while he had all that and lost it so he can relate to them... he would then realize how sad this world really is because rich have thanksgiving while their long distant brother ( distant because scientific adam and eve ) in africa eats dirtballs just to keep his stomach from eating itself .... i dont like your way of thinking cuzz it creates in my view a world like the one we live in where people with luxury may lose a little or a lot but then thinks about the poor and is happy that their are poor that have it worse than him so he gains happiness from that, the demon... what if he was in the garden of eden where no one was poor become resources are infinite, he would have no poor to look at and get happy from their suffering so how would he get happy!?!?... i hear the advice your giving from a lot of people, and those people are wealthy who have made it, and it disgusts me.... give a better way to get from sad to happy ...


I'm not saying look at people who have less than you and laugh at them. Don't be happy that way! I'm saying sometimes we take a lot of things for granted. It's always good to remind ourselves to appreciate what we have and not have tunnel vision where you only see the negatives. From my experience, things are never as bad as you think once you clear your mind a bit, be it school, family, money, relationships...
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