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In England there are two main types of children/adolescence at the moment, ones that behave, do their school work and keep their opinions to themselves and a close knit of friends where on the other hand we have ones that hang round in peer pressured groups of 7 or more who find it necessary to belittle anyone around them that are different in the slightest way.

This is based on what neighborhood they grew up in, how their parents allowed them to and such. If they were to keep them locked away in their house forced them to do work obviously it'll cause them to have better grades later on in life but it would damage their social prowess, or were they to allow their children to do what ever they want it a big risk on what attitude they would develop towards attitude whether it be positive or negative.

My question to you guys is, how would you raise you children?
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I figure I will just grab a few methods from around the world and mash them all together. Starting at about 5 years old they will be required to walk across hot coals. If they do this well enough I will have them wear the glove made of bullet ants for 13 minutes. This should prepare them adequately enough to be sent into the deep woods with a paring knife to hunt bears. They must begin their bear hunt before age 7 though. Only once they emerge from the woods wearing a bear skin will they be allowed to move on to lion hunting. They are given as much time in the woods as they need though...of course I don't have the greatest attention span in the world so I might end up forgetting about them as I watch anime and read manga. Then there will just be an extra step for them getting back home before the lion hunt begins.
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This sounds like a very good way of raising a child apart from it'll probably frowned upon as it's basics are taken from 3rd world countries/near the birth of Christ (I'm an Agnostic, whatever)
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It's cool. Once we get up to people hunting any complaints will quickly disappear.
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I don't ever want to have children ever!!! (reason is because I have a child-like mind, I can't even take care of myself, much less another child).
Someone would literally have to put a baby at my doorstep for me to even consider taking care of one!

If one day something similar like that happens to me, I suppose I would raise him/her to think for himself, always question my decisions... speak his mind. I would spend a lot of my time with him, going to amusement parks, watching cartoons, playing video games (I mean I already enjoy doing these things ... lol... )


I would teach him the fun facts from science, history, literature and art. And more if he's interested in academics.
But if he's not interested in academics and want to be a train conductor or something, I would support his decisions... I would read up about train and try my best to communicate with him about trains.

I would tuck him to bed each night, and tell him bedtime stories until he's too old for this sort of things. During his teen years, I would take him camping, travelling etc.



I know I sound a little too passionate about this, but I seriously don't want any children for myself... I'm a very lazy person, and any child stuck will me will probably starve to death.
Posted 7/24/13

Murgurbo wrote:

In England there are two main types of children/adolescence at the moment, ones that behave, do their school work and keep their opinions to themselves and a close knit of friends where on the other hand we have ones that hang round in peer pressured groups of 7 or more who find it necessary to belittle anyone around them that are different in the slightest way.

This is based on what neighborhood they grew up in, how their parents allowed them to and such. If they were to keep them locked away in their house forced them to do work obviously it'll cause them to have better grades later on in life but it would damage their social prowess, or were they to allow their children to do what ever they want it a big risk on what attitude they would develop towards attitude whether it be positive or negative.

My question to you guys is, how would you raise you children?


Good question! My parenting approach would be, at the moment, watch over them and guide to the best of my ability, but allow them to make their own mistakes and learn from them. I believe every child rebels at some point in their life (no matter how they are raised) in their own way. So as a parent being there for them and loving them through that stage of their life is extra important.
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hmm ^ - ^ have always want kids!! love children and wanna have about 3 when am old enough!! i would teach them about honesty, and kindness and to always have an open mind, respect and accept. and raise them with a lot of warmth and love!! would like them to also b open about their thoughts!! ideally, would like to keep them safe at home also for them to study more for good grades and also so they can enjoy their innocence and naivety as long as they can instead of letting them out into the real world where they see and experience certain things whether for the better or worse, but ik that they need to experience those things also in order to grow and become their own person.

so is important to find the middle ground so they not out there too much or too little. which is the hard part > ~ <! and also making sure there is a confidence between u and ur child, that ur child feels secure enough to come to talk to u whenever they have a problem or something on their minds, that they can rely on u, that is very important. i would also like to play with them a lot but at the same time be strict when needed to not let them get into bad habits and stuff!! love playing with kids!! i'd make as much time for them as can!! knowing me i would prob baby them too much ; ~ ; cuz i like to baby ppl. that is a problem!
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I think the most important is to be involved with their life. I want to be involved with my kids as much as possible. I want to know who their friends are, where they're going, what time they'll be back, what type of issues and problems they're going through. I want them to rely on me as much as possible. But not in a suffocating way of course. The last thing I would want is for them to rely on their friends instead of me. I want them to come to me with open arms instead of hiding things from me and trying to get as far away from their family as possible.

I think the best way to do this is by establishing a good relationship with them when they're young and nourish it from there. I want to be a "soccer mom". I want family to be very important for them. I would make sure my kids are balanced with being social and having good grades. If they need a tutor, I'd be sure to get them one instead of brushing it off when the teach tells me they're lacking in certain areas. If they're shy, I would make sure to get them involved with team sports to get them more social. I just need to make sure my kids are my first priority and not lose sight of that.

With my family I know that's the biggest problem we have. My parent's sort of neglected us once we hit a certain age. We just don't have a close bond like I see with other families who are involved with their children. I've always been jealous of that. I want to make sure my kids have my attention. Giving them the things I never had, but not spoil them. Making sure they're extremely happy by giving them freedom to explore who they are but setting rules and boundaries as well. To do this, I need to know my kids real well. So I need to make sure we have a great relationship.
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I would raise them with old games like I had to do and ,make them watch the old anime I had to watch.
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I don't want any kids.

But....I'd raise them in no particular special way other than preventing them from accessing the internet (yes, no smart phones, too) until they get into high school or later. It'll surely force them to develop better social skills, as they will need to actually interact with people to convey anything.
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While parenting style does play a part in how children behave there are also simple personality difference that also account for the behavior you are describing. Even if a child is raised in a good home with loving evolved parents it doesn't mean that they won't be a problem child. At a certain age everyone becomes reasonable for their own behavior and actions, and it is unfair to put all the blame on the parents.

My parents set boundaries for me and my brother letting us know what was and wasn't ok, but they also let us develop the way we wanted to. My brother and I both did well in school, were polite and well spoken, and independent (i.e., didn't give into peer pressure). Now some may say this was purely a product of our upbringing, but I don't think that was it. We both just happened to have very similar personalities types that are characterized by a lust for knowledge, quest for academic excellence, being calm and reserved, and generally not giving a crap what anyone else thinks about us. I have had friends that rebelled against good parents and an idealist home life, and friends with terrible parents and home life that were saints. In all cases the main reason for their behavior was there personality or temperament type.

But getting back to your question I would raise my kids the way my parents raised me and hope that they turn out alright. Regardless of what happens to my hypothetical kids I will still love them and give them my help and support even if they don't turn out quite like I had hoped.
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i love kids XD
not sure how good i'd raise them ... but i want to be a hands on mom if ever
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I'm good with kids and I got a niece/god daughter who I watch over everyday so I'm steadily learning from my sisters experience of how to be a good parent. I would personally just keep an eye on them, let them learn from their mistakes but always help them along the way. I'd also set some rules for them, be strict but understandable at the same time, give them a certain amount of respect but also have them be constantly reminder that I'm the parent. I'd also push them to do some extracurriculear activites when their kids since I didn't have the oppurtunity when I was one. Also since I'm pretty tech savy, I'd restrict what they can or can't do with their computers (they wont have cellphones until a certain age, and even then they wont be as advanced as smartphones). Also I would pretty much let them play whatever they want mature wise as long as I"m playing with them so I can talk to them about why something in this game is wrong and why they should never do it. I think I'd make a good dad since I've never really had one myself.
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I would teach my kids about the world and different cultures, so they won't grow up and become a horrible racist. I probably won't have the energy to be a tiger mum so my kids can have a normal childhood.

Having said that I will make sure my kids are bilingual like me because one language is not enough to go around the world.
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