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Posted 10/31/13 , edited 10/31/13
I would raise my children with a lot of love, patience and attention.

Kids are like sponges, they will absorb everything they see or hear so, as a mother, my duty is to set a good example in front of my kids because that will develop their personalities and minds.

Kids don't start to really understand between good and bad until they're 5, that's why we shouldn't just yell or hit the kid for something wrong they did because they will not understand and this will cause them to misbehave worse. Before admonishing a kid, you have to tell them beforehand why the things they did are wrong and admonish them afterwards. in that way, they will know *why* you are mad at them and they will try not to do it again, and you repeat the same procedure but NEVER never never yell at the kid and never never admonish them while you are angry, try to do it when you're calm so your kid will not get afraid of you or feel like you hate them. Teach them to respect you, not to be afraid of you. Patience is very important/the main key when raising them.

As for schooling, a dedicated parent can start introducing their kids to new things at age 3, the younger they start leaning new things the better. Everything in moderation, not all should be just study and not all should be just play. This is how your kids will become good students AND have many friends. It is not about telling your kid "go do your homework", it is about *being* with them, helping them and explaining them.

Unfortunately, many people are not good parents since they don't give them attention, they are not there always with their kids to teach them, and no matter how bad the neighborhood or school is, everything starts with the parents. If they are good parents, the kids will be good kids.

Being a parent is not easy, so be careful you *teens* out there, we are in the 21st century, there are many ways to not get pregnant if you don't want or are not ready for kids. It is like a job, the best you are at your job, the best the outcome will be.
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I wouldn't keep my sanity for very long since I don't like kids much so I'm never having any. I have very little patience for loud things. And besides, kids are expensive and since I don't make a lot of money, I couldn't afford one anyway.
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Posted 11/2/13
with an iron fist lol
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I'd probably spoil my kids to tell the truth. I'd spend a lot of time with them, and try to find at least one simple thing they would love to do be it soccer, football, hunting fishing baseball, basketball or even playing chess or reading a book outside. I really love serene weather and nice warm sunny days where you could lay on the grass whole day without a worry and just enjoying it all. I'd really like to teach my kids that. To find that inner peace. It's important to have a place like that to go to. I'd also teach them to be kind, and respect their elders and to smile at strangers. You never know when you might make someone else's day. More than anything I'd like to help them find their passion, something to drive them on, as early as possible, so that they know what to strive for.
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Posted 11/2/13 , edited 11/2/13
I have 2. One is 15 and the other is 12. Listen and watch them carefully, try not to interfere. Swoop in only when they are in grave danger. Let them get hurt. Enforce strict rules when they are young and slowly relax them as they hit 7 to 8 years old, then let them know that you have high expectations from 13 on. At 8 start household chores with allowance, enforce this strictly. Everyday ask them about homework, and check all math everyday. Restrict TV time to 2 hours and computer time to 2 hours on weekdays. Do family hiking or activity every week for at least 4 hours. Allow them to read, listen and watch whatever they want within reason. Buy them whatever book, musical instrument or art supplies they want, whenever they want (whew the trumpet was expensive, but boy can that boy play!) Any cheating, lying or stealing gets crushing punishment. All friends must meet me, and I their parents. Pat them on the shoulder and hug as often as possible. Speak to them like adults, don't use baby talk. Control your temper! When meting out punishment, explain two times why they are being punished, deliver the punishment or terms of punishment, then explain once more the reason they are getting punished, make sure punishment is reasonable and consistent! Never counter your partner in front of the kids, whether you agree or not. A united front forces the kids to get closer to each other due to a common foe, the parents. It also forms a single message from the authority figures. Remember they are people who evolve and change over time. It can be very difficult to raise a teen, it won't be anything like you think it will.
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I think I would not let them have computers (except for typing out and printing things they have hand-written) until they hit 15 or 16. Raise them to read poetry outside with no shoes. I would make music and art a part of daily life--family drawing/painting time, family music time, family reading time...I would try to get them cooking for themselves as quickly as possible, and I would try to teach them basic skills: how to do laundry, how to wash dishes, how to sew, how to woodwork, how to work with metal, how to fix cars...how to set up tents and clean fish. I think I would feed them food with bones in it so they didn't grow up forgetting where meat comes from. My two-year-old niece cracks open bones for the marrow. I wish I grew up doing that.
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Posted 11/2/13
I'd let them be kids.

Excessive mollycoddling is a bad trend. But I would insist on helping them learn to read early, and I'd encourage them to read often with praise, and toy-rewards, and any other kind of bait available. Education is the key which unlocks all doors.
Posted 11/2/13
Create a stable environment.
- No moving.
- (If single) No dating.
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How would I raise my children? I raised them already... I raised them to discard the box.
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Posted 11/2/13
Pretty much in this order of importance, more or less, I'd say I'd do the following ..

1 - Kill any doctor who attempts to remove their tonsils. Brutally.

2 - Force them to brush their teeth.

3 - Break their things if they challenge my rule.

4 - Tough love about 95% of the time, with 5% of the time including crying and/or exceptional circumstances, assuming "soft" love becomes necessary.

5 - Apply pressure more and more as time goes on that if they in fact do poorly in school, there's no reason for me to let them keep living in my house past 18. If they apply themselves, regardless of how terrible they are at math, they can stay through college/university.

6 - Explain to son what a condom is at the tender age of 9. Explain what a double-barreled shotgun stuck up your boyfriend's ass is for a daughter at the tender age of 9.

7 - Censorship is a bad word.

8 - Reward them when they actually apply themselves. (See point 5)

9 - Limit intake of monosaccharides, transfats, and anything grown by Monsanto. Every other article of food is fair-game.

10 - Play videogames and/or watch cartoons with them.
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Posted 11/2/13 , edited 11/2/13
I will raise my kids using the carrot & stick method.
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