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What is love
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OMG, I am not going to lie, that was beautiful!
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All I could think of when i say the title to the thread....

Posted 7/30/13
To me love isn't any one emotion, but a shorthand description of multiples happening at once.
This makes it easily confused with a single strong emotion in a group of weaker ones and vice versa.
In other words.
Love is a four letter word.
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YukariChan8 wrote:



OMG, I am not going to lie, that was beautiful!


it ish XD
funny how this kid can define love better than i do lol
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An illusion
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DetectiveAlex wrote:

WHAT IS LOVE
BABY DONT HURT ME
DONT HURT ME
NO MORE


OMG! This is exactly what I was gonna say when I saw the topic.....
Posted 7/30/13 , edited 7/30/13
Don't take anything I say personally or apply it to yourself.


But I think love is a sugar-coated term for one's ego and/or sexual attraction.
Like for example, when Person A is in love with Person B, and Person B doesn't give Person A the attention Person A desired, so Person A gets jealous and angry...
...I believe this is due to one's ego rather than because of the existence of the feeling of "love", that person's ego is telling them that they should be much more important than anyone else in Person B's mind.

This could also be applied to familial love. Between a child and a parent. A second child is born, parents devote more attention to 2nd child, first child gets jealous.

So really, this kind of thing makes me wonder if "love" really exists, or it's just a sugarcoated term for something else.



Like, if I fell in love with a man and I couldn't wait each day to see him, is it really the genuine feeling of "love", or is it my ego telling me that I deserve that person's attention?

And if "love" really exists, why can't we choose who we want to love? Why is there a sexual orientation barrier? (or even a physical appearance barrier, how everyone has a type they're attracted to).

(Sorry if I'm reading too much into this, I'm trying to figure out myself, this probably doesn't even apply to everyone, it's all from my point of view and my personality).
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Don't take anything I say personally or apply it to yourself.


But I think love is a sugar-coated term for one's ego and/or sexual attraction.
Like for example, when Person A is in love with Person B, and Person B doesn't give Person A the attention Person A desired, so Person A gets jealous and angry...
...I believe this is due to one's ego rather than because of the existence of the feeling of "love", that person's ego is telling them that they should be much more important than anyone else in Person B's mind.

This could also be applied to familial love. Between a child and a parent. A second child is born, parents devote more attention to 2nd child, first child gets jealous.

So really, this kind of thing makes me wonder if "love" really exists, or it's just a sugarcoated term for something else.



Like, if I fell in love with a man and I couldn't wait each day to see him, is it really the genuine feeling of "love", or is it my ego telling me that I deserve that person's attention?

And if "love" really exists, why can't we choose who we want to love? Why is there a sexual orientation barrier? (or even a physical appearance barrier, how everyone has a type they're attracted to).

(Sorry if I'm reading too much into this, I'm trying to figure out myself, this probably doesn't even apply to everyone, it's all from my point of view and my personality).


I don't think you're reading too much into it, your reasoning is very logical :)
I, personally, don't believe in love......

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GayAsianBoy wrote:

Don't take anything I say personally or apply it to yourself.


But I think love is a sugar-coated term for one's ego and/or sexual attraction.
Like for example, when Person A is in love with Person B, and Person B doesn't give Person A the attention Person A desired, so Person A gets jealous and angry...
...I believe this is due to one's ego rather than because of the existence of the feeling of "love", that person's ego is telling them that they should be much more important than anyone else in Person B's mind.

This could also be applied to familial love. Between a child and a parent. A second child is born, parents devote more attention to 2nd child, first child gets jealous.

So really, this kind of thing makes me wonder if "love" really exists, or it's just a sugarcoated term for something else.



Like, if I fell in love with a man and I couldn't wait each day to see him, is it really the genuine feeling of "love", or is it my ego telling me that I deserve that person's attention?

And if "love" really exists, why can't we choose who we want to love? Why is there a sexual orientation barrier? (or even a physical appearance barrier, how everyone has a type they're attracted to).

(Sorry if I'm reading too much into this, I'm trying to figure out myself, this probably doesn't even apply to everyone, it's all from my point of view and my personality).


As far as jealousy is concerned, I'd label it as one of the symptoms of love, rather than the entire definition. Also, it seems to me that many of the most confident people rarely develop crushes, whereas those who are quiet and unsocial often do, so I would definitely question whether ego is really a factor, though that's largely me arguing semantics on your particular choice of word - if for example you described it as a strong desire for attention rather than the belief that one deserves that attention, then I would find it more believable.

It's true that love in its romantic form is limited by one's sexual preferences, so sexual attraction is surely a factor in it, but it's not as if one falls in love with everyone one considers attractive. I find it entertaining to think of love as a sort of 'talent scouting': when you meet someone who you'd like to have as a 'co-star', you fall in love with them. Compatability is the biggest element.

Finally, I find myself wholeheartedly agreeing with sir_jamesalot about love being an assortment of things rather than just one. It's a complicated creature than may or may not contain a number of different elements in each of its manifestations, which is what makes discussions like this possible and interesting.
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DetectiveAlex wrote:

WHAT IS LOVE
BABY DONT HURT ME
DONT HURT ME
NO MORE


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Love is a sorry excuse for an excuse.
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Posted 7/30/13

Bavalt wrote:
As far as jealousy is concerned, I'd label it as one of the symptoms of love, rather than the entire definition. Also, it seems to me that many of the most confident people rarely develop crushes, whereas those who are quiet and unsocial often do, so I would definitely question whether ego is really a factor, though that's largely me arguing semantics on your particular choice of word - if for example you described it as a strong desire for attention rather than the belief that one deserves that attention, then I would find it more believable.

It's true that love in its romantic form is limited by one's sexual preferences, so sexual attraction is surely a factor in it, but it's not as if one falls in love with everyone one considers attractive. I find it entertaining to think of love as a sort of 'talent scouting': when you meet someone who you'd like to have as a 'co-star', you fall in love with them. Compatability is the biggest element.

Finally, I find myself wholeheartedly agreeing with sir_jamesalot about love being an assortment of things rather than just one. It's a complicated creature than may or may not contain a number of different elements in each of its manifestations, which is what makes discussions like this possible and interesting.


Jealousy is just one example I used as justification for me saying that love is a sugarcoated term for "ego".

I can bring other examples into this, for example I often hear men complaining about how women only go for the bad guys, they would ask why, and some people would respond, "Because the women want know that they have the ability to change the guy they are with". If this statement is indeed true for some women, then I can't help but think that this is due to that woman's ego.

It could also be said for men as well. I often hear about how men often like to chase women they cannot get, but once they get her, they stop having the original interest.


Of course the above statements are derived from what I read from other people's comments, and I used those comments to further analyse the philosophy behind love.

There are so many other cases relating to ego, it can be said that even in the 21st century, people still marry for money and social status... can you really call that "love"? even though the people marrying claim they "love" each other.

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Yes, it's about compatibility, but it's also about whether two people can accept each other or not.
Body language, for example, can play a huge factor in deciding whether two people can fall in love or not. The way a person behaves can affect one's decision. Or even cultural backgrounds and custom.

I'm going off on a tangent...



...anyway my point is, I think that a person can only love another if that other person satisfies their criteria in some way, and that these criteria are formed from one's ego.
In other words, love is a mutual contract that is about satisfying one another's ego.
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What is love
Oh, baby don't hurt me
Don't hurt me no more
What is love
Yeah
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