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That poem is wonderful.

I hope alot of parents watch it. Nothing can completely stop the phenomenon of human nature that is bullying, and nothing can completely protect kids from the pain of being bullied. However, I believe the best countermeasure is parents who let their child know they are loved, remain consistently interested in their children's lives, and take their kid's fears and pain seriously. 'Cause yeah...that "sticks and stones" stuff is B.S.
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YOU LIE!!!!

KiteCross wrote:

"Yep bullying (concept) is a way of life, can't change it, can't fight it, just accept it."


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Saw that months ago

If you want more like that look up TED they often do talks like this which are really inspiring,

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sa1iS1MqUy4


That's the original video such a good speech.
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http://www.ted.com/

Also that's the main website, there is a lot of talks like this, about different things really makes you think.
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Doryphoros wrote:

YOU LIE!!!!

KiteCross wrote:

"Yep bullying (concept) is a way of life, can't change it, can't fight it, just accept it."




Does it still happen/occur?
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People peck each other on the head for the same reason chickens do.

....bread them and deep fry
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What's so great about the misery of others? I don't understand what is so entertaining about this clip. It is the responsibility of adults to teach children how to behave, and when children behave badly over long periods of time it is because of the implicit approval of adults. I'm a little creeped out by the number of people who enjoy listening to this poem.
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Because a guy who got drove to school in an expensive uniform and was fast enough to come up with quick replies knows all about sticking up for himself. What if you're physically weak or don't want to hurt people, does that make you a "looser"? Not everyone had the good fortune to be blessed with a quick mind as a child - some adults don't even have one. Did you have unanimous dislike from everyone in the school? It doesn't sound like it, you seem like the kind of guy who was pretty popular anyway.

What I'm saying is it isn't so cut-and-dry. Not everyone is in a position to feel like they can defend themselves emotionally, mentally or physically. It doesn't mean they're a loser, nor does it mean they shouldn't feel the way they do for their situation. Having as strong a will as you do is a rare thing - useful, but rare. Consider the feelings of someone who was gotten at by everyone who could take a stab. It ain't fun, dude.
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I used to get bullied quite a lot and I didn't really do anything about it, while I do like to believe I am over it now I think my personality changed a lot from what it used to be.
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Because a guy who got drove to school in an expensive uniform and was fast enough to come up with quick replies knows all about sticking up for himself. What if you're physically weak or don't want to hurt people, does that make you a "looser"? Not everyone had the good fortune to be blessed with a quick mind as a child - some adults don't even have one. Did you have unanimous dislike from everyone in the school? It doesn't sound like it, you seem like the kind of guy who was pretty popular anyway.

What I'm saying is it isn't so cut-and-dry. Not everyone is in a position to feel like they can defend themselves emotionally, mentally or physically. It doesn't mean they're a loser, nor does it mean they shouldn't feel the way they do for their situation. Having as strong a will as you do is a rare thing - useful, but rare. Consider the feelings of someone who was gotten at by everyone who could take a stab. It ain't fun, dude.


I agree with you and i also said that i didn't like bully's.
I just see it pretty white and black you are not quick enough with your mind you can not stand up for you because you are scared and you are not physically strong enough to defend yourself well hell maybe its time to work on yourself and fix something so you are not such a huge target?

Bullies are sad people and bullying is wrong but if you can not do anything for yourself well that's just as wrong in my book.
Its like in a pack of animals the weakest one eats last if it gets something at all good for us we are not mere beast we have a mind to use so do it.

After all what good does crying about it do you?
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im extremely short and not in the slightest bit athletic. i was, and still am extremely frail by comparison to males my age. i wasnt the smartest kid either, but i had the right attitude. when kids tried to bully me, i would make fun of myself. i learned not to take anything they said seriously and by topping any insults they could come up with, they realized they couldnt hurt me.

i always had a positive attitude and was always making people laugh and doing anything i could to help others. in high school i belonged to no particular group and did my best to get along with everyone.

however, not everyone is like me. they dont have the belief in themselves to pick themselves up and carry on. this video was an amazing in the emotion and message it conveyed. it made me realize how fortunate i am that i had the mentality that i did. i could have just as easily gotten depressed and grown up with self confidence and image issues.

the poem was sad, but beautiful. if even one kid who sees it can be more self confident and brush off the shit people do or say to them, then its a success in a very big way.
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Doomedfox wrote:

I agree with you and i also said that i didn't like bully's.
I just see it pretty white and black you are not quick enough with your mind you can not stand up for you because you are scared and you are not physically strong enough to defend yourself well hell maybe its time to work on yourself and fix something so you are not such a huge target?

Bullies are sad people and bullying is wrong but if you can not do anything for yourself well that's just as wrong in my book.
Its like in a pack of animals the weakest one eats last if it gets something at all good for us we are not mere beast we have a mind to use so do it.

After all what good does crying about it do you?


Again, how easy do you think it is for everyone to fix the things about themselves that make them a target? What if it's something that's an intrinsic part of their personality? You do know some people are bullied purely because of who they are, right? Not just because of what they look like or what they act like, but a simple fact about their personality - where do you think the insult (albeit childish) "four-eyes" comes from? Ah yes excuse me while an eight year old kid gets laser eye surgery. I'll remember to tell the next gay kid or kid with autism that they're just as bad as their bully for not being able to do anything about it.

This is not black and white. Hell, crying isn't even the first reaction of every victim of bullying. Some don't express it at all and repress it, and if you know anything about psychology you already know that repression can lead to some pretty bad physical issues. Others end up twisting into people they wouldn't have been had they gotten some kind of support.

Sure, if a kid is in every position to stick up for themself, it might do them good to give it a go. Even then, there are plenty of people who could who simply don't feel they have the inner strength to, and that is something that's hard to build.
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Broshmosh wrote:


Doomedfox wrote:

I agree with you and i also said that i didn't like bully's.
I just see it pretty white and black you are not quick enough with your mind you can not stand up for you because you are scared and you are not physically strong enough to defend yourself well hell maybe its time to work on yourself and fix something so you are not such a huge target?

Bullies are sad people and bullying is wrong but if you can not do anything for yourself well that's just as wrong in my book.
Its like in a pack of animals the weakest one eats last if it gets something at all good for us we are not mere beast we have a mind to use so do it.

After all what good does crying about it do you?


Again, how easy do you think it is for everyone to fix the things about themselves that make them a target? What if it's something that's an intrinsic part of their personality? You do know some people are bullied purely because of who they are, right? Not just because of what they look like or what they act like, but a simple fact about their personality - where do you think the insult (albeit childish) "four-eyes" comes from? Ah yes excuse me while an eight year old kid gets laser eye surgery.

I'll remember to tell the next gay kid or kid with autism that they're just as bad as their bully for not being able to do anything about it.

This is not black and white.



You are missing the point.
I never said they should change what makes them a target i said if they don't have the means to respond in any way they need to change that.
So yeah a kid gets bullied for wearing glasses all he has to do is not being the easiest target.
Bullies bully to distract from there own flaws they don't want to get reminded of them while bulling do that often enough and they will move on.
However feeling sry for yourself is not gonna fix anything.

edit: I agree on the support point tho after all a bully can only be a bully if the others are allowing it.(rest of class for example)
I know i sound harsh but thats just the reality and its not like it will stop in school either so as sooner people stand up for themselves the better.
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Very powerful and moving. I was bullied myself elementary through middle school. That is until I put my primary antagonist out of school for a week. He still bore the marks when he came back. Needless to say I was not bullied after that all the way through high school. I've found the the carrot is ineffective the stick works much better. As a general rule I try to avoid conflict and will do all I can to avoid it. However if it seeks me I'll not shy from it. Beware of entrance to a quarrel, but being in, Bear’t that the opposed may beware of thee. --Hamlet Act 1 Scene 3 55-81.
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I liked the beginning, but then it started to suck after it became whiny. Anyone can whine, just go to your nearest asian blog site http://people.csail.mit.edu/pgbovine/asianparents/pg_viewtopic.php?id=24
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