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when I remember to just be myself, things seem to work better than I could expect, right?



I'll keep it short.

tonight I set out to meet w/a certain someone I have a special interest in. despite prior interactions, I headed out tonight w/no assumptions or expectations(if you will). I was me as if I was me w/my closest friends and conversations, interactions, etc. and it couldn't have gone better, honestly.




in life, how many times have you found yourself over-thinking/exhausting yourself over, etc. about something just to come and find that being yourself is almost always the best solution in these kinds of cases??

anyone got some stories to share?


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If you can better yourself, than obviously that's the way to go.
I'm talking about a moment, not a lifetime.
seems a lot of people missed that I was talking about a short frame of time in my daily life.
(just like the Aladdin photo: that was just a moment when he was talking to Jasmine and Robin Williams pulled him aside to say, "Bee yourself." Aladdin was bettering himself all the time. I mean he went from a street rat to royalty.)
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That was deep.
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touching hope all is well
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Besides never stressing over it, I have went through the same experience. Life did become a bit easier for me when I no longer imitated another persona, but began being myself. I did not figure that out though until middle school sadly.
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I'm always myself. I see no point in trying to fake who I am just to get someone to like me. If there is any need for me not to be myself, there is no need for me to be in that relationship to begin with. I want someone to like me for the person I truly am, and not for some made up persona that might end up greatly hurting someone in the end.
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you gotta be fake man no one likes a regular joe when they want astronaut, cowboy, banker i mean nothing beast an astronaut lol
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Don`t believe in others, the only person you will believe is only yourself.

So that`s why i believe myself.
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Subconsciously I am always myself. Moments of insecurity can't be helped, but it's no fun at all if one is overconfident of himself too. Lol
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Nice sentiment, but it becomes problematic when you don't know who you are in the first place. Even assuming you do know exactly what it is that makes you who you are, does that mean you should never try to change yourself? Ultimately, if you want to make any "improvements" to yourself, you need to be a different person. Rather, it might be better to say that you want to stop being yourself, and start being a better version of yourself.

At any rate, rather than suggest you be yourself (I'm not convinced that's a good thing, especially if you're a serial killer), I'd suggest you just act in a way that makes you satisfied and/or happy with yourself (although I don't quite like that advice either, but as far as generalized blanket statements go, it's pretty decent). It may not be "who you are," but if "who you are" sucks anyway, then trying to become someone better than "who you are" and failing leaves you in the same position.

Basically, I'm not sure I buy into the advice to "just be yourself." It's useless if you don't know who you are, and worse than useless if the person you are is unsatisfactory. Although I understand that the point of the advice is to not try to say and act in ways that are contrary to your beliefs/feelings/thoughts/etc. Fine, but I'm going to go ahead and keep trying to be better than myself... it makes a bit more sense to me. Rather, the advice to "be yourself" only ever makes sense if you're perfect, and I'm not convinced anyone like this exists.
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Easy said then done.
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Rather, it might be better to say that you want to stop being yourself, and start being a better version of yourself.


+1 . *bows*
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I usually myself all the time, though I always strive to better myself when it comes toward interacting with others socially.
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I love this quote from Ashley purdy from black veil brides!
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I personally am of the belief that social masks are a natural and normal part of everyone. Who's to say that the 'you' you are when nobody's looking is any more 'real' than the person that you present to others? It's still you either way, and these masks result from your own intentions and thought processes, just applied to a different situation. Everyone is multifaceted, and it helps society function when people act in different ways around different people. There's no reason to think that having multiple personas makes you in any way fake.

That's not, of course, to say that you should force yourself to go against your own beliefs or feelings in order to accommodate those of someone opposed to them, nor should you try to act exceedingly confident and aggressive in an effort to cover low self-esteem. While acting differently is fine, the moment it becomes a chore for you, you're saving yourself a lot of trouble in the long run by calming down and letting your personality flow out more naturally.

If it bothers you to act in a certain way, then don't. Any other 'persona' you take on, though, is just another facet of your identity.



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Similarly, while I agree with the sentiment that it's best to try to improve yourself, I disagree with how you present it here, for the simple fact that by making an effort to improve yourself, that desire becomes part of your identity. 'Self' is never a static thing. Everyone evolves, and being proactive about the way in which your evolution progresses is just as much part of your personality as anything else. By striving to be a better 'you', you are in no way denying the current 'you'. If you did, then that desire to improve would disappear. Rather, you're putting your personality itself to use as a factor in controlling its own development. The perception that you need to deny your current self to become better is practical, but false.
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