How long should you wait before starting to date again
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Posted 8/10/13
My wife and I are separated and Divorced. We said goodbye on good terms knowing full well that we would both eventually start seeing others. I'm not sure how long I should wait before starting to date again. It's been about 3 months since the divorce went through and life's getting dull. Too much work. Not enough fun.
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Posted 8/10/13

3 months.
If you said goodbye on good terms,
then you shouldn't have much problem moving on.


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Posted 8/10/13

chrome_mist wrote:


3 months.
If you said goodbye on good terms,
then you shouldn't have much problem moving on.




This, pretty much. An amicable split does wonders for the awkward post-relationship doubts. When my girlfriend at the time and I split up, because it was a mutual decision and we remained friends, I had no problem with her finding another boyfriend within a couple weeks,and I'm quite happy for them now. I don't think you need to worry too much about how your ex-wife feels; if you yourself are comfortable with looking for someone new, then there's no reason to hesitate. She'll probably understand and give her blessing.
Posted 8/10/13
Half an hour.
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Posted 8/10/13
Until you feel you're ok, that you don't think in her at all (in a romantic way or something like that).

That's what I feel...
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Posted 8/10/13
I agree with the above, if you need a time limit to go by then you're probably either still not ready or not sure if you are and just want a reason to be ready. When you're ready, you will feel it or just know you are. I guess it also depends if you meet the right person too.
Posted 8/10/13
Typically, I would say however many years you were together give it that many months before dating again, with a few exceptions of course. If you separated amicably though, then just start dating whenever you feel ready for it.
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It's really up to you but personally i would take some time to enjoy being single. If you go back too soon you will be doing it for all the wrong reasons and it's best to give you some time to reflect and learn more about yourself through ending a long term relationship. After that you can really think about what you want in future and go search for it.

On average i guess i'd say give it a few months but however long it takes. Just enjoy life and know you don't have to justify your entire existence on being in a relationship.
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Posted 8/10/13
I still think of her from time to time. I wonder if she's doing alright and how our puppy is. I just didn't want to spend all weekend in my head thinking about it so I thought I'd get some different perspective. I don't think of her romantically anymore.
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I'm really comfortable with who I am. I learned a lot about myself as well. I'm not looking for something serious. Just someone to go out to concerts, dinner, movies. Things that sometimes you can't do with friends. Obviously there is the possibility of more. Sometimes the heart wants what the heart wants but I will be very forward about my intentions thanks for the perspective! I feel much better . Thank you!
Posted 8/10/13
It totally depends on how you feel and whether you have been able to move from your previous relationship. On average I hear that people wait at least three to four months before dating again.
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Posted 8/10/13
im not sure but i do think that if you find a new lover right after you dumped her, you never loved her.. if you loved her it wouldn't be easy to let her go and you would be thinking about her again and again until quite a kot of time passes... not sure if it's 3 months but as long as it's not too soon
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Posted 8/10/13
Whenever you feel you're ready. I know that seems like a cop out answer, but it's my genuine opinion.
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Posted 8/10/13

Mokichii wrote:

My wife and I are separated and Divorced. We said goodbye on good terms knowing full well that we would both eventually start seeing others. I'm not sure how long I should wait before starting to date again. It's been about 3 months since the divorce went through and life's getting dull. Too much work. Not enough fun.


I'm sorry that you got a divorce, but as this is phrased, it's a rather personal thread. Could you perhaps restart it as a more generic question about when to start dating again if you want more answers? As is, I have to close it.
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